Acquiring birth information.

[Shokk]

I'm curious as to how most go about getting a precise birth time and place for those that they are in a relationship with.
"Hey babe, just wondering, what were the longitudinal coordinates for your place of birth?"

I can't seem to think of a non-crazy way of finding these without prefacing it with the whole synastry thing, which may or may not lead certain people to view me as a loon.

Thoughts?

Also...First post, yeehaw.

 

[FleetingDasein]

Welcome Shokk!

I've had the same problem. It is a very awkward question. But I'd suggest just asking a bunch of questions in a row, the typical get to know each other questions. Just get the place, then look up the coordinates online.

As for the time, you can be like "Oh, I've heard people born at night tend to be night owls, what time were you born, honey-poo? That should at least give you an approximate.

You can always steal their birth certificate when they are not looking

If nothing works, just tell them the truth.

 

[waybread]

Hey, Shokk--welcome!

Well, I have heard of folks who were much more emotionally secure than I am, just outright tell their Person of Interest that they did astrology and would like their birth data. Simple as that. But not for me.

Getting a time is problematic. But you can generally ask a person you've gotten to know somewhat, "Where are you from originally?" Or ,"When is your birthday?" & then fish around for the age.

If your program goes by lat. & long., an atlas is a big help. On the other hand www.astrodienst.com has a free charts section where you just plug in the name of the location and it comes up with the coordinates. But just input the birth time as "unknown" so you don't come up with bogus houses, and recognize that the moon could move six degrees either way in a default 12:00 noon birth time.

I personally have a bit of an ethical qualm about doing a chart for someone who hasn't said they would like it done. You get such a glimpse into a person's soul, that it has to be treated with huge respect, IMO. Not everyone feels this way, obviously.

Hopefully the new object of inquiry will be fascinated by astrology.

 

[Kerrie]

lol, this reminds me when I was single. I would ask something like this...

"Hey whats your sign?", then I would say something like...
"My father/brother/etc was born in that *month* how cool is that, what date where you born?, Oh that is close" .

I would fit the "how old are you" in a different part of the converation...hehehehe

Too bad for me if they were lying about their age, which a couple had, bad men, lol.

The time and location, OMG, i rarely asked this, but when I did, I explained that I was interested in Astrology, and would only ask if I thought they would be cool with it.

 

[holly]

You can always wait for their birthday, and then during the celebration say, "So what time of day were you actually born?" Then make a joke that they're not really "35" or whatever until "7:42 pm". Everyone will think you're just being pedantic.

Another way is to lie and say you have a friend with the same birthday. "What a coincidence!" Then say, "Bob was born at 10:30am, what time were you born?"

 

[Mike H.]

This is an interesting thread.:33:

I check out as many people as I can, but like many of you I usually get their dates and times creatively and only share what I learn if someone is genuinely interested..

It's been my experience that most people are pretty sceptical about astrology, and if I think I can enlighten them by explaining past the cursory cheesy Sun Sign newspaper astrology they've formed their negative opinion with I will take the time to explain it. However, I'm a pretty good judge of who is open to learning and who isn't and I've become pretty selective about who I spend time sharing what I've learned with.

One of my favorite things to do with people I know are sceptics is look up their chart in advance--so if it ever does comes up I'm able to tell them something specific about themselves that they haven't shared or even necessarily made public--that usually intrigues them and makes them want to understand how I could have possibly known that.

 

[milkywaygirl]

I personally have a bit of an ethical qualm about doing a chart for someone who hasn't said they would like it done. You get such a glimpse into a person's soul, that it has to be treated with huge respect, IMO. Not everyone feels this way, obviously.

im with waybread on this one. i do not look at charts of people i know unless i let them know that is what i am doing and get their ok first (ok i admit i occasionally pull up solar charts just to get a grip with their energetic flow if i'm having issues relating to them, but I never coax birthtime/place info out of them surreptitiously). it is then their choice to ask me for info about it, or not, but i never volunteer info regarding what i have seen unless they request it. some people can get really upset when you start doing stuff like that.