waybread
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EJ53, thanks. I would normally do some of what Bob suggests. For sure, the sign on the 7th house and what's happening with its ruler. But in a heterosexual man's chart, Venus indicates what he looks for in a woman. In a heterosexual woman's chart, Mars indicates what she looks for in a man. In an older astrology, it was assumed that a woman couldn't express her own identity [as a housewife] so supposedly the sun showed the kind of husband she hoped to attract. Once in a great while, this still makes sense.
Bob's guideline about the sun's applying aspect is interesting, though. I've been married twice, both times in long-term marriages. It fits my ex really well, but not my husband now.
Saturnian, the DC doesn't necessarily mean that we will literally be attracted to someone with the sun or other prominent placements in that sign. It means we will be attracted to someone who seemingly embodies the qualities of that sign to us. For example, I have Pisces on my DC. My husband has no placements in Pisces. I would classify him as a "sensitive guy". And he does have sun square Neptune, with some of the issues that placement suggests. These are often ascribed to Pisces. If I look at the condition of my DC ruler [Neptune=modern, Jupiter=traditional] I have Neptune square Jupiter natally. This may relate to the fact that I married academics [Jupiter rules higher education.]
I would also analyze the two charts individually, to see what kind of person each of them is like as relationship material. If a man has an afflicted moon [Mom], for example, this might carry over into his adult relationships with women. If his chart suggests a rotten temper, this might suggest getting to know him better before making a commitment.
Once in a while, the synastry between two long-term married people looks not-so-good, but the midpoint composite chart shows a much better picture.
Bob's guideline about the sun's applying aspect is interesting, though. I've been married twice, both times in long-term marriages. It fits my ex really well, but not my husband now.
Saturnian, the DC doesn't necessarily mean that we will literally be attracted to someone with the sun or other prominent placements in that sign. It means we will be attracted to someone who seemingly embodies the qualities of that sign to us. For example, I have Pisces on my DC. My husband has no placements in Pisces. I would classify him as a "sensitive guy". And he does have sun square Neptune, with some of the issues that placement suggests. These are often ascribed to Pisces. If I look at the condition of my DC ruler [Neptune=modern, Jupiter=traditional] I have Neptune square Jupiter natally. This may relate to the fact that I married academics [Jupiter rules higher education.]
I would also analyze the two charts individually, to see what kind of person each of them is like as relationship material. If a man has an afflicted moon [Mom], for example, this might carry over into his adult relationships with women. If his chart suggests a rotten temper, this might suggest getting to know him better before making a commitment.
Once in a while, the synastry between two long-term married people looks not-so-good, but the midpoint composite chart shows a much better picture.
