Hi Leila,
I have Moon conjunct Saturn (in the second house) and my daughter has her Saturn in the fifth (conjunct Sun). She also has Mercury in the fifth.
I guess that it helps not to be too "short-sighted" and immediate when dealing with Saturn. I think it is an energy that concentrates on the big picture, so it might help to approach Saturn issues that way, too, otherwise we are just spooked.
My mom was somewhat distant and over-controlling, yes, but it all sprang from the fact that she is a very fearful and anxious person, and I could feel that even as a child, though she would never admit it. She considers me anxious, but at least I admit it, lol, and I have a different way of dealing with it. But we both have Moon conjunct Saturn in Virgo.
As greybeard says, we all have Saturn somewhere in our chart. It's possible that your daughter will experience Saturn primarily through you, but that does not make you a bad parent. It just means it will probably be mostly your job to teach her that kind of stuff.
For example, I used to be very close to my father. But he was a dreamer. I have a bundle chart kept together by Jupiter trine Neptune. kind of an "otherworldly" aspect. No idea where I would be without my Virgo Moon-Saturn. Sitting on a cloud, maybe? I remember a scene when my mom wanted me to help her with the washing up. And I replied "but we don't even know what the meaning of life is, how can you give a **** about washing up, or eating or such nitty-gritty stuff? We should sit down first, and try to figure out whether the world is real at all, maybe it's all an illusion". "oh I know what's real all right" - said my mother and splashed a glass of water onto my t-shirt. My mother had a very efficient way of helping me get a solid grasp of reality, and you bet I did not enjoy it at the time. But it worked, and it was necessary.
At first, I also got scared that my daughter has Saturn in the fifth. My husband and I are really not over-controlling, strict, or cold. We are bloody introverts, however, and my daughter has a gemini ascendant. I'm pretty sure she would love it if we were living with a travelling circus or in a gipsy camp. So she probably does feel deprived of all the noise and stuff extroverts enjoy. The most we can offer, however, is that she attends preschool, and that we have guests every now and then, and let her participate in programs for kids. On the positive side, however, she has a very rich imagination. She creates amazing things from scratch, and our house is filled with fairies, elves and such (she also has Cancer Moon).
I see kids her age who are totally dependent on being entertained.At preschool, the teacher keeps them busy, at home, it's the tv or other kids, etc. They are hardly aware that there exists an inner world. My daughter, however, knows this world very well.
Saturn, I think, is also about self-reliance at best, but at the minimum it is where we are challenged to be self-reliant. With Moon conjunct Saturn in the second, you can definitely say I rely on myself to decide what I value. With Saturn in the fifth, your daughter, because of all the kinds of experiences Saturn will bring, probably will have a unique self-expression. My daughter is only four, but I can already see it.
