I think sometimes people, especially us Cancers, forget the power of Cardinal Energy. I always think of a Cardinal, the bird, to remind myself. Cardinal Males are red: stark, bright, and resonate, kind of like Aries and Capricorn. Cardinal Females are a muted camel: harmonious, gentle, but still sharply unique. A lot like Cancer and Libra, I feel. This translates to how Cardinal people can be when fully expressing their Ego (and related) energies. We are hard to ignore, and oftentimes come across stronger than we may intend. Just like your story about the Trivia Night, we simply like to get things done, to see potentials come to fruition.

Also Emo,

I know how you feel about being a "thread" killer. I try to tell myself not to get too emotionally involved, and to move on. I've become less of a thread-kill as of late, but it definitely used to plague. When I took authority and control (Saturn) of my presence within groups (11th House), this lessened for me. Perhaps you should look to see what is going for your 11th House to help you understand a bit more. But, as you can see, you didn't kill this thread for me!

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Not a Cancer [besides my node ] I've been sensitive enough to be an honorary Cancer I hope lol
All air and Fire o.o And a couple Singletons , by aspect [only aspecting each other] and sign and element. Water & earth respectively.

XD Natally my 11th is empty Ruled by Saturn in placidus ^^ Progressed is the same..My Mc I guess has moved into Aqua..I see the Aries opp , the saturn & pluto in the 7th .6/12 intercepted...That's all I can see to look to for influences that would get me all loner like ..Besides being a progressed sun/merc Scorpio I haven't the slightest as to why some people like to be mean to nice people.I'm not exactly a ***** , even though I have my moments at times