Relationship Tips?

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I'm curious what anyone has to say about this chart:

Essentially, whether or not this relationship will go the distance, help me to grow, help her to grow, or just hinder both of us. There is quite a bit of distance, and I'm curious, before I invest more time, money, and emotions than I have.

Eseentially we get along great. There -are- some problems, but doesn't everyone have those? I'm curious whether the negatives outweigh the positives and what the positives and negatives exactly are.

Any advice, tips, suggestions or comments are welcome.

I forget what the green lines mean (conjunct?) but, it's kind of freaky that it looks like a bomb.

Also, her Mars/Venus both being Aquarius strikes me as odd, but not so odd, considering my descendant in Aquarius. Just, Gemini and Cancer are not anywhere near Aquarius, from what I know.

[GeraniumSA]

I'm concerned about a few things.

1)There are more negative than postive aspects.
2)You are not the same astrological generation--mid 70's vs 80's
3)There are no major positive relationship aspects--sun/sun, sun/moon, sun/asc, moon/moon, moon/saturn

There is a moon/saturn connection, but it is in a challenging aspect--
saturn 150 degrees moon

It looks like the main connection is though your work. It also looks like one plays the feminine role while one plays the masculine role--saturn/pluto connection and venus/mercury connection.

I would suggest you enjoy your excellent work partnership, but not expect it to develop further than that.

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Originally Posted by GeraniumSA

I'm concerned about a few things.

1)There are more negative than postive aspects.
2)You are not the same astrological generation--mid 70's vs 80's
3)There are no major positive relationship aspects--sun/sun, sun/moon, sun/asc, moon/moon, moon/saturn

There is a moon/saturn connection, but it is in a challenging aspect--
saturn 150 degrees moon

It looks like the main connection is though your work. It also looks like one plays the feminine role while one plays the masculine role--saturn/pluto connection and venus/mercury connection.

I would suggest you enjoy your excellent work partnership, but not expect it to develop further than that.

The actual generation is mid 80s late 80s.

But it's completely disheartening. There's no real 'work' partnership, but there's something to look forward to.

Care to discuss both the positive and negative aspects and explain the attraction?

Is this -that- horrible or is it actually 'workable'?

[flea]

Undo,

Her venus on your descendent would be a big attracter. her chart ruler is mercury and you have merc on your ascendent.

The big aspect is your sun/mars conj is opposite her saturn, which can result in restricting behaviour patterns. If you are very evolved psychologically emotionally and mentally, then saturn can create structure to enable more growth, but it is not common.

Her chiron is in cancer so I would imagine there is a big healing aspect, which you may be illuminating. Finding your psychological wounds can cause fear and can be very unsettling, just you being who you are can bring those fears to light in this relationship. Her north node conj mars is conj your jupiter, so you encourage her to be at her NN.

Relationships are incredibly complicated in real life as well as astrology and who is to say what is positive and what negative. The worst things in life can have increibly positive consequences.

Your intuition is important in working out how the astrology is actually working for you as there is a light and dark way of looking at all aspects.

Also have a look at Juno, you might find some connections there, to further explain the strong attraction.

Also your soul is looking for certain types of relationships to create specific learning and experinecing opportunities for you, so looking to see what your chart says in isolation regading your highest desires for relationship is illuminating.

Take what resonates and leave the rest.

Love Light Flea

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Originally Posted by flea

Undo,

Her venus on your descendent would be a big attracter. her chart ruler is mercury and you have merc on your ascendent.

The big aspect is your sun/mars conj is opposite her saturn, which can result in restricting behaviour patterns. If you are very evolved psychologically emotionally and mentally, then saturn can create structure to enable more growth, but it is not common.

Restricting behaviour patterns in which sense?
As for evolved psychologically, emotionally, and mentally, yes, and no. Evolved, yes. Capable of speaking of them, not at all.

Originally Posted by flea

Her chiron is in cancer so I would imagine there is a big healing aspect, which you may be illuminating. Finding your psychological wounds can cause fear and can be very unsettling, just you being who you are can bring those fears to light in this relationship. Her north node conj mars is conj your jupiter, so you encourage her to be at her NN.

Well, the funny thing is, she cracks the cancer shell pretty **** well without damaging the insides. She's able to open me up and get me to speak about my emotions which I -rarely- can do.

It seems as if every other Cancer-ish game I've played with other women, doesn't work with her. I don't even -try- to play those games anymore. I've no shell to hide in. It's kind of scary being so vulnerable. At least this is a comfortable vulnerability.

Ironically, she's horrible at expressing her emotions as well. Which is something I am attracted to at least in the sense of Air with some emotional water depth. For some reason, it intrigues me, and I want to see the bottom of that ocean.

Originally Posted by flea

Relationships are incredibly complicated in real life as well as astrology and who is to say what is positive and what negative. The worst things in life can have increibly positive consequences.

To be honest, relationships are completely complicated for me, period. They usually leave me dumbfounded, especially after an argument, I feel silly and weird, thinking "Why did I do that? Why did that bother me?"

Originally Posted by flea

Your intuition is important in working out how the astrology is actually working for you as there is a light and dark way of looking at all aspects.

Also have a look at Juno, you might find some connections there, to further explain the strong attraction.

I'll have to learn about Juno it seems.

Originally Posted by flea

Also your soul is looking for certain types of relationships to create specific learning and experinecing opportunities for you, so looking to see what your chart says in isolation regading your highest desires for relationship is illuminating.

Take what resonates and leave the rest.

Love Light Flea

I can see that. I am attracted to women who make my emotions go every which way. So far, we seem to be helping each other figure out what they want, what they want to do, obtaining their goals, and also helping with the emotions.

I do believe nothing in life is ever one-sided. You take the good with the bad and somehow manage to find more good in the bad than in the good.

Thanks a ton, Flea.

PS: How did you stumble onto the 'Flea' name? It reminds me of the Red Hot Chili Peppers.

If you want to see my chart:

[Looking to Jupiter]

2)You are not the same astrological generation--mid 70's vs 80's

(geranium)

Does this matter? Why is that a bad thing.....

[flowerchild]

I also see some more negatives.

Some of the negatives include:
Your moon opposing her neptune (maybe adding a little romance)
Your sun/mars opposing her saturn
Your neptune opposing her jupiter
Her mercury opposing your sun/moon/mars
Your mercury oppose her venus
Your saturn square her venus

Positive:
Her mercury is trine your mercury
Her mars conjuct your jupiter
Her mars trine your venus -I think this is supposed to be a good one.
(Also, you have natal venus trine jupiter - are you usually lucky in love?)
Her sun is sextile your venus
Her saturn is trine your moon
Her uranus trine your sun is not really positive.

She's able to open me up and get me to speak about my emotions which I -rarely- can do.

I think it's interesting that you mention that she seems to reach your emotions. I wonder if this comes from your mercury-mercury aspect. That you are able to talk about your emotions.

Her moon is near your venus, but not exact. Is her birth time accurate? If her moon were closer your venus that would be nice.