Confused about a Cancer male.

Libra84 · #1 12-26-2007, 04:58 AM

Well, I'm not sure where to start with this but I was in a relationship with a man who is a cancer born, July 8th, 1985 and I am a Libra-Sept 28th, 1984.

All in all this relationship has been up and down from the beginning. He says one thing but acts the opposite and he seems very unstable and emotional. I like to refer to him as the "waves" because his moods are constantly changing. He was away for several months and we were both looking forward to seeing one another(talking everyday, etc) A week and a bit before he came home for Christmas he stopped talking to me. I contacted him trying to get answers, but still no reply. He leaves again in a few days again and I have not heard from him. He is under stresses with family etc, but I am sick of making up excuses for this BIZARRE/immature behaviour. I'm beginning to think he has serious issues to just be so rude to go about ignoring me for no reason. I have been so understanding and calm throughout our relationship. Maybe too much. Anyways, what do you all think the chances are in him contacting me? and why is he acting this way!!!?

I'm very upset and heart broken...

Catatonia · #2 12-26-2007, 05:23 PM

We need his and your birth times and birth places too.

I used to know someone born June 30th, 1985. I think he has a Sun/Mars conjunction in Cancer, right?

Well, I think the issue here is that the Mars RX in Cancer is currently going over his Sun/Mars conjunction in Cancer. Basically, Mars severs. Mars' action is severing when it makes strong contacts to other planets. So, what's going on now is Mars is trying to sever a whole bunch of things. Whether any of this survives is up to him and how he handles the energy, but what's sure enough is that you've already answered your own question. He's being an immature little brat and you're making excuses for his irresponsible behavior. Stop it and move on. If he clicks, he'll contact you. If not, you're better off. You're doing all the work for him. Stop it. You're not his mommy. Mars goes stationary direct on January 30th-31st. You'll get your answer sometime around/after that timeframe if he doesn't contact you in December.

Catatonia

Libra84 · #3 12-26-2007, 06:51 PM

Thanks for the reply. I don't know his birth time but I do know mine. It was at 4:22pm. We were both born in Ottawa Ontario Canada. Thanks for being straight forward. I do realize I need to move on. Hearing it from other people helps even more though. I am new to this forum and still learning a LOT about astrology. I find it very intereresting what you have told me about the planets. Somewhat confusing, but like I said I'm learning!

I do believe that cancer is the most emotional sign because they are ruled by the moon and also because they are a water sign. I had a friend tell me that cancers are being affected the most with the changes from the magnetic north due to global warming. She said they are feeling these shifts more than any other astrological sign...

THANKS!

rahu · #4 12-26-2007, 08:08 PM

the composite chart has two contradictory aspects.
venus is square to saturn indicating a devoted stable relationship on the positive side.the venus/mars midpoint is square to uranus.this gives a intense emotional/sexual attraction but it is also associated with brief,intense relationships rather that committed relationships as uranus demands so much frredom that these relationships usually have to be "open" relationships to last.these two extremes seem to be a play in your relationship.there is a need for security and committment but then the need for freedom amd fear of committment sets in.
the venus/mercury midpoint conjunct the sun iondicates that this is a warm,humorous and sincere relationship.and the emotional/sexually attraction is more than just a momentary feeling.it could be that he can't handle the deep feelings of love between the two of you.
the moon/jupiter conjunction trine to juno are aspects of a steady realtionship but it remains to be seen if he can get past his insecurities.
rahu

Libra84 · #5 12-26-2007, 09:38 PM

It seems as though he is leaving tomorrow. No call from him or msg yet. Well.. I tried my hardest and it is up to him. In the mean time I'm trying to move on, but it's soooo hard to do with no answers. I feel like I don't have closure and it is unfair of him. If he loved me he would not make me feel so confused...

Your chart analysis is very accurate. Kinda creepy... Everything is true. I always thought he was scared to commit etc. One day he will speak of me moving there and the next day say something that makes me think differently. It's too bad the distance had to come between us with him landing his dream job across the country.

Catatonia · #6 12-26-2007, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Libra84

It seems as though he is leaving tomorrow. No call from him or msg yet. Well.. I tried my hardest and it is up to him. In the mean time I'm trying to move on, but it's soooo hard to do with no answers. I feel like I don't have closure and it is unfair of him. If he loved me he would not make me feel so confused...

If he leaves tomorrow without contacting you you HAVE your answer. Just because it isn't what you want, doesn't mean it's not the truth. He thinks he knows what's right for him, and if he leaves without contacting you then he probably thinks it's best that the relationship doesn't persue. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you, but it may mean that he has to devote himself to his job. Which leads me to another point...

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It's too bad the distance had to come between us with him landing his dream job across the country.

If it's his dream job and survival depends on him working, then you should understand that. Perhaps the relationship happening NOW isn't the best thing for either of you and he's trying to make that clear. Long distance isn't a great thing.