Why does this aspect seem so horrible?

[Chaotic_Crab]

Ok so I used cafe astrology to produce a synastry chart and one of the aspects was Mercury opposition neptune(correct me if I'm reading this wrong) The description read

"This relationship can only bring illusions, and therefore also disappointments will follow. These two people can never understand each other and if they insist on living together, it will be with lies and deception."

I mean it sounds really harsh but, anyone care to interpret or is this really what this opposition presents? Thanks in advance

[Bina]

a slightly different view..

from:
http://www.skyviewzone.com/lovematch...tryaspects.htm

Mercury opposition Neptune:
What does it mean to your relationship when your natal Mercury is in opposition to your partner’s Neptune? Something about the way your partner thinks is attractive yet unclear to you and you can’t quite put your finger on just what it is that seems to trouble you. This leads you to mistrust the validity of his/her opinions because they seem so different from your own and because of the way your partner's goes about trying to communicate. If your romantic partner's Mercury is in opposition to your Neptune, your partner finds you illusive, unsure of how you think or where you stand because his/her approach to thought and communication is so opposite to yours.


Imo, you need to look at the synastry as a whole and aspects in context of houses, signs and other connected aspects...

[Chaotic_Crab]

Oh wow! Well that point of view makes alot more sense and sounds closer to whats really going on in the relationship. Thanks for the fast reply, so when you say looking at it on a whole basis should I go through the chart and research each individual aspect ?

The site that you used, would you say its more accurate than cafe astrology or at least on some aspects (like the one in question )

[Bina]

You can check out these sites as well for synastry aspects:

http://astrology-numerology.com/synastryaspects.html

http://darkstarastrology.com/best-synastry-aspects/


Imo that particular interpretation you posted for your aspect was very negative, in my experience there are always different ways in which synastry aspects can play out, of course there are challenging aspects, but none which don't also have a positive potential.

A lot depends on other aspects between the charts and also, in your case, if there are any other aspects to each other's Mercury and Neptune.

Looking into which of the other person's houses your planets fall and vice versa is also helpful in understanding the relationship dynamic.

There is a brilliant book on synastry aspects called "Skymates":

http://www.amazon.com/Skymates-Love-...words=skymates

[astro11]

Mercury opposition Neptune in synastry/composite indicates the tendency to deliberately lie or mislead the other person. One or both people might feel they need to present a certain image to the other rather than just telling the truth. Straightforward communication is hard to get as one or both people are vague with each other. On the positive side, if both people are so inclined, spiritual/ mystical/ artistic topics can be discussed in great depth and detail.

Please do consider the chart as a whole, one aspect in isolation only tells a small part of the relationship dynamics.

[Chaotic_Crab]

Thank you bina and astro11 that is very useful information! As for the chart as a whole I still have somewhat mixed feelings about it as I read all the aspects. As for the houses and signs that each aspect is in. I have a difficult time sorting that out because the actual chart that pops up on cafe astrology (our combined chart rather) doesn't really tell me who's sign is who.
I guess Ill have to look more in depth at my partners chart but, im still pretty new to synastry. Is there any were I could post mine and my partners and have an astrologer point out anything I'm missing ? The sites that bina posted are great for getting a different spin on the aspects but I feel like I'm still missing some things. Thanks for the help guys!

[Bina]

You can upload both your birthcharts from the astro.com free charts site,
then post a question in the "read my chart" or "relational astrology" section in this forum.

[astro11]

I wrote an article on the best and worst synastry/composite aspects. It is at http://www.astronumerologywisdom.com...tionships.html

[Chaotic_Crab]

Originally Posted by Bina

You can upload both your birthcharts from the astro.com free charts site,
then post a question in the "read my chart" or "relational astrology" section in this forum.

Sounds like a good Idea I guess i'll just make a seperate thread to get an analyzation and go from there. Thanks again bina!

Also that article you wrote is VERY informative Astro11! that sheds light on what to look for good or bad in a synastry chart, now I feel like i understand things a bit better.

[actio]

I had my Neptune square Mercury with this guy and there were noticeable undertones of deception in this relationship. Mostly him being deceptive, not being straightforward about how he feels and suddenly bailing on me, but also overestimating my potential and feeling disappointed when I didn't live up to what he dreamed for me.