I'm just ready to give up on love!

[TheTruthIs]

It never works out for me for some reason. I either pick fights or lose interest too fast. This last man, who I've dated a couple of years ago and we broke up because he wanted me to be his girlfriend after only a few dates, this man came back into my life. He is Taurus with Sag Moon and I could just tell he was and still is into me. This time (as always) he showered me with compliments and asked if we could get back together. I told him I need to think and them emailed saying that I'd like to. HE said he'll call and I never heard from him again. This was a man I knew I could always rely on and who seemed honest! Now, I just don't want to believe anyone and think I'll just give up on love altogether. It's too hard for me (((

My Chart:
Sun 22°57' Virgo
Moon 16°46' Aries
Mercury 18°02' Libra
Venus 3°27' Scorpio
Mars 8°43' Leo
Jupiter 14°42' Libra
Saturn 10°22' Libra
Uranus 26°49' Scorpio
Neptune 22°08' Sagittarius
Pluto 23°03' Libra

Sun House 12
Moon House 7
Mercury House 1
Venus House 2
Mars House 11
Jupiter House 1
Saturn House 1
Uranus House 2
Neptune House 3
Pluto House 1

[gen6k]

Post full chart.

Wow it seems like your leo Mars is getting mad, and your scorpio venus is brooding.

[TheTruthIs]

Here's my chart, thank you!

[Carris]

Originally Posted by TheTruthIs

It never works out for me for some reason. I either pick fights or lose interest too fast. This last man, who I've dated a couple of years ago and we broke up because he wanted me to be his girlfriend after only a few dates, this man came back into my life. He is Taurus with Sag Moon and I could just tell he was and still is into me. This time (as always) he showered me with compliments and asked if we could get back together. I told him I need to think and them emailed saying that I'd like to. HE said he'll call and I never heard from him again. This was a man I knew I could always rely on and who seemed honest! Now, I just don't want to believe anyone and think I'll just give up on love altogether. It's too hard for me (((

My Chart:
Sun 22°57' Virgo
Moon 16°46' Aries
Mercury 18°02' Libra
Venus 3°27' Scorpio
Mars 8°43' Leo
Jupiter 14°42' Libra
Saturn 10°22' Libra
Uranus 26°49' Scorpio
Neptune 22°08' Sagittarius
Pluto 23°03' Libra

Sun House 12
Moon House 7
Mercury House 1
Venus House 2
Mars House 11
Jupiter House 1
Saturn House 1
Uranus House 2
Neptune House 3
Pluto House 1

You have many planets conjunct your ascendant opposite moon in the 7th. This opposition in the 1st-7th axis could be causing the situation.

"The Aries/Libra axis concerns the struggle to find the balance between autonomy and compromise, self-assertion and cooperation, respect for the self and respect for the other. Naturally associated with the 1st/7th houses, this is a cardinal, fire-air axis ruled by Mars and Venus, mythic lovers and antagonists in equal measure. It describes the inherent tension that exists in all relationships: the struggle to find a balance between personal freedom and autonomy on the one hand, and the support, approval and appreciation we all need from others on the other hand.

Say, for example, we are identified with the civilised, cultured Libran end of this axis, with its strong sense of fairness, its love of peace and harmony, and its diplomatic talents. Then, no doubt, we will constantly find ourselves surrounded by extremely selfish people who show no consideration for others. This could well make us extremely angry, and anger, of course, belongs to Aries, not to Libra." http://www.astro.com/mtp/mtpt42_e.htm

Moon in the 7th could also be causing some ups and downs. "Those with the Moon in the 7th house are often unconsciously dependent on a partner. If the Moon is a reflection of a parter then they may be emotional, caring and even moody. May also attract partners who tend to smother and over-protect them, and some tend to marry young.

The Moon is over-sensitive and over-adaptive to the needs of others in general. However, if the Moon has difficult aspects, then there may be delays and reluctance to enter a relationship may be the case. Planets aspecting the Moon generally describe childhood conditioning, and further define our feeling response." http://theastrologyplace.blogspot.in...7th-house.html

[TheTruthIs]

Originally Posted by Carris

You have many planets conjunct your ascendant opposite moon in the 7th. This opposition in the 1st-7th axis could be causing the situation...

Thank you! I followed the links you provided. Not sure what I should do to keep that precious balance.

I did marry very young and then divorced 5 years later. Since then I'm in perpetual struggle - wanting to be in a relationship and pushing away any that comes my way after some time. It pains me and I don't know what to do. Like I said, this last guy was a great one, but I have a feeling he sensed me not being 100% sure I wanted to be his girlfriend and simply disappeared. I feel dumed but I'm hoping to find a solution...

[wintersprite1]

Originally Posted by TheTruthIs

Here's my full chart:
(not sure how to post picture, my apologies)

http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-b...Russia&lang=en

Here are the instructions for how to post a thumbnail.


TK

[TheTruthIs]

Originally Posted by wintersprite1

Here are the instructions for how to post a thumbnail.


TK

Thank you, just used your directions to insert a picture of my chart

[TheTruthIs]

I was always wondering how does my Moon position in Aries affect me: it's like pulling all the energy on itself, while the rest of the planets are grouped neatly around Virgo, Libra and Scorpio.

[Carris]

Originally Posted by TheTruthIs

I was always wondering how does my Moon position in Aries affect me: it's like pulling all the energy on itself, while the rest of the planets are grouped neatly around Virgo, Libra and Scorpio.

Yes, this is called a "bucket" chart with the handle of the bucket being the moon. The handle or singleton planet is supposed to be the key to the person and its location is supposed to be the focus of the person's life.

Planets in opposition get us to see both sides of an issue - initially this takes some time to balance but eventually you will - along with being independent, autonomous and self reliant you will also be able to share yourself in a relationship without losing your self. It will happen - you just need to be consciously aware of the see-saw effect and control it.

"In this bucket pattern, the concentration of energy is very high... The concentrated energy is released through the isolated planet, also known as the Apex, which channels the entire dynamism of the chart and constitutes the native's privileged focal point." http://www.astrotheme.com/files/planetary-patterns.php

So since the bucket's handle is in the 7th house - you are already very focussed on partnerships and others. Moon in aries can be a bit impatient, impulsive, aggressive - or maybe you project that onto your partners. Moon is ruler of the MC (career, vocation) in the 7th (marriage, partnerships) and is trine mars ruler of 7th in 11th (friends, associations, society) - so perhaps you can look upon partners as friends and equals. Jupiter (ruler of 3rd - communication) opposite moon (emotions, feelings) can make it a bit over the top.

[MaeMae]

Never Give Up On Love!!!
It is all encompassing. humans, animals, ideologies.
Give up on "falllllliiiiiinnng in love."
It's Neptune's wicked curse on Venus and Saturn.
Accept the love given and give love freely or somewhere you will bump into your self and you will not like what you see and uranus will throw a wrench in the works and pluto will throw an uppercut and then you will be reborn.
if you want that, then don't give up on falling in loce because venus is what makes you feel beautiful and where you feel love, you feel beautiful and attract the love that beauty deserves and the beauty that love deserves.

[7thGuardian]

Believe it or not - this could actually be a good thing... cause the love you mentioned is just a relationship evolved from "puppy love" or "philia"... and Libra (either sign or rising) or quite famous for their "need to be in a relationship a.s.a.p." - so - if this can help you to loose that urge for being in a relationship... could actually be positive in the long run - as in you're finally ready for a more mature love/relationship...

Live your life without worrying about that, but keep flirting with guys that you find interesting and eventually you'll find a guy that will catch your interest - and if he find you interesting as well and starts sharing personal (even embarrassing) things about him - without realizing you'll form a connection and you'll be in love again - but if you like this guy from all points of view and he feels the same - you'll be ready for a mature relationship...

At least, that's my opinion on this subject - based both on my experience and the experience of others... i'm quite the opposite of you when it comes to relationship - yet even without looking for one, or more exactly - avoiding getting in a relationship - i end-up in that position... and it's something else - far from what childish love or philia... but - there should also be a small warning as in - if things don't go as expected - this type of love "hurts more than the rest" - and could be a little dangerous for one with Sun in house 12 (more intense feelings) ... so be careful... you could be safe - if you don't open to him - but that beats the purpose.

[Skyseer]

Even though the orb of that Venus-Uranus is very wide, I think that plays a role. Having a Venus-Uranus connection in Scorpio has potential to be problematic in love relationships.
But don't give up. Eventually, you'll find someone that will accept that Venusian energy!