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[Scorpio1115]

I have a problem with relationships. Friends or lovers. It always seems like I can never find anyone like me. The women that I do connect with, never like me back. The friends I have are great, but I always get this feeling people don't understand me. I guess my walls are always up and I never let them down. People think I'm strong, and that I can take care of anything and everything but underneath I am not always happy and I feel like I get very little support. Interacting with people has always been something of a chore for me. My mother always used to say I am too serious etc. I honestly feel life is kind of empty. I am not as confident as I appear and while I try my best at everything I think there is part of me that doesn't reveal when I've been hurt etc. It is very hard for me to be vulnerable. It's scary in fact for me. People always say they can't believe I've ever cried etc. When I do have moments it seems like I'm brushed off. In this day and age it's even harder with Facebook etc because everyone's success and good fortune is played out before your very eyes. I just want someone to love me. Thats all. I can't believe I even put this post up. But what in my chart is responsible for this? I have had anxiety issues etc before. Nothing serious but I do hyperventilate etc. Again this is a side of me not too many people are aware of. In college I look around and I notice I'm the only one fidgety etc. It's wierd.

[wilsontc]

Scorpio,

You said:

Originally Posted by Scorpio1115

I have a problem with relationships...I can never find anyone like me...I always get this feeling people don't understand me...I feel like I get very little support. Interacting with people has always been something of a chore for me...It is very hard for me to be vulnerable...Facebook etc...everyone's success and good fortune is played out before your very eyes. I just want someone to love me...what in my chart is responsible for this? I have had anxiety issues etc before.

You have many challenging aspects to your Moon (, home, also emotions) suggesting you have challenges with your emotions. It also suggests challenges with your home life.

You have a bucket chart with Jupiter (, expansion, also opportunity) as the "handle". This suggests many opportunities and many over-expansive expectations of what "should" happen. is in Aries (, being) so it is focused on yourself and your person. All these "opportunities" are about you and how things affect you. is in the friends house, so friends are VERY important in helping you do things in life.

Aside from , the rest of your chart is focused on the bottom (inner world) right (others) part of the chart, indicating that you use your inner awareness to connect with others. The challenge is you have Neptune (, spirituality, also confusion) on the Descendant (others), so you are confused by others around you.

To sum up: you have emotional challenges, develop personal opportunities from friends and tend to over-expect all the things you "should" get, have a strong need to to connect to others, and are confused by those around you.

Looking for someone "like" you is not going to help you find someone who "loves" you. Opposites attract, so you want to find someone DIFFERENT from you. Since you are so focused on others, you need to find someone who focuses on themselves (but is not overly selfish). With the strong focus on "friends" in your chart, most likely your "love contacts" will start as friendships and then open up to something else when the opportunity occurs.

Instead of looking for support from others, be a support TO others. Make the effort to interact with others, build your relationships, be a "spiritual adviser" ( on the Descendant) to those around you. Connect in more and accept more who you are...and that will allow others to connect in with you and accept you for who you are.

Relating,

Tim

[Munch]

Tim, I use whole signs and noticed that his IC is skewed (by my standards) to his 3rd house. Would this impact his areas of concern as well, especially given the moon is conjunct it?

Scorpio,

I can absolutely relate. I am not good at reaching out either. When I make attempts at it I feel it comes across as awkward. That may not be the reality, but that is how it feels. When I do have my break down moments there was never another soul around until I met my boyfriend. He's been such a blessing, but it took me a long time to figure out how to begin interacting with other people. My understanding is almost entirely centered around my own personal experience of life and I have a hard time fathoming another way much less relating to one.

[wan]

Your moon is in the 4th house, so having a stable home is very important to you..your mars is in the 5th, so you devote much energy to your romantic pursuits!

Sorry that is the extent of my help!

[wilsontc]

Munch,

You asked:

Originally Posted by Munch

...his IC is skewed (by my standards) to his 3rd house. Would this impact his areas of concern as well, especially given the moon is conjunct it?

Whatever house system you use, Moon being on the IC (inner world) indicates a strong inner emotional connection to things. Add in the squares (red lines) to the Moon and you get strong emotional stress.

Agreeing,

Tim