Life Partners?

[CatchMe]

I've been dating this man for 8 months, and I'm in love with him.

I admit these past few months of our relationship have been stormy.. We've been fighting more because both of our trust issues and insecurities are starting to surface.

This is the part of the relationship where both our true colors are showing. I feel like we are at a fork in the road and to me I think we should either be together as a couple, or be done and try to let each other go. I feel this way because I guess I don't want to waste time on trying to be with him, if we are not meant to be together.

It's just very hard letting him go because I love him so much and I believe that he cares for me too. It seems like we cant let each other go.

I want to be with him because I love him dearly and would like to know if we are truly meant to be together? Are we life partners? Could we ever marry each other? I just want to know if there is any potential in our relationship now, since we've hit this bump in the road.

Note: I'm also going to attach my natal chart and his natal chart for compatibility purposes. I'm not sure if this will help since the original question is horary but I figured the more info on the two of us, the better it could help. Please let me know what you think.

I'm new so please bear with me if I've posted in the wrong section. I apologize.

[Mandy]

Hello sweetheart! If I am correct, you want a horary reading? If so, you need to firstly note that we are now in 2012! And then, post two horary charts:
1. With Regiomontanus houses
2. Whole houses

...As there are people here who prefer one house system, over the other. I've not seen anyone here use Placidus houses to interpret horary. You've used Placidus houses. Just amend and re-post.

[CatchMe]

Hello Mandy! Thank you for catching the my date mistake lol.. I've changed the chart now so displays the right year, and whole signs correctly.. Hopefully someone can help me out now that I've fixed my horary chart. Cheers!

[Mandy]

Hey no worries, but since nobody has yet answered your question, can I ask what you mean by life partners? What is your priority with this guy... that you are 'life partners' or that you remain in a relationship with him, because I really don't think the two meanings are synonymous. You say you've been fighting because each of you personally has hang-ups that appear to annoy the other. What about that would make you think that the two of you are personally compatible?

In terms of partnering-up in life, don't you want to be with someone who you can trust and who you can build with? Of course its hard to let go, especially when you love someone. But, have you heard that saying, though i forget how it goes exactly, 'if you love something set it free' AND then see what happens? I'm not saying let him go altogether. I am just suggesting that you let go of all expectations and personal desires, and view the relationship between you for what it is and see what needs to be, and what can be, done. Horary can give an answer regarding the whereabouts of where you left your keys, but not whether you will go and look for them today or next week Wednesday, by which time someone else may have grabbed them. What I am saying is, don't invest too much into an horary answer when there could well be things you should be doing that don't involve it and are within your power.

You could be "life partners", I don't know, but don't you think by putting that kind of pressure on a relationship, you could ruin it? Remember that, first and foremost, you are individuals who need room to grow. If you love someone, and want any hope of receiving real love from them, giving them that freedom should be one of your priorities, irrespective of what the outcome may mean for you personally. Trust isn't something we buy, or are given, it comes naturally when you know, almost certainly, that even with a million other options, that person will do right by you, whether you call them your "life-partner" or not. You don't get that kind of knowledge without giving people rope (to use as they wish).

Also, although I can't do horary readings, I do know that at times the chart is not 'fit' to be judged. One of these indications is when the moon is in 'via combusta', which, in your chart, it is. I'd take this, in itself, as a clue that you are looking for an answer which you are not supposed to be looking for. Give love unconditionally, to all, and you will be fine.

“Where love rules, there is no will to power and where power predominates, love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.”—Carl G. Jung

[CatchMe]

Thank you Mandy I needed to hear that.. Your responds was beautiful. I'm going to trying loving him and letting him go.. Like you said.. Maybe this will help.