Intimacy & Trust Issues

[dollystargazer]

Where can I find positive help in my chart to balance me out? to bring me a new viewpoint so I can have a relationship again. My progression chart seems like kind of an ouch, it's all about independence, Sag Lilith, Sag NN which I need in order to have Gemini SN work, but seems like Uranus & Chiron knock me out of love, job, and lifestyle all at once usually. I'm gettin' old, gee, where's the butter for my bread? lonely sometimes but don't miss having someone else's life overwhelm me.

[StillOne]

I can relate to what you're dealing with. However, we need to see a chart to go any further.

Please go to astro.com and upload a chart (as a thumbnail) from their extended chart selection preferrably with the orbs reduced to 85%.

[dollystargazer]

ya think? I know that. I have a zillon on there. I don't know how to get a chart from there uploaded to this site. Oh I'll figure it myself so it's done right. Gee.

[dollystargazer]

they don't offer 85 percent btw, only 90 & 75. I can tell you're a big help. Gee

[StillOne]

Originally Posted by dollystargazer

ya think? I know that. I have a zillon on there. I don't know how to get a chart from there uploaded to this site. Oh I'll figure it myself so it's done right. Gee.

Wow, sorry. Just tryin to help. From what you said next I take it you STILL couldn't figure it out...

Originally Posted by dollystargazer

they don't offer 85 percent btw, only 90 & 75. I can tell you're a big help. Gee

Yes they do!!! If you actually read my post carefully you would have been able to do that.

Take care

[dollystargazer]

Originally Posted by StillOne

I can relate to what you're dealing with. However, we need to see a chart to go any further.

Please go to astro.com and upload a chart (as a thumbnail) from their extended chart selection preferrably with the orbs reduced to 85%.

what's a thumbnail? where on that page do I click? oh stillone, finance huh? why would you want to help me? i'm arts.

[dollystargazer]

Originally Posted by dollystargazer

what's a thumbnail? where on that page do I click? oh stillone, finance huh? why would you want to help me? i'm arts.

birth data
methods
options - is this where you want 85%?
image size - this is where i went and does not offer 85%
additional objects

upload i see no where at all on astro dienst nor astro community.

[dollystargazer]

Originally Posted by StillOne

Wow, sorry. Just tryin to help. From what you said next I take it you STILL couldn't figure it out...


Yes they do!!! If you actually read my post carefully you would have been able to do that.

Take care

i don't need to be corrected about my reading, that's not help, love is help. kindness is help. my comments were not personal, not directed at you. a healer or a mother know and teacher for that matter, when a child is in pain, like did you ever hear, "oh, he's just tired? or boys will be boys?" Did anyone ever think that in the 100th Monkey theory that there was a 1st Monkey? They think Akasic record and bla bla, but they never think about the first person who was the freak who came up with idea. Even on Astro D, she's so closed-minded that she on one page REFUSES to give any credence to astrocarty or whatever it's called when she is wrong, dead wrong. Cainer on Cainer site, been watching since 94, pretty good on his site but a personal chart sent, all, all, all wrong; most computer ones, all BS. And no one offers doing handwritten, so I teach myself is why I demand the whole awareness be taken into account, including asteroids. Otherwise, English Major here, it's taken out of context. It's like baking a cake and leaving out the baking soda, it won't rise. A Chiron wound in Aquarius to me means I am one of the first Monkeys and I'm just tired of having isolation on it. I'm rushed to keep up with changes, overwhelmed at times yet so strong I will not give up. Whatever. Age of Aquarius is a time for seeds us, crystals us, on and touching the earth to affect the entire future; it's not 17 magazine cutsie, what's your sign.

[dollystargazer]

thank you Aquarius 7000 for posting. Told you I'd find it StillOne. I searched upload chart in the search box. Did you all ever notice how absurd it is in the world that e.g., people think they need a calculator to add two plus two? This is why I was annoyed, by the time I go home, and mess with gettin' this off my computer onto here, I'll have spent how many hours and STILL not have the answers I seek. And it's funny because the answers are inside of me. I feel like screaming like a kid and saying give me what I want NOW, god, we are in the now. Sick of this ****. Saturn saturn saturn. ploofa:and y:

Ok, now let's get cracking:

1) First, pull a chart at www.astro.com by registering yourself there.

2) Then, save that chart (as a .jpeg, .gif, .tif....file; image file format) on your computer. It is best to do a 63% version of the chart (select at the 'Image-size' tab) @ astro.com before saving it, so that the file is not too big when you upload it.

3) Back at our forum, finish your post; then click on the 'Go advanced' button (it is right below the space, where you key in your message).

4) Now, hit the button 'Manage attachments', which is in the 'Additional- Options' section', at the bottom left of the page.

5) Once the window opens, hit 'Search' to search for the image-file (the chart) that you just saved on your computer. Now upload it by clicking on the 'Upload' button. Et voilà, it is up and ready for posting.

6) Finally, post your message, and, this time, it will be accompanied by the chart, which will appear as an 'Attached thumbnail', just like the 'example chart' attached to this post. And hey, don't forget to post your own interpretation of the chart along with it, as our forum rules request. 1) First, pull a chart at www.astro.com by registering yourself there.

2) Then, save that chart (as a .jpeg, .gif, .tif....file; image file format) on your computer. It is best to do a 63% version of the chart (select at the 'Image-size' tab) @ astro.com before saving it, so that the file is not too big when you upload it.

3) Back at our forum, finish your post; then click on the 'Go advanced' button (it is right below the space, where you key in your message).

4) Now, hit the button 'Manage attachments', which is in the 'Additional- Options' section', at the bottom left of the page.

5) Once the window opens, hit 'Search' to search for the image-file (the chart) that you just saved on your computer. Now upload it by clicking on the 'Upload' button. Et voilà, it is up and ready for posting.

6) Finally, post your message, and, this time, it will be accompanied by the chart, which will appear as an 'Attached thumbnail', just like the 'example chart' attached to this post. And hey, don't forget to post your own interpretation of the chart along with it, as our forum rules request.

[dollystargazer]

I'm talking to myself even on here; 14 months alone; hermit card. well, i forgot what I used to do before astrology; psychology, maybe this will help some of you also, for I am a giver.

Most people want affection, warmth, and understanding in intimate relationships, so people who are low in expressiveness--not very warm,tender or sensitive--do not easily provide this to their partners. Thus people married to spouses low in expressiveness are not very satisfied in this area.

Self-Concept

• The beliefs and feelings we have about ourselves.
• Both factual and evaluative.
• The evaluative aspect is called self-esteem.
• The self-concept is influenced in interaction with others in two ways.
• Self-enhancement – feedback that enhances the self-concept and supports the view of ourselves as desirable, attractive, competent people.
• Self-consistency – we seek feedback that supports our view of ourselves, contradictory feedback can be unsettling.
• With positive self-concepts both motives are not in conflict. Positive relationships support both.
• People with genuine dislike of themselves have a conflict, positive evaluations feel good (self-enhancement), but threaten one’s negative self-image (self-consistency). Negative feedback feels bad but affirms the self-concept.
• Self-enhancement motives seem to be automatic, nonconscious responses that are primarily emotional and self-consistency seems to be more influenced by conscious cognitive factors. People with poor self-concepts like praise and compliments, but when they think about them, they don’t believe or trust them.
• So, in relationships people tend to select partners who support their existing self-concepts, good or bad.
• People with negative self-concepts tend to want to escape people who like and approve of them and seek out people who are less positive or dislike them.
• In romantic relationships, people often initially seek positive self-enhancing relationships, but when things progress to more committed levels, such as marriage, the need for self-consistency becomes stronger (known as the marriage shift) and people tend to seek feedback that supports their self-concepts. If a negative self-concept person is married to a spouse that praises and appreciates them, they gradually find ways to avoid them. If belittled, they stay close at hand.
• So, it can be seen that self-esteem is crucial to the ways we interact with others, and can be seen as a form of what Bandura calls reciprocal determinism.

I meet someone, is great, and even one of my parents, great and then horrific crash & burn causing me to still have to maintain the relationship and ignore the burn scar. That's Uranus I'm sure. There has to be a yin source to help me. Leo's across the way from Aquarius usually come to my aid either as dark people or light, but their light doesn't last. Positive affirmations used to help, but gets boring having to have boring habits to not be negative, so lol, if I get negative about the cure, ug. I need intense stimulation, Scorpio Prog sun and natal IC, and Gemini SNode. Maybe it's the Gemini that makes the two faces; starts out good & turns to ****.

Don't see how I can develop trust, more like Libra part Natal Sun & Prog ASC knows if it's coming it's going. What use Sag energy and live for the moment, lol, windy, so much air that way. Taurus MC has been filling up a terrific imbalance this last month. Parents charts, literally, did hold me back from my highest point. Should be free now, Sag energy loving it; but Libra energy craves Aries fire like Scorpio craves sex.

[dollystargazer]

oh credit. found the psych stuff on vorlon1.com

[StillOne]

Originally Posted by dollystargazer

Gee.

Originally Posted by dollystargazer

Gee

Gee, don't ya think if you uploaded a chart already that more people might chime in? Gee.

This person has one post in his thread and already one reply! Oh, look he put the chart in there...
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum...ad.php?t=43817
Gee!!!!