Synastry : Pluto conjunct IC. With pluto being in a very powerful position

[jupsun]

Hello, Thanks for taking a look at this chart! My lover has a minor grand trine, with sun (Cap) and moon (Vir) being trine, and Pluto (Sco) sextile them both. This is pretty amazing since it's an orb less than 1, but on top of that, the whole arrangement is conjunct my IC with an orb of less than 1. I am wondering what to make of this chart? Does this person have TOO MUCH power? In addition to the above she has her mars square my moon and her saturn conjunct my sun. I've basically been trying to make the most of her power by going with the flow when I can, but I wonder what is she really getting out of being with me? She says she is madly in love with me. We're a pretty good match... but should we really be spending our lives together? I have a daughter from a past relationship, I also have a fair amount of debt to pay off. It seems if I combine my life with this person, I won't be able to address those issues in the way I had planned... everything from now would have to be addressed in a mutual way. Meaning I would have to have absolute trust in her, and I struggle with that. Any thoughts on this chart would be appreciated. I wish I could go into more detail about the dynamic of our relationship, but the scale of it is quite monumental. BTW I met her in mid March of 2011 and I moved into her flat at the beginning of April (on the Aries new moon). Three months ago I moved out into my own place (prior to meeting her I was living in a house shared with other tennants). I've also gotten quite an excellent job since meeting her (well this is the second excellent job, the first was a 6 week contract, this one is a 6 month contract). It seems the sun-moon trine being trine my MC and sextile to my IC is very helpful... but I really wonder about the Pluto and what the implication of that is. I also want to know what is SHE getting out of the relationship? Is the payoff for her seeing somebody be the focus of her power or is there any scope for me to GIVE back to her? I'm a bit confused about it, really. Any thoughts would be appreciated.