Dumped on my Bday via text msg

[melina]

Yes, I was dumped on my 32nd birthday via text message by a 35 year old. Birthday also happened to fall on the day of the eclipse (June 15). This dude is not coming back.

This is supposed to be my year of love, especially with my libra ascendant. Apparently, the moon opposite saturn aspect in my chart leads me to attract 'cold' men.

I was divorced before 30. This guy I was seeing for the past year was my first real relationship after divorce.

I am really down. Having major health issues (back/lumbar spine) which caused me to not work since March.

Is my love life going to get any better in the future?

I've attached my chart.

[Geminied]

Originally Posted by melina

Yes, I was dumped on my 32nd birthday via text message by a 35 year old. Birthday also happened to fall on the day of the eclipse (June 15). This dude is not coming back.

This is supposed to be my year of love, especially with my libra ascendant. Apparently, the moon opposite saturn aspect in my chart leads me to attract 'cold' men.

I was divorced before 30. This guy I was seeing for the past year was my first real relationship after divorce.

I am really down. Having major health issues (back/lumbar spine) which caused me to not work since March.

Is my love life going to get any better in the future?

I've attached my chart.

I'm sorry to hear that. He at least could have been a man and let you know another way, other than the cowardly way of text message.

[Vista]

Originally Posted by melina

Yes, I was dumped on my 32nd birthday via text message by a 35 year old. Birthday also happened to fall on the day of the eclipse (June 15). This dude is not coming back.

This is supposed to be my year of love, especially with my libra ascendant. Apparently, the moon opposite saturn aspect in my chart leads me to attract 'cold' men.

I was divorced before 30. This guy I was seeing for the past year was my first real relationship after divorce.

I am really down. Having major health issues (back/lumbar spine) which caused me to not work since March.

Is my love life going to get any better in the future?

I've attached my chart.

Wow, that is pretty heartless....truly a coward. I hope you told him that.

In regards to your chart, this is not the first time you experience this sort of thing. I don't believe the T square between your Venus-Moon-Saturn is the only culprit. In fact, I believe Mars opposing your Uranus is responsible for your attracting unavailable men, and when I say "unavailable" that can come in many forms...in another relationship, lives far away, not interested, etc. The other problem is that you don't like the men who really like you. Many times you could get into a relationship and feel very unfulfilled as in the grass is greener elsewhere. You really need to come to terms with your own need for freedom, and yes, it's there if you dig deep inside yourself. Your Moon in Pisces wants a home and family, but you can be a bit wishy washy. Moon is also square to your Sun, this usually indicates your parents were divorced or not connected emotionally as in "staying together for the kids sakes," type of situation. This complicates things further in terms of relationship for you as there tends to be an imbalance at times, maybe giving when you shouldn't and not giving when you should for an example. The bottom line is that unless you find some way to have a "non traditional" traditional relationship, you will continue to project this onto the men they date and they will live out that freedom need for you. I suspect in retrospect, your boyfriend was sending out singles that he wasn't as into you any longer(or maybe never was completely) and maybe you chose not to see it.


Right now, Transiting Saturn is squaring your Mercury and making you depressed while Transiting Neptune in sitting on your Moon making you confused.


In a couple years you are going to have some major changes going on in your life when Uranus and then a few years later later Pluto start hitting your angles and moving into your 7th and 4th houses.

[Vista]

Originally Posted by Vista

Wow, that is pretty heartless....truly a coward. I hope you told him that.

In regards to your chart, this is not the first time you experience this sort of thing. I don't believe the T square between your Venus-Moon-Saturn is the only culprit. In fact, I believe Mars opposing your Uranus is responsible for your attracting unavailable men, and when I say "unavailable" that can come in many forms...in another relationship, lives far away, not interested, etc. The other problem is that you don't like the men who really like you. Many times you could get into a relationship and feel very unfulfilled as in the grass is greener elsewhere. You really need to come to terms with your own need for freedom, and yes, it's there if you dig deep inside yourself. Your Moon in Pisces wants a home and family, but you can be a bit wishy washy. Moon is also square to your Sun, this usually indicates your parents were divorced or not connected emotionally as in "staying together for the kids sakes," type of situation. This complicates things further in terms of relationship for you as there tends to be an imbalance at times, maybe giving when you shouldn't and not giving when you should for an example. The bottom line is that unless you find some way to have a "non traditional" traditional relationship, you will continue to project this onto the men they date and they will live out that freedom need for you. I suspect in retrospect, your boyfriend was sending out singles that he wasn't as into you any longer(or maybe never was completely) and maybe you chose not to see it.


Right now, Transiting Saturn is squaring your Mercury and making you depressed while Transiting Neptune in sitting on your Moon making you confused.


In a couple years you are going to have some major changes going on in your life when Uranus and then a few years later later Pluto start hitting your angles and moving into your 7th and 4th houses.

One other important thing I neglected to mention why Mars opposing Uranus was mostly responsible: Mars rules your 7th house of love and marriage and Uranus is the planet of unheaval and rebellion or the unexpected. When the ruler of the 7th house is in hard aspect to the planet of rebellion, it spells instability.

[R4VEN]

I cannot add any wisdom to that which Vista has posted .......

I just wanted to comment on the text message dumping. You have Venus in Gemini, and this 35-yr-old sounds like he's about 14! Venus in Gemini people like them younger; perhaps this bloke seems younger, cos he certainly acted that way!

My son was dumped by text message by his girlfriend of 3 years on the day after their little son's birthday. I was flabbergasted by this, but I'm afraid that it is becoming `normal' behaviour - although still in no way acceptable.

[dr. farr]

By Pauline profection, your 33rd year promises improvement (finally) in romance/love matters, as your ascendant will profect into Gemini positing the natal Venus and the natal Sun.

[melina]

Thanks for your responses.

I do have the ability to attract emotionally unavailable men. The ex-husband lived in another country and was not into me from day one. It was a long distance relationship that lasted 4 years. This person who dumped me on my birthday was also emotionally unavailable. In hindsight, the signs were all there, but I kept hoping ....

I did tell him that he is a coward, not that he responded (since he's a coward).

[Vista]

Originally Posted by melina

Thanks for your responses.

I do have the ability to attract emotionally unavailable men. The ex-husband lived in another country and was not into me from day one. It was a long distance relationship that lasted 4 years. This person who dumped me on my birthday was also emotionally unavailable. In hindsight, the signs were all there, but I kept hoping ....

I did tell him that he is a coward, not that he responded (since he's a coward).

Dr Farr is an excellent astrologer(R4VEN too) and I believe what he says is something to take notice of. Perhaps taking time to learn about this behavior and recognize the pattern when the red flags are waving you in the face. BTW, I have the same problem...my 7th ruler square Uranus and my relationships were **** most of my life for many of the reasons I listed until I wizened up. I am 15 years older than you so take my advice so you don't wast time on the wrong man, start reading books, go to counseling, relationship seminars, etc., do whatever you can to nip this in the bud. Also, you might try dating men you aren't that attracted to and developing a friendship. I know this sounds silly but lets face it, the men you are attracted to are probably not going to be that good for you. Whatever you do, don't get intimately involved with someone until you have a good, solid friendship built up over a period of months or longer. Someone who is really into you and sees a future with you will wait. Trust me. Lastly, learn to listen to your inner voice when it tells you something isn't right, it likely isn't. Pisces Moon...

[melina]

Thanks Vista. I have gone for counselling twice in the past for a period of 7-8 months each time. I am reading self-help books.

It's hard to change certain habits, but you are right in everything you have said.

I think my back pain is making my depression and this breakup even worse to handle (which causes more back pain). I have to get this back sorted first, get a decent job and then think about love.

[Caro]

Back pain is associated with the root chakra. Root chakra is how you associate with your family.

you have aqua in the 4th house - what was your home life like? what is relationship with family like? your roots are your family ties.

[melina]

I have two slipped discs in my lower back that slipped all of a sudden (without falling or any accident) in March.

Family life was good .... I am close to my immediate family. But the last few years have been volatile (death of a parent, my divorce, custody, etc.). I'm a single mom living with my mother. Family dynamics changed drastically with the death of my father. My parents got along and were very close, but they argued a lot.

[R4VEN]

For work opportunities....... from Dec 2013 through the whole of 2014 looks promising. You will have your progressed Sun approaching and then right on your MC. This will bring `light' to your life direction and work area.

In the meantime, I'd say, yes, get your body well. You are already `carrying' enough burdens. Your body is telling you to treat yourself gently.

[Caro]

lots of people get back problems from just moving house.(root issues too)

with uranus transiting your 6th have you thought of trying alternative therapies to help alleviate the problem?

I think the key with back problems(as I guess with all health) is to get medical help sooner.

if your root is out of balance it can put other areas out of balance.

[Nexus7]

People probably get back problems from carrying and lifting heavy things around!

ne other important thing I neglected to mention why Mars opposing Uranus was mostly responsible:

To use an SMS to end things sounds like a negative Uranian way of doing things.

I have also heard of anedcdotes where employees get the SMS 'You are Fired. Have a nice day' during their lunch breaks. Tempting to assume that would be multinationals.

Once again, I have heard that hoary old spectre 'asperger's' used to explain why certain types of individuals might resort to electronic media when signalling that It's Over.

[Caro]

forgot to say. the dumping by text has happened to me. back in 2000.
a cancer sun more than that I do not know. I had only been seeing him for 3months and it had not got serious.

I remember thinking 'what a spineless cheat' when I got the text.

[Starry Eyed]

I am sorry to hear about your birthday shocker. That's almost too awful to seem real, and I hope you don't dwell on him too long and waste your emotional energy on such a jerk. Yes, your Saturn will not make your love life easy or smooth, I have the same aspect that square. Ugh. And with your moon thrown into the mix, that's a double whammy. One thing you might do to cheer yourself up: do a transit chart using "Vertex" and the asteroid Eros (the code is 433) on astrodienst.com. You could see where they are and how they are aspected now to shed some light on what's going on with your stars. It's always fun to figure out the WHY of events, and look forward to the future when transits might act more beneficially. Hang in there. Karma will take care of the ex.

[melina]

This man (who dumped me on my bday) texted me on Wednesday to let me know that he feels awful and that my prediction for him came true (he got a huge promotion). I didn't respond. He texted me again the next day asking me if he can make it up to me. I didn't respond.

I was doing really well emotionally and his recent contact has thrown me through a loop. I feel like I have been dumped all over again. I have cried more in the past two days than I did back in June when this happened.

This is not the first time I have been really supportive and caring towards a man who in turn dumps me, only for him to succeed even more in his career. Where is the justice?

Is he really sorry or just feeling dumpers' remorse (wants to make himself feel better)? I am not returning his messages because I need to heal ... but at the same time, I am so tired of this happening to me over and over again. I didn't do anything bad to him and in turn, he treated me like **** on my birthday.

I wonder if there is anything in my natal chart with transits that would show his return?

[R4VEN]

Originally Posted by melina

Is he really sorry or just feeling dumpers' remorse (wants to make himself feel better)? I am not returning his messages because I need to heal ... but at the same time, I am so tired of this happening to me over and over again. I didn't do anything bad to him and in turn, he treated me like **** on my birthday.

I wonder if there is anything in my natal chart with transits that would show his return?

His return - or not - needs to be entirely in your hands. You hold the cards in relation to this, and this is the way it needs to be.

The most important statement is what I have put in bold. This keeps happening to you because of something deep within you which keeps attracting you to this scenario in partners. That means that `healing' is currently more important than having anyone in your life. With your recent birthday you entered a 7 year numerologically. This means that until your next birthday you need to spend a bit of time with yourself, and to get to know yourself more clearly.

Others have mentioned the squares Venus makes with your Moon and Saturn, and the opposition between Saturn and the Moon. You need to read up big about these aspects within this t-square. They no doubt operate fully when you enter into romantic relationships.
There is a neediness which you may already recognise in yourself, and which you need to come to terms with before you again become involved with someone.

[Caro]

could be the mercury rx cycle which is beginning soon in leo.

I think you need to work on yourself and take care of yourself more and your dreams and desires.

[melina]

I was dumped again, via text, this morning on my birthday.

What are the chances of this happening to me twice, two years in a row?

[dr. farr]

Amazing-however with the profected ascendant having just profected into Gemini (for your 33 year), conjuncting the disruptive South Node in Gemini (chaotic and revolutionary effects), perhaps this has manifested in this second unfortunate result: but that dam SN will transit out of Gemini in early Spetmeber of 2012, and I still think that the rest of your 33rd years will be beneficial for you because of the Venus and Sun placements in the natal chart, being activated by the profection or your ascendant into Gemini for your 33rd year (AFTER that Dragon's Tail leaves your sign!!)

[Nacho]

learn about your moon in pisces, i think it makes you feel like the victim more often than not, especially if you don't know this part of your personality. mutable signs are tricky anyway.