synastry: planet in 3ed

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particulary sun?
any experiences?

do you feel they(planet person) bring out your intellectual/communicative side.
or is it more likely that you just like THEIR intellectual/communicative style

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or any other planet:
for example, if i want my 8th house tendencies stimulated, should i go with someone who's planet (other than saturn) falls in my 8th house.

or if i want fourth house aspects to shine more, should i go with someone who has planets in my fouth house....
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or does it work the opposite way
say someone has something in my 9th house, do *I* encourage *THEM* to be more 9th house like?