Composite chart... what went wrong?

[LovelyMissAries]

This is the composite chart between me and my old Leo best friend. Man... where to start with that. We were friends for a year ('til last May) and I swear we fought once every month. It was confusing, and then when I finally thought we had a good rhythm -WHOOMP- there goes the rug from under my feet. The entire time I felt like I was in a twisted, sick love affair (we did date in the beginning) and I was just hoping combing through this composite chart would help clarify WHY things were so confusing between us.

To be more specific, I'm focusing on Pluto in the 8th. While it's at home, it's also trining with Saturn I believe. Pluto... what a bittersweet planet. I can't blame the confusion on that as that'd be taking credit from Neptune, BUT our relationship DID seem to have a lot of weird power struggles (more on his end if I do say so myself.)

Edit: Clicking through astro and noticed we had Uranus squaring the Asc. So.... the challenge was to balance out the business with emotion/pleasure? OR... that could be one infringing on the other somehow. Not being able to be in sync with one another?

[rahu]

you last edit is most likely the answer to your question.
with uranus at midheaven square to the ascendent,a relationship is likely to be intense ,chaotic but unstable.
with the sun conjunct to venus,there truly was a spontaneous love between you,so don't doubt that aspect of your relationship.
but with the mars/venus and mars/ sun midpoints conjuct chiron and the nadir,and opposed to uranus and saturn,is in unlikely the love between you could resist the instabilty so pictured.this aspect give immediate and intense emotional/physical attraction but such intensity is almost impossible to sustain amid the routine compromises and commitments necessary for a long term relationship.with saturn's influence added,there was a off and on dynamic.saturns position could explain his behavior as he was drawn to you and alternaltely repluses from you.with chiron's influence added one has a very confusing love/hate dynamic as the moments of intimacy and love were juxtaposed with feelings of disrespect and cynicism.this dymanic shows that when you felt the most love for him,he would turn around and belittle your love thru disrepectful remarks or cynical body language.this dynamic can show a unappreciative and overly critical demeanor from him.
in the final analysis he was unconsciously drawn to you but at the same time he did not want to give up his emotional independence.
the sexual intimacy is so intense that that he could stay away but could stay either.

rahu

[LovelyMissAries]

Originally Posted by rahu

you last edit is most likely the answer to your question.
with uranus at midheaven square to the ascendent,a relationship is likely to be intense ,chaotic but unstable.

It was really intense, especially for someone like me who doesn't date much. I was like a kitten you had to coax out of the corner only to meet a lion on the other side of the room, and I wonder if he felt the same way about me.

with the sun conjunct to venus,there truly was a spontaneous love between you,so don't doubt that aspect of your relationship.

That was a very...weird part.. of our relationship. It was like I KNEW how he felt, but he was reluctant to be honest about it. You knew just from the energy between us when we were together. But he wouldn't be clear or honest about his feelings.

I'll give more feedback soon. Thank you for replying.

[LovelyMissAries]

Okay, more proper feedback... and questions.

Sun conjunct Venus equates to spontaneous love... so, does that mean that love is fleeting? That's what 'spontaneous' says to me, but at the same time if it was actually fleeting I don't think I would still feel so attached even after a year of not seeing him. What aspect would indicate a soul bond that is hard to break?

The Mars contacts, I definitely felt. I was flabbergasted at how he did not seem to be on the same page I was as far as our relationship went. I was the one who ended our friendship/relationship because it seemed logical to do. I was constantly telling him my deepest feelings and getting nothing back. AHA! So THAT'S what you meant about him not giving up his emotional independence, right? Which is so weird to me. How can tell someone you love them, and they mean the world to you if you don't feel that way? Because he would tell me those things but I never FELT it.

He did grow unappreciative, too. It always felt like he struggled to even acknowledge anything about our relationship. SO FRUSTRATING for me with a Gemini rising. But it figures I met him... he had Capricorn rising, afterall.



However, I'm wondering if you can explain how the houses that Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune are in correlate to the relationship? Because they are in House 10 which I thought was related to work and responsibility... which isn't very 'relationship-y'. I guess it is in a business relationship but that's not what we were.

[rahu]

dictionary time
spontaneous does not mean fleeting.spontaneous does not characterize the time element.
but the strong uranus presence could bee seen as fleeting.
a spontaneous affection in a relationship is very favorable because it implies a inherent attraction.

rahu