Venus conjunct Saturn in synastry wonder...

[moondirt]

Hi all. So, let me just say I'm vary wary of saturn. I've had bad saturn synastry with a few people and OH MY GOSH it's bad for me. Probably because I don't have any natal saturn aspects so I can't handle the responsiblity. Recently I was doing synastry between me and another person and something alarming happened...I found venus conjunct saturn!!!! OH NO!! What I'm thinking though, is that saturn isn't all bad, actually it seems like sometimes saturn can be pretty fateful in a relationship. I do definatley think this planet gets a bad rap.

I KNOW that venus square saturn and opposition are really not good in synastry, but with venus conjunct saturn it seems like it might actually bond two people together....what do you think? any experiences?

[dreamtimez]

Saturn -Venus conjunction can be long lasting. But Saturn dampens Venus ... the Saturn partner seems too serious and the Venus partner seems too flighty. But this is not a deal-breaker ... a bit of understanding is required.

Besides, Saturn contacts are necessary for any long-term relationship. Without it the relation won't last.

[moondirt]

Thank yu for your opinion dreamtimz. so maybe this love will last.

[astrologer50]

Originally Posted by moondirt

Hi all. So, let me just say I'm vary wary of saturn. I've had bad saturn synastry with a few people and OH MY GOSH it's bad for me. Probably because I don't have any natal saturn aspects so I can't handle the responsiblity. Recently I was doing synastry between me and another person and something alarming happened...I found venus conjunct saturn!!!! OH NO!! What I'm thinking though, is that saturn isn't all bad, actually it seems like sometimes saturn can be pretty fateful in a relationship. I do definatley think this planet gets a bad rap.

I KNOW that venus square saturn and opposition are really not good in synastry, but with venus conjunct saturn it seems like it might actually bond two people together....what do you think? any experiences?

In the synastry bi wheel saturn venus don't make an aspect that I can see Saturn acts as 'cement' and tends to bind for good OR bad...

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[feather in the wind]

I have this with a man I am interested in. I have known him for over 2 years and the relationship has not taken off. He is the saturn and I am the venus and it is a tight conjunction in Aquarius.
All the classic play between the two planets.
we were interested/ recognized each other the first time we met. have met only a few times in the past 2 years. not intimacy just very intense conversations. there is a huge reason from his side why we cannot be together.
When we do go out he is very chivalrous seems almost Victorian formal. Does not use profanity and is very proper. We do communicate over the phone and text and facebook and he is very flirtatious when wee are not face to face. Actually he apologizes when he does use profanity in a text too.
Right now we are in an off phase. where we do not communicate with each other for months and then he suddenly appears again.
I do not feel any game playing with him and am very direct about my feelings for him. This is the part of the affectionate venus playing out to the hilt as I have been known to be very dry and UN-affectionate in relationships in the past. being expressive with him comes naturally! I know he is interested in me and i am into him too. sometimes i can feel him thinking about me and he calls me within minutes of me getting that feeling. We understand each other.
I do want to reach ot and hold his hand but feel he may think I'm being to forward. Any Saturn people in a venus saturn synastry wanting to share? would love to hear from you.

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by moondirt

Hi all. So, let me just say I'm vary wary of saturn. I've had bad saturn synastry with a few people and OH MY GOSH it's bad for me. Probably because I don't have any natal saturn aspects so I can't handle the responsiblity. Recently I was doing synastry between me and another person and something alarming happened...I found venus conjunct saturn!!!! OH NO!! What I'm thinking though, is that saturn isn't all bad, actually it seems like sometimes saturn can be pretty fateful in a relationship. I do definatley think this planet gets a bad rap.

I KNOW that venus square saturn and opposition are really not good in synastry, but with venus conjunct saturn it seems like it might actually bond two people together....what do you think? any experiences?

I had the same thing and in Leo too. I was the Saturn person and I think I dampened down his feelings of romance as I am more more conservative and cautious. I was older too and that was a problem for me. It is the connection that can endure though and fated. However the whole chart synastry has to be looked at. One aspect alone cant tell you very much.

[Venusinlibra]

Originally Posted by feather in the wind

I have this with a man I am interested in. I have known him for over 2 years and the relationship has not taken off. He is the saturn and I am the venus and it is a tight conjunction in Aquarius.
All the classic play between the two planets.
we were interested/ recognized each other the first time we met. have met only a few times in the past 2 years. not intimacy just very intense conversations. there is a huge reason from his side why we cannot be together.
When we do go out he is very chivalrous seems almost Victorian formal. Does not use profanity and is very proper. We do communicate over the phone and text and facebook and he is very flirtatious when wee are not face to face. Actually he apologizes when he does use profanity in a text too.
Right now we are in an off phase. where we do not communicate with each other for months and then he suddenly appears again.
I do not feel any game playing with him and am very direct about my feelings for him. This is the part of the affectionate venus playing out to the hilt as I have been known to be very dry and UN-affectionate in relationships in the past. being expressive with him comes naturally! I know he is interested in me and i am into him too. sometimes i can feel him thinking about me and he calls me within minutes of me getting that feeling. We understand each other.
I do want to reach ot and hold his hand but feel he may think I'm being to forward. Any Saturn people in a venus saturn synastry wanting to share? would love to hear from you.

Hi Feather
I have had several relationships with this synastry aspect - their venus falling over my aquarius saturn in the 7th. Actually, it started with my father! He was cold and distant for most of time and never faced his responsibilities. (Venus in aquarius...). But somehow, he always kept a expectation that things would change to better, and I dont know why, I always trust, even when hurt again and again and again.... My natal saturn makes a square to natal neptune in 4th... Ilusions. So, every man with venus in aquarius not only conjunct my saturn in 7th, but also square my neptune. And I trust them... (Stupid!)
Later, I had at least three long relationships with this aspect. Most all of them lasted for more than a couple of years, but all left a sense of frustration, like it never took off or if my love was unrequited. Weird that I still talk now and them with all of that men as friends, the link was never totally broken. So, I think the "long lasting" quality of venus conjunct saturn in synastry is real, but not operates exactly the way we would wanted it to.

[Vista]

I dated a man about a year ago whom I loved very much, his N Saturn conjunct my N Venus. I think it can be a good thing, however in our case he did not love me back. I am very watery and feeling, he has 4 planets in Gemini including Sun, Moon, Mer, so he is very logical and thinking. Important women in his life have personal planets that fall into his Grand Cross pattern. My Venus did exactly that so it got pretty beat up. You really have to look at the chart in its entirety as no one aspect will make or break a relationship.

As for the original poster of this thread, anyone in that age range she dates will have their Saturn conjunct her Venus. Mystery solved.

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by Venusinlibra

Hi Feather
I have had several relationships with this synastry aspect - their venus falling over my aquarius saturn in the 7th. Actually, it started with my father! He was cold and distant for most of time and never faced his responsibilities. (Venus in aquarius...). But somehow, he always kept a expectation that things would change to better, and I dont know why, I always trust, even when hurt again and again and again.... My natal saturn makes a square to natal neptune in 4th... Ilusions. So, every man with venus in aquarius not only conjunct my saturn in 7th, but also square my neptune. And I trust them... (Stupid!)
Later, I had at least three long relationships with this aspect. Most all of them lasted for more than a couple of years, but all left a sense of frustration, like it never took off or if my love was unrequited. Weird that I still talk now and them with all of that men as friends, the link was never totally broken. So, I think the "long lasting" quality of venus conjunct saturn in synastry is real, but not operates exactly the way we would wanted it to.

My father had Venus in Aquarius but he also had Moon Sun in Capricorn and was very responsible and hardworking but could not show his love although he was very liberal minded and charming.

Strong Saturn contacts do lend to long lasting ties but they cool them down and make for the reality check.

[Venusinlibra]

Yes, Claire, I think this is a good example on how we should not focus on an especific aspect/position just by itself. My father, unlike yours, had sun in Pisces and moon in Libra, which added a lot to his dreamy and indecisive demeanor. But venus in Aquarius is prone to create charming personalities, for sure. Too bad you cant trust on them on a intimate basis... They seem to hate intimacy!

Originally Posted by Claire19

My father had Venus in Aquarius but he also had Moon Sun in Capricorn and was very responsible and hardworking but could not show his love although he was very liberal minded and charming.

Strong Saturn contacts do lend to long lasting ties but they cool them down and make for the reality check.

[mahaira]

As dreamtimez has said the contact between Saturn and Venus is not a deal- breaker. It depends a lot on other aspects be it in synastry or in other partner charts. It can give a lasting relationship be it good or bad.
I'm speaking from a personal experience as well when I say that the Saturn person requires the Venus person to be more responsible in general and specially in the areas touched by Saturn-Venus contact (e.g. if works through the 8th house it is about joint finances). If the energies are not pproperly channeled Saturn person could take all the fun from a relationship. Compromise is the key. Saturn requires a certain lesson (in responsibility) to be learned. If a Venus partner respects her Saturn partner attitudes, she can teach him to enjoy life more.
To conclude if the good aspects are stronger than the bad ones, this can suggest a long-lasting relationship. However, if it is not the case, it can suggest that differences between two personalities are so great that they cannot be overcome, resulting in no relationship at all or a relationship where it would seem that the Saturn person is bringing down his Venus partner for no reason.