Will this FINALLY drive an Aries away???

SubaruFiend · #1 02-16-2011, 03:57 PM

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Vista · #2 02-16-2011, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by SubaruFiend

Before anyone comments that I sound nuts.... know that I tried ALLLLL the normal "get away" tactics with this guy and they ALL caused him to chase me HARDER

Do you think this will finally work to drive an Aries away?
I had been just hooking up with this Aries for the better part of last year (I knew he had a gf... he eventually broke up with her claiming that he was attracted to me.) and I was ONLY in it for the physical part. I always had a plan of escape if I felt MY emotions getting involved or if I felt HE was getting emotionally involved. Well that time came in Novemeber and I tried to get out.....
In November I tried to tell him that I was talking to someone else.... but that just made him chase me harder....
In January when I found out he was talking to his ex again I ran out of his house while he was in the shower with NO intention of continuing on with him.... again.... he chased harder....
SO... to make sure that I drove him away completely I really went to the extreme....
I have a second facebook acct that I made up a long time ago and I had added him as a friend on there WAY before he ever added my normal one. So I knew his ex's name and who she was. I contacted her with that fake fb and told her about how he had cheated on her all last year. (She knew about SOME of it from him, but I don't think she knew the extreme amount he had cheated).... he sort of had a suspicion that it was me but I kept lying about it and saying it wasn't me because I wanted to build the situation up really bad. I kept lying about it and kept letting him just suspect me. Finally one day I decided to let him "realize" that the fake fb was me. I requested one of his friends that I KNOW he had told about this whole messed up situation and she told him that some stranger had requested him. When he looked at it I KNOW he saw the email address (because I left it visible) and finally connected the pieces of the puzzle (The email address is almost identical to the email address I use for my regular fb)......... So he was SUPER mad at me because I had lied about sending the messages to his ex. I thought for sure he was goin to blow up and tell me to EFF off.....He told me just needed time.......
So here I was thinking that ALL this craziness I concocted was going to get rid of him for good.... but then he tells me he "just needs time"!!! UUURRRGGGG
SO.... I finally just told him the WHOLE truth.... that I went out of my way to escape his ***. He KNEW that I had been trying to get away for awhile (in January when I ran out of his house I'm PRETTY sure that was a good indication that I was trying to escape....)........ So I wrote him an email and told him that I had messaged his ex on purpose and created this whole messed up situation so that it would push him away ON purpose. He FINALLY wrote me an email back that said "Never contact me again".........
Is he finally gone????? Or will he come sniffing around again??? He was always SUPER addicted to the physical part....I mean ADDICTED.... which I think is why it was so hard to push him away.....

What is it that you are trying to have answered here? Without a chart no one is going to reply other than to say this: why didn't you just tell him you didn't want to see him any longer and stop taking his calls or emails? Why go to all this extreme?

SubaruFiend · #3 02-16-2011, 05:04 PM

http://www.new-astrology.com/cgi-bin...&x=1600&y=1600

Heres his chart. I DID tell him I didn't want anything serious and he KEPT chasing.

Vista · #4 02-16-2011, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by SubaruFiend

http://www.new-astrology.com/cgi-bin...&x=1600&y=1600

Heres his chart. I DID tell him I didn't want anything serious and he KEPT chasing.

This chart is really useless without degrees of the planets and angles. You can obtain a free chart on astro.com. Go to the free chart selection, right click on the chart and save it as a picture, and then attach it to this email. BTW, don't add in all the astroids at the bottom, just adds clutter.

You just answered my question, you said you didn't want anything serious INSTEAD of saying "I don't want to see you anymore" and then not see him, take his calls or go to any of his hangouts. Unless he has psychological problems and is a stalker, he will eventually give up. Do you think maybe there is a part of you that likes to be chased by him? If someone doesn't want to see a person anymore they tell them and then they don't have contact. You've destroyed the relationship to the point that it now seems he hates you. Do you really think he will come back now?

Vista · #5 02-16-2011, 05:29 PM

BTW, I am not trying to berate you here at all. It's funny, but this reminds me of the type of drama I created in my dating life when I was younger. As I have gotten older I have realized that it's just simpler to be short and to the point and not worth crucifying another person. I think you led him on a bit by continuing to see him. Not saying you are wrong, but on the other hand you knew he was developing feelings for you so that should have been the end of it if they weren't recipricated. Now you have unnecessarily created an enemy.

SubaruFiend · #6 02-16-2011, 06:26 PM

I didn't ask if I thought hed come back, some guys would come back.....,my whole point was to push him away

SubaruFiend · #7 02-16-2011, 06:29 PM

http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?r...JD-u1297884503

Vista · #8 02-16-2011, 06:42 PM

Is he finally gone????? Or will he come sniffing around again??? He was always SUPER addicted to the physical part....I mean ADDICTED.... which I think is why it was so hard to push him away.....[/QUOTE]

Sounds like you were asking if he is coming back to me......

wilsontc · #9 02-17-2011, 03:45 PM

Subaru,

You said:

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Originally Posted by SubaruFiend

...drive an Aries away? I had been just hooking up with this Aries for the better part of last year (I knew he had a gf... he eventually broke up with her claiming that he was attracted to me.) and I was ONLY in it for the physical part...I tried to tell him that I was talking to someone else.... but that just made him chase me harder...He was always SUPER addicted to the physical part....I mean ADDICTED.... which I think is why it was so hard to push him away.....

This sounds like some type of obsessive relationship. This is usually indicated with some sort of

contact between you. Looking at his chart alone, his planetary aspects don't indicate this type of obsession, so maybe it is found in either your chart (dating a person who you know has a girlfriend might indicate some type of obsession or control issue) or in a synastry chart between you.

Guessing,

Tim

dperez3894 · #10 02-25-2011, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by SubaruFiend

Before anyone comments that I sound nuts.... know that I tried ALLLLL the normal "get away" tactics with this guy and they ALL caused him to chase me HARDER

Do you think this will finally work to drive an Aries away?

Nope. Aries love the challenge and the more you resist, the more an Aries persists.

If you want to stop him, be boring. Then he'll give up and go away.

BTW, I'm an Aries.