Long history with Taurus Man... Very confused NEED GUIDANCE BAD!!

CEDYLADY14 · #1 11-16-2010, 07:55 AM

hi I'm an Aquarius/pisces (more pisces).. this is goign to be kind of lengthly but I really truly am lost. I've done a ton of research... almost to the point of mad obsession & I just need some answers to my specific situation... so any advise and insight to my predicament would be greatly appreciated!

ok well I've had this on/off again relationship with my taurus since we were 9/10 years old! its been a long 16 years! I was his first elementary girlfriend! Our families were close, I played softball w/ his younger sister, my twin dated his step-brother/bestfriend, our older sisters were friends & our parents were friends... My family moved to another school district that happened to be rivals... I honestly think we just stopped talking... neither one of us remember actually "breaking up" of course this is elementary we're talking about lol. anyways, so I know I'd always look out for him when our schools played against eachother & would occassionally find him checking me out too... we got to high school & I remember a basketball game where I was a cheerleader at... he played on the varisty team so they were all watching the game, I couldn't tell if he was looking at me but I sure as hell hoped I had caught his attention... so the end of my senior year I run into him & he's w/ a girlfriend... we exchange numbers, meet up & catch up... the summer goes by & i don't remember much communication between us until right before we were both getting ready to go back to school at the end of the summer. we hung out again and this time he had broken up with his girlfriend... we hung out, and he made the first move... he kissed me!

and we became some what intimate. We see each other again, and become full on intimate the next time. we make plans to see eachother once we've settled into school. (our schools were a good 8 hours away from eachother) so when we get to the time we had planned for me to go down and see him he blows me off

... I get hurt & I say some mean things about his skills in the bedroom... long story short we cut our ties... or so I thought

Exactly a yr goes by & low & behold... I go hang out with him, we hook up and again my feelings get hurt, and he basically treats me like a one night stand! I ended up dating someone shortly after that (got engaged,etc. but the engagement didn't last long)...

5 yrs go by & he finds me on facebook, we start catching up again

(at this time I have had my daughter, and the father didn't work out) anyways we go as far as joking about being married he even goes as far as joking about being the father to my daughter. We hook up again! and then he leaves & again I feel used. He contacts me (2) other times to hook up & I tell him no... He also says that the whole kid thing scares him...Then randomly he tells me he can no longer talk to me because he's seeing someone... so we cut all ties

or so I thought... exactly a yr later I get another random email on facebook (bc I defriended him & denied a few of his friend requests

) telling me how sorry he was to have lost touch & how much he wanted to get back in touch with me... I respond because lets face it everytime I hope this next time will be different! he's a great guy & I've always always wanted him...He tells me hes nolonger with the girl he was dating, etc... so I call him out on all the **** he's pulled... he goes as far as to promise me things are different, tells me he's missed me, even asks if its bad that he has always wanted me, tells me he's wanted me forever and never stopped thing about me, tells me that he's wanted to keep me in his life all this time... We talk about that basketball game & he told me he had never wanted anyone so bad in his life, and that he can still picture me in my uniform

... he was texting me so much, I even was actually busy that day we caught up and he begged me not to stop talking to him and told me how excited he was that we were talking again, he was texting me so much that I asked him if he usually talked this much ot other girls & he said no and that it was startin to freak him out... Later we had a discussion because he wanted us to hook up again, and i told him I wasn't going to hook up with him unless we were in a committed relationship this time, he pulled the "I just got out of a relationship" and I told him that i'm not looking to jump into a relationship at this time, I just want to take things slow, see if we really are meant to be together or just friends, he said that sounded perfect...so then for about 4-5 days I got a good morning text from him and then one day I didn't get one so i initiated it... oh and to top of that he coaches football at his old school & they made the playoffs- who did they play... my old highschool... so we made a bet on whose team would win... we debated and made a bet that loser made winner dinner... well my team won & since then he has been distant.... the other night he was trying to talk dirty to me via texting and I meantioned not ever getting the chance to see what he's all about, etc... he told me to just be patient & only time would tell...

SO... I've read that Taurus's are slow to commit & that they are picky to who they choose... I get that he likes me but am I that girl that he wants to spend the rest of his life with? I know I need to be patient... but since i am soo confused on if I'm that girl or just a security blanket? I'm willing to be patient & give him his space, etc if I know that i'm that girl but if we're just going to be friends and thats all he really truly considers me as I want to spare myself another heart ache... So any help you have please share! IF THERES A TAURUS MAN OUT THERE I'D REALLY REALLY APPRECIATE YOUR INSIGHT!

Thanks!

Mark · #2 11-16-2010, 05:11 PM

Well, I'm no Taurus, but this seems to be a rather simple problem. People who meet in childhood and then continue or resume contact later in life will almost always view each other as if each were still the same age as when they met. It sounds like your images of each other were built when you were very young and, like most other people in that situation, you never "let each other grow up." To be painfully frank about it, you aren't acting like adults. Your relations now seem to be a continuation of what they've always been.

You were right to turn him down and insist on commitment. You just didn't go far enough with that decision. I know you want it to work, but you shouldn't keep things like the "texting game" going when there's no hint that it will lead to a good place. You give chance after chance, even knowing how that very thing has worked out so many other times. If he has at all matured as a Taurus, he should be able to respect you when you stand your ground. I would suggest no contact whatsoever, unless he actually wants a relationship. If he starts sending dirty messages before you find a good direction for a relationship, cut him off completely. Don't speak to him after that. You're only torturing yourself by giving this train wreck so many chances to happen.

As I recommend to nearly everyone, meditation and prayer will help immensely. When you clean yourself and quiet your mind, you will be able to see clearly. Your mind will be made more powerful than your desire. Then you will be able to make decisions rightly and without fear.

CEDYLADY14 · #3 11-16-2010, 09:28 PM

Thank you Mark, I never actually thought about it like that! ok, well your right I definitely need to meditate on this! And if he really wants me as his partner than he would not just do the bare minimum to talk to me! Plus, even though Taurus' are slow to come around... come on its been 16 years for crying out loud... make your move other than in the bedroom!

Alright starting this moment, I'm not going to talk to him unless he initates it and if its not him trying to be dirty!

Very good advise thanks! I appreciate it!

Scorpioliu · #4 12-25-2010, 01:55 AM

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