Really struggling with my love "style"

[Brea]

My problem is that I love people who don't love back, I hold on to people who dont want to be held, and I run fast from those that do. Its really confusing to have my Mars in Pisces and my Venus in Aries. Granted alot of my trouble is also indicated with Venus square Neptune. Have any ideas/insight about what I need to do in order to find contentment?

Thank you so very much for taking the time.

[wilsontc]

Brea,

You said:

Originally Posted by Brea

My problem is that I love people who don't love back, I hold on to people who dont want to be held, and I run fast from those that do...Have any ideas/insight about what I need to do in order to find contentment?

You already seem to understand the situation. You need to have some "you" time and don't want to get TOO close in a relationship. Perhaps you need to start out with "friends" and make sure that neither you nor they get too "clingy".

Suggesting,

Tim

[Kannon]

Brea,

Study the Buddhist concept of non-grasping and learn to breathe as a meditation.

[astrologer50]

Welcome to forum,

Your soul has chosen some difficult Lessons with venus expression ie: square to Neptune, rose tinted glasses and romantic disillusionment. Then venus square uranus - the divorce aspect. Saturn in 7th suggests and older partner, delayed til at least first saturn return.

Venus and sun in 9th house (Equal house) suggests possible emigration or marrying a foreigner. Moon in 7th opp Jupiter suggests you tend to go OTT when in relationships..

Your Saturn is a singleton ie: only planet in air element, suggesting lots of sweeping statements without enough thought behind them (for effect)
Singleton planets
“If a planet happens to be the only one in an element, quality, or house type, that planet is a Singleton and it can funnel all of the “energy” of the horoscope. This planet is often the most important one in the horoscope. In other words, if you just interpret the position of this one planet by sign, house, and aspect, you will get to the “heart of the horoscope”. The effect is the same as if that planet were the only one on one side of the chart.”
http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/13.0Singletons.htm
http://www.astrologyclub.org
http://en.mimi.hu/astrology/singleton.html
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/archive/index.php/t-2334.html
(There is a book out by Shirley Lyons Meier, "Elemental Voids, More than Meets the Eye", which gives a good discussion of missing elements.) The Inferior Function can be a source of great motivation and creative expression.
http://www.astrologyclub.org/articles/singletons/intro/singleton_intro.htm

Lack of elements http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=18077
http://www.astrology-numerology.com/elements.html
http://www.astrology.aryabhatt.com/Astrology_Elements.asp
http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/EmptyElement12.1.htm
http://www.astrologyclub.org/article.../inferior2.htm

Mercury square Uranus = argumentativeness
Mercury square Neptune = what you mean to say and what you actually say can come out quite differently than you intend it...

There is a 'plethora' of information on AW, espec in the 'stickys' at the top of every forum, our Education forum and Recommendations forum to. Plus we have a good search feature,[but not foolproof obviously, so try here first] bit like google using keywords –initially select advanced and try just selecting 'titles' rather than posts or you'll get too many threads. If this doesn’t get results then try google

What Astrology Can and Can Not Do
http://www.ofspirit.com/susanmiller1.htm
http://www.cafeastrology.com/article...ndoforyou.html

Welcome to the World of Astrology!
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=14561

Re: Need some education: Which charts to use when?
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17514

Beginning to Study Astrology
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showpost.php?p=154469&postcount=10
http://www.soulhealing.com/tutorialwest.htm

Now basically your sun sign is your 'core beliefs, values, ego' and Asc is your physical body, mode of expression and mask and persona that we all wear and hide behind, but definitely not what's going on underneath. What's going on underneath is your Sun sign. Moon sign, house placements and aspects describe your emotional and intuitive responses, also describes your view of your mother, as saturn describes your father by sign and house position.

So, think of a glass milk bottle the bottle is your Asc and your sun the milk, but the milk still has to 'come out' through the glass neck of the milk bottle....

Now aspects within a natal chart represent 'facets' of our personality, because we are all multifaceted beings. What these do is 'break down and compartmentalise' these facets into smaller bite size chunks. This does take quite a lot of self analysis and objectivity to 'see yourself' and why you do certain things and behave in certain ways. Actually it can be quite good therapy...

Remember back to your school days an opposition is 180', square 90', trine 120', and sextile 60' Now challenged aspects are conj (depending on the planets, cos some like each other and some really don't) squares and oppositions. Easy aspects are conj (if the planets get along) eg: Jupiter conj Moon, sextile and trine. Quincunx is inbetween (depending on the planets) causes health strains and unresolved or hard to balance planets/energies.

[Brea]

Thank you all so very much for your insights/advice. I greatly appreciate it. I will definitely look into the Buddhist thing (love Buddhism), and thank you Wilson and especially Astrologer50 for your exceptional helpful words.

[dr. farr]

"It is better to Love, than to be loved..."
St. Francis of Assisi