My world is crashing down all around me

[SagiCap]

I have creditors from 7 years ago suddenly calling me, they're calling my relatives to find me, I have no love life, I have a horrendous home situation with a bed bug infestation (I have to throw out all my belongings and I have little money to re-stock my life), my ex is threatening legal action because I took our child camping (he knew this) but said he wanted to speak to her (we only went overnight) and I have nothing good to look forward to. I've sent my daughter to live with my Mom but now her living situation has changed and I don't know where to keep my daughter - to stay away from the bed bug issue. I'm about to snap. I need to know if things will get better for me. Any help please?



I think the culprit is Saturn transiting my natal Pluto. This is in 8th H of debts/other people's money. For the home situation, I can't figure out the transit cause. Saturn opposing Jupiter and squaring Moon - does that have any influence. I know I should look at Saturn and perhaps Venus as they factor in my 4th house perhaps?

All I've ever really wanted is love and home stability. A job that is fair. (I've accepted a job that is below my abilities and career level.) Is there any hope here?

[Ebenia]

You have transiting Saturn conjunct your Pluto, which makes a natal square to your natal Mercury, which is conjuncted by transiting Pluto. Transiting Uranus and Jupiter are also squaring Pluto and Mercury.

The first thing that came to my mind when I looked at your chart, is that you have Mercury in 12th house, which is all about secrets and also avoiding things. This is square Pluto in 8th house, which is the house of other people's money. So this is clearly saying, that you have a tendency to not take care of your money things, taxes and credit card bills etc. Now you have to "pay" for it. The pay time comes always, you cannot hide it. And maybe now your Mercury in 12th has put you into this position. Also the Mercury is the ruler of your 5th house, which could suggest that there could be something similar going on with your relationship to your kids and maybe this is why world put things hard for you right now.

Things will definitely get better, cause time changes all the time. But there is no help to struggle against these energies and things in life. You now how to be very straight and brave and really take charge of the situation. Stop hiding - that hasn't let you in a good place anyway. If your ex husband will take legal action against you, how does it look in the eyes of court, if you are at the same time hiding from creditors?

Nothing in our lives happens without a reason. There is a reason why this happens to you. Figure out why you need this lesson in your life and you are half way there.

Good luck.

[BobZemco]

Originally Posted by SagiCap

I have creditors from 7 years ago suddenly calling me

Your birthplace says Cairo, but I get the distinct impression you aren't there. Yes, Saturn is cruising the 8th House, but Jupiter is in opposition and Retrograde. Assuming you live in the United States, there are laws concerning the collection of debts (the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act) and each state, depending on the exact nature of the debt, has a statute of limitations that bars legal action to collect the debt, and for many states, the statute of limitations is also a statute of repose, meaning the debt is nullified once the statute of limitations has expired, meaning the debt no longer exists and any attempt to collect is illegal. There are a few nice web-sites that have examples of really cool letters to write to collectors to tell them to get bent (and most of the those letters were written by me when I was a moderator on a credit site).

Originally Posted by SagiCap

they're calling my relatives to find me

Sure, that falls under "Location Information" in the FDCPA, however your relatives are under no obligation to provide any information and no action (criminal or civil) can be taken against them for refusing.

Originally Posted by SagiCap

I have no love life

Yes, well, the 5th House Ruler Mercury has progressed into the House of Solitude (and Sorrow) the 12th House.

Originally Posted by SagiCap

I have a horrendous home situation with a bed bug infestation (I have to throw out all my belongings and I have little money to re-stock my life)

That would be Scorpio who governs creeping blood-sucking things. If you own your home, I'm very sorry about your luck, but if you rent, you can force the landlord to exterminate them. If you have problems with your landlord, an escrow account can be a very effective means. You go to your local municipal court, file a form that's probably laying on top of one of the counters, and you pay your rent to the court, not to the landlord. If the landlord wants his rent money, he'll have to take care of the infestation problem (to your satisfaction -- not his).

Originally Posted by SagiCap

my ex is threateningyou legal action because I took our child camping (he knew this) but said he wanted to speak to her (we only went overnight)

Yeah, well the Moon, your 7th House Ruler is Combust in Leo and also VOC so he's just flapping his lips, probably because that's the only way he can exert any control.

Originally Posted by SagiCap

All I've ever really wanted is love and home stability. A job that is fair. (I've accepted a job that is below my abilities and career level.) Is there any hope here?

In the short term, no; in the long term, probably. You have a Saturn opposition coming up, and you need to prepare for that because what you do in the next few years will affect the rest of your life.

[SagiCap]

Originally Posted by BobZemco

Your birthplace says Cairo, but I get the distinct impression you aren't there. Yes, Saturn is cruising the 8th House, but Jupiter is in opposition and Retrograde. Assuming you live in the United States, there are laws concerning the collection of debts (the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act) and each state, depending on the exact nature of the debt, has a statute of limitations that bars legal action to collect the debt, and for many states, the statute of limitations is also a statute of repose, meaning the debt is nullified once the statute of limitations has expired, meaning the debt no longer exists and any attempt to collect is illegal. There are a few nice web-sites that have examples of really cool letters to write to collectors to tell them to get bent (and most of the those letters were written by me when I was a moderator on a credit site).



Sure, that falls under "Location Information" in the FDCPA, however your relatives are under no obligation to provide any information and no action (criminal or civil) can be taken against them for refusing.



Yes, well, the 5th House Ruler Mercury has progressed into the House of Solitude (and Sorrow) the 12th House.



That would be Scorpio who governs creeping blood-sucking things. If you own your home, I'm very sorry about your luck, but if you rent, you can force the landlord to exterminate them. If you have problems with your landlord, an escrow account can be a very effective means. You go to your local municipal court, file a form that's probably laying on top of one of the counters, and you pay your rent to the court, not to the landlord. If the landlord wants his rent money, he'll have to take care of the infestation problem (to your satisfaction -- not his).



Yeah, well the Moon, your 7th House Ruler is Combust in Leo and also VOC so he's just flapping his lips, probably because that's the only way he can exert any control.



In the short term, no; in the long term, probably. You have a Saturn opposition coming up, and you need to prepare for that because what you do in the next few years will affect the rest of your life.

Thank you so much, Bob. All you say is backed up with practical things I can do, so I appreciate this so much. I live in Canada and I'll have to check into the laws. At that time, I thought everything was settled and paid. It's very odd. It's not my greatest concern. The bed bug situation is Toronto and NY is at an epidemic. It's horrible, I can't even tell you.

When you say Saturn opp. is coming up, can you please elaborate for me? I see that it's in my 4th natally, in Taurus (home) and would like to know what can happen in this situation. What exactly do I have to prepare for?

Thank you again!

[BobZemco]

Originally Posted by SagiCap

I live in Canada and I'll have to check into the laws.

O Canada, okay, well US law is based on English Common Law and so is O Canada's so I must believe you have some protection or wiggle room somewhere. Unfortunately, I can't offer any guidance since I'm ignorant of O Canadian laws.

Originally Posted by SagiCap

The bed bug situation is Toronto and NY is at an epidemic. It's horrible, I can't even tell you.

You don't have to, as I already know. I had a problem a few years ago before I left the US. You have to get rid of the eggs. If you have wooden floors (like I did) you have to vacuum real good with an upholstery attachment that has a brush around the frames of any bedding or upholstered couches, divans and chairs. For carpeting, have professional steam cleaners come in (but your landlord should pay that if you rent). I also used a chemical spray made by Bayer (any relation to the German Bayer Company -- I don't know) to kill them off. It was supposed to be safe for dogs. I'm a little larger than a dog and less furry, and I didn't die yet.

Originally Posted by SagiCap

When you say Saturn opp. is coming up, can you please elaborate for me? I see that it's in my 4th natally, in Taurus (home) and would like to know what can happen in this situation. What exactly do I have to prepare for?

It's part of cycle. You're fed a lot of nonsense your whole life and by the time of the 1st Saturn Return, you should have figured out the stories you were told are bollocks. The real world is nothing like the fantasy world people foist upon you when you're young.

Saturn is the Taskmaster, so after the 1st Saturn Return, you spend the time between that and the next Saturn opposition trying to fix all the mistakes you made.

When you come to that 2nd Saturn opposition, you have a lot of choices to make. Remember Saturn restricts, so you have to sometimes go against the grain and cast off a lot of things, sometimes even cast off people (including family members) who are dragging you down. Sometimes those oppositions can involve a lot of conflict, but some people have it easier because those oppositions represent awareness or cooperation or balance.

From then to the next Saturn square, you're "planting your field" and then from that square to the next (2nd) Saturn Return you harvest what you've "planted." If you didn't plant anything, then there's nothing to harvest.

In your case, your end of life is Taurus with Saturn sitting there ruling your Ascendant and Aquarius intercepted in the 1st House and the 4th House Ruler Venus is in Scorpio in the 9th and the Dispositor is Mars in Fall in Libra.

I don't want to frighten you, but it doesn't bode well. However it is descriptive since your natal "home" (Venus) is in the House of Far Away Places (the 9th). You really should be using a relocated chart with transits set for your current place of residence (and your Solar/Lunar Returns should be set there as well -- and corrected for precession) to get a better picture of what's really going on.

[SagiCap]

Originally Posted by BobZemco

O Canada, okay, well US law is based on English Common Law and so is O Canada's so I must believe you have some protection or wiggle room somewhere. Unfortunately, I can't offer any guidance since I'm ignorant of O Canadian laws.



You don't have to, as I already know. I had a problem a few years ago before I left the US. You have to get rid of the eggs. If you have wooden floors (like I did) you have to vacuum real good with an upholstery attachment that has a brush around the frames of any bedding or upholstered couches, divans and chairs. For carpeting, have professional steam cleaners come in (but your landlord should pay that if you rent). I also used a chemical spray made by Bayer (any relation to the German Bayer Company -- I don't know) to kill them off. It was supposed to be safe for dogs. I'm a little larger than a dog and less furry, and I didn't die yet.



It's part of cycle. You're fed a lot of nonsense your whole life and by the time of the 1st Saturn Return, you should have figured out the stories you were told are bollocks. The real world is nothing like the fantasy world people foist upon you when you're young.

Saturn is the Taskmaster, so after the 1st Saturn Return, you spend the time between that and the next Saturn opposition trying to fix all the mistakes you made.

When you come to that 2nd Saturn opposition, you have a lot of choices to make. Remember Saturn restricts, so you have to sometimes go against the grain and cast off a lot of things, sometimes even cast off people (including family members) who are dragging you down. Sometimes those oppositions can involve a lot of conflict, but some people have it easier because those oppositions represent awareness or cooperation or balance.

From then to the next Saturn square, you're "planting your field" and then from that square to the next (2nd) Saturn Return you harvest what you've "planted." If you didn't plant anything, then there's nothing to harvest.

In your case, your end of life is Taurus with Saturn sitting there ruling your Ascendant and Aquarius intercepted in the 1st House and the 4th House Ruler Venus is in Scorpio in the 9th and the Dispositor is Mars in Fall in Libra.

I don't want to frighten you, but it doesn't bode well. However it is descriptive since your natal "home" (Venus) is in the House of Far Away Places (the 9th). You really should be using a relocated chart with transits set for your current place of residence (and your Solar/Lunar Returns should be set there as well -- and corrected for precession) to get a better picture of what's really going on.

Thank you, Bob. Today I got some good news. The building landlord agreed to help out and spray (again). I am about to start an upheaval of my life. Getting rid of stuff I struggled to buy. Brand new furniture included. I think I found a solution to my childcare, I'll know tomorrow. I sat by the lake today, took off work and made a drastic plan with steps to put into action starting today. I'm a fighter. You can probably tell by the squares in my chart. I refuse to feel or be defeated. One thing I've learned is that you have to respect Saturn and work with it. I've learned this the hard way.

When you say "I don't want to frighten you" - well, this is a normal state for me. I'm immune to anything scary now. Just really peeved off my life can't be normal. But I have no other choice. If you see anything specific, please teach me how to identify it? I'd rather be fore-armed.

Thank you so much for your advice. Honestly, the people on this site have made me aware and they have all been so generous with their knowledge, like you. Thank you again!

[SagiCap]

Originally Posted by Ebenia

The first thing that came to my mind when I looked at your chart, is that you have Mercury in 12th house, which is all about secrets and also avoiding things. This is square Pluto in 8th house, which is the house of other people's money. So this is clearly saying, that you have a tendency to not take care of your money things, taxes and credit card bills etc. Now you have to "pay" for it. The pay time comes always, you cannot hide it. And maybe now your Mercury in 12th has put you into this position. Also the Mercury is the ruler of your 5th house, which could suggest that there could be something similar going on with your relationship to your kids and maybe this is why world put things hard for you right now.

Things will definitely get better, cause time changes all the time. But there is no help to struggle against these energies and things in life. You now how to be very straight and brave and really take charge of the situation. Stop hiding - that hasn't let you in a good place anyway. If your ex husband will take legal action against you, how does it look in the eyes of court, if you are at the same time hiding from creditors?

Actually this is from a deal he made by signing my signature. So, I hope this comes to court, because it would expose him. I couldn't fight what he did on my own with lawyers. Too expensive.

As for hiding, I haven't. He used to sign my name to my own Visa, to rental agreements and to bank loans and I have mostly been tediously fighting it. Creditiors don't care about (his) the fraud, they just want their cash back.

[Ebenia]

Okey SagiCap, good that you cleared that up.

Well I guess you are quite trapped then with the money issue and it can be seen in the challenging aspects in your chart.

Hopefully you can get one thing at a time into balance and hopefully the spraying will stop the bugs in your house. A good night sleep makes things always better...

[SagiCap]

Originally Posted by Ebenia

Well I guess you are quite trapped then with the money issue and it can be seen in the challenging aspects in your chart.

I don't think that way (negatively). I think of it as a way finally where my case could be brought to light, with authorities. Maybe I can solve this once and for all. But thanks for the comments above.

[Mechanical Designs]

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[SagiCap]

THANK YOU SO MUCH! This is really super-helpful. I've been feeling a bit of relief lately from the problems and this is echoed in your findings, MD. I will make extra note and pursue the points you made by researching further. Thanks for taking all this time to do this for me. It's really helping me feel better too!

[JayM]

Does anyone know what landlords are supposed to do in canada about bed bug problems, or what can you spray your stuff with to get rid of them?

[SagiCap]

Originally Posted by JayM

Does anyone know what landlords are supposed to do in canada about bed bug problems, or what can you spray your stuff with to get rid of them?

Thanks for the concern, JayM. I had about 3 sprays at my place and the problem seems to have disappeared. I'm so relieved. Recently, the newspapers in Toronto have had a ton of front page articles on this issue. The public movie theatres, retail stores and restaurants are all experiencing this, especially in a 15 km vicinity around my place - so the issue is re-infestation. One front page photo showed a giant bug climpin the CN Tower! I'm being really careful still.

[JayM]

I have heard that you can spray you place with a 25% bleach solution or some kiond of detergent to get rid of the bugs. What are you spraying your place with?

[SagiCap]

Originally Posted by JayM

I have heard that you can spray you place with a 25% bleach solution or some kiond of detergent to get rid of the bugs. What are you spraying your place with?

Thanks Jay. It's an industrial pesticide that the company uses. I commissioned my own service and also called my landlord, so I had two companies doing this at the same time at alternate times. I think they pretty much blasted the you-know-what out out them. So, it's gone now. It was just a nightmare to live with and what "bugs" me is that I'm a neat freak! Of course, these things are not borne of cleanliness and that's why it's hard to control. Otherwise, controlling them wouldn't be an issue. Some public places have had to put out warnings and things are just crazy. I remember you lived close to TO though? Correct?

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