what aspects point to liking older partners?

[Ixaee]

Definitely Capricorn / Saturn aspects..

I have a lot of Capricorn in my chart (mars, jupiter, eros in 5th house) and I adore older men. My preferred, by a longgg slide.

Ive heard that any Saturn in 5th or 7th house will give this.. true enough for me at least

[astrologer50]

Originally Posted by Bir Singh Khari

MOON in capricorn [ in a natal chart ] :-

1.IF aspected by SUN can keep a native Displeased , shabby and gives finencial problems too. could you define 'shabby'? could you post book or link reference to support this?
2.IF aspected by MURCURY then native may loose his confidence in critical situations . I would say 'anytime' not just criticial times
3.SATURN aspect makes him lazy [ idle ] , shoddy and a liar .

I would not have thought Saturn to be a liar, but the domain of Neptune the 'deceiver'

Saturn to mercury can be especially good for studying, research and alike. I think it's important to differeniate between 'hard' and soft' aspect. Saturn is notorious for knocking one's confidence and aspected to mercury may feel this lack when communicating or intimidated by good communicators (parents) from childhood.

When a sun is conjunct a heavyweight planet from Saturn onwards, ie: Uranus, Neptune and Pluto, that sun person automatically becomes and honorary Saturian, Uranian, Neptunian and Plutonian cos the contact with it is so very strong, whatever the sun sign

[virgo18]

I do like older partners!!!... and I only date guys which are at least 5 years older than me.... and mo more younger than that and no more older than 20 years older than me, and I am sure it is not only about Saturn in aspect to Venus and Sun, or Venus in Cap, or Saturn in the 7th.


what about the chart of a woman?
There will be Mars and Sun the planets that point the type of man she likes.
Age difference is about Saturn and Uranus: My mars square Saturn and Uranus, and my Sun square Uranus.

What about the 11th and 10th house both ruled by Saturn and the last by Uranus also?
-My Sun (men I want) - Is in the 10th house
-The ruler of my 5th house mars (men I like) - Is in the 10th
-The ruler of my 7th house Mercury - Is in the 10th/11th "whole house system"
-The ruler of my 9th house (2nd marriage) - Is in the 10th
my Venus - Is in the 11th
-My Juno - Is in the 10th/11th "whole house system"

All of them except the Sun, square Saturn
All of them square Uranus, except venus
All of them in the 11th or 10th houses "Capricorn and Aquarius natural houses"


Really, the young guys don't attract me , in spite my 7th house is in Gemini.


I have to say that this aspects will make you like older partners:

Sun, Venus, Mars, Moon, and Ruler of the 7th: in Cap or Aq or ( 10th or 11th) or aspect to Saturn or Uranus

[moonwillow]

Interesting, I tend to prefer older man, alot older (10 yrs +). I will check my chart to see any co relation.

[byjove]

Originally Posted by starlink

Yes, SAturn, Capricorn and Aquarius, traditionally ruled by Saturn all play a role in "older". Be it as rulers of the 7th house (very common, but it can also mean a marriage much later in life, a delay in other words), Saturn in the 7th or the ruler of the 7th house in Capricorn. Venus or Moon-Saturn connections as well I would think.

Wow I think I crack a few of these in one:

-Saturn rules 7th
-Moon (1st ruler) square Saturn
-Venus square Saturn
-Sun trine Saturn (exact 0.01)
-Saturn hosts a T-square and is busy with aspects

And yes, the vast majority were older, so much easier and nicer to deal with!

[tokyo.lights]

Very interesting! I may be the only person with Saturn in the 7th not attracted to older men, they just don't do it for me. I also have Pluto in the 7th and intense, passionate men don't do much for me either.

[byjove]

Originally Posted by tokyo.lights

Very interesting! I may be the only person with Saturn in the 7th not attracted to older men, they just don't do it for me. I also have Pluto in the 7th and intense, passionate men don't do much for me either.

Well, as for Saturn, what's much less known and I suspect might be true is that you are not always dating the older partner - sometimes you are the older person and play that role with a younger person...

[Jai Kishen]

I have saturn in 7th house , and yup , I am attracted to elder women

[Ixaee]

Originally Posted by tokyo.lights

Very interesting! I may be the only person with Saturn in the 7th not attracted to older men, they just don't do it for me. I also have Pluto in the 7th and intense, passionate men don't do much for me either.

Definitely what Byjove said

Capricorn is age-difference in general, someone older, someone younger... so if you arent very attracted to older men, then you may become a cougar for the young guys once you get a bit older yourself!

Because I have Mars/Eros in Capricorn (+ my Sun is conjunct Saturn), I usually swing to liking older men much more! Young men (even my age) rarely ever appeal to me in the least.

Since your 7th is only in Capricorn, there's more flexibility there... Where is Saturn (ruler of Capricorn) in your chart? And do you have any aspects to it?

[Jai Kishen]

I would also like to say that it is not necessarily that the person is "elder" in age , but it relates to on how mature the person is ..
I know a girl who is actually a year younger to me , but she seems to be veyr mature and practical ..

So capricorn/aquarius/saturn in 7th would point out on getting attracted to more "mature and practical" partners

[starlink]

So capricorn/aquarius/saturn in 7th would point out on getting attracted to more "mature and practical" partners

Very good observation!

[tokyo.lights]

Originally Posted by byjove

Well, as for Saturn, what's much less known and I suspect might be true is that you are not always dating the older partner - sometimes you are the older person and play that role with a younger person...

Originally Posted by Ixaee

Definitely what Byjove said

Capricorn is age-difference in general, someone older, someone younger... so if you arent very attracted to older men, then you may become a cougar for the young guys once you get a bit older yourself!

Because I have Mars/Eros in Capricorn (+ my Sun is conjunct Saturn), I usually swing to liking older men much more! Young men (even my age) rarely ever appeal to me in the least.

Since your 7th is only in Capricorn, there's more flexibility there... Where is Saturn (ruler of Capricorn) in your chart? And do you have any aspects to it?

Oh reallllly? That's most certainly something to look forward to in a few years xD
Additionally I've felt I'm often attracted to men I admire, respect and look up to, the ones who have come into my life have that archetypal Capricorn ~swagger~ which is very appealing Saturn is in Scorpio, and Saturn rules the 10th & 11th house. Saturn trines my Sun. (sextiles Neptune, conjunct Pluto).

[MaeMae]

no one ever mentons jupiter in these instances.
how many students fall in love with teachers? especially in college.
my great grandmother, summoned by my mother....
the reason guys like older women?
they don't yell, they don't swell and their as fun as hell.
seriously ~ no decent, growth producing relationship occurs with more than a 10 year age difference. anything past that gap automatically elicits needs of an eternal childhood or sex rules out over relationship content.
teach me everything you know....

[byjove]

Originally Posted by tokyo.lights

Oh reallllly? That's most certainly something to look forward to in a few years xD
Additionally I've felt I'm often attracted to men I admire, respect and look up to, the ones who have come into my life have that archetypal Capricorn ~swagger~ which is very appealing Saturn is in Scorpio, and Saturn rules the 10th & 11th house. Saturn trines my Sun. (sextiles Neptune, conjunct Pluto).

Yes I just spotted you in the Sun trines Saturn thread...(high-fives).

[tokyo.lights]

Originally Posted by byjove

Yes I just spotted you in the Sun trines Saturn thread...(high-fives).

Oh yes I remember -high fives-

[cheri3eLaura]

I have Saturn in Aquarius in my 5th house and Sun, Venus, Mars in Capricorn.

I prefer experienced men with stable jobs.
Maturity is important to me but not as much as security.

It DOES NOT necessarily mean that I'm ONLY attracted to older men.

They're okay, more like a "father" to me, but never liked men 10 years older! Besides, too mature a partner could make you look immature. Other than that, age gap could be problematic in the long run.

[girlcat]

I always wondered this as two significant relationships in my life were both 15 years older than me...both problematic and unstable.

I had a reading done a while back and was told that mars which rules my descendant, which sits in leo illuminated by the sun, so the sun is a co-ruler of my 7th. the midpoint of saturn & my venus/mars conjunction sit directly on my virgo sun! kind of obscure but a very potent influence.

He then went on to explain that while gravitating toward someone to fulfill the sun symbolism it can be very easy to fall into unhealthy father figure relationships, so I need to make sure to choose "marsy" individuals...equals is basically what he was emphasizing. my sun is heavily afflicted while my mars/venus has harmonious aspects.

So midpoints are very revealing as I'm sure many of you know

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by Stella

this is a very interesting question.i'm looking forward to read the answers from those who know,as i'm a beginner and can't give a correct answer.......it definitely has something to do with saturn and its aspects,isn't it?

Older partners Venus with Saturn especially connected to the 7th house.

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by girlcat

I always wondered this as two significant relationships in my life were both 15 years older than me...both problematic and unstable.

I had a reading done a while back and was told that mars which rules my descendant, which sits in leo illuminated by the sun, so the sun is a co-ruler of my 7th. the midpoint of saturn & my venus/mars conjunction sit directly on my virgo sun! kind of obscure but a very potent influence.

He then went on to explain that while gravitating toward someone to fulfill the sun symbolism it can be very easy to fall into unhealthy father figure relationships, so I need to make sure to choose "marsy" individuals...equals is basically what he was emphasizing. my sun is heavily afflicted while my mars/venus has harmonious aspects.

So midpoints are very revealing as I'm sure many of you know

No co rulers of houses. Only one. If you have Aries on the descendant then that sort of partner you would attract. Depends on what aspects Mars makes and where. You need to post your chart.

Uranus means unstable conditions and that may be in the mix. The sun in our charts show how we perceive our fathers and who we are attracted to along with our Mars. The 7th house of partners is one of equality and balance. If you had long term older partners then Saturn is also a strong influence. It is the planet of authority, bosses, parental figure and is karmic in nature, as it comes from the past.

[girlcat]

my bad,
my descendant is in aries, mars rules aries
the exaltation ruler is the sun
the sun rules all fire signs during the daytime, putting those two together he concluded the primary rulership for my 7th house is the sun.

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by Tamara

well maybe that famous venus/saturn aspect? i have sextile and i`m really attracted to those older than me..also maybe 7th house ruler`s aspects to saturn or somehow 10th house involvment with realtionship planets? not sure about these, but my venus/saturn really manifests that way..
anyway i think saturn has something to do in such kind of attractions...

You are right but 10th house would be involvement with your boss or other authority figure. Venus sextile Saturn is easier and you may like the idea of an older more stable partner who can parent you in some ways. This may be unconscious.

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by girlcat

my bad,
my descendant is in aries, mars rules aries
the exaltation ruler is the sun
the sun rules all fire signs during the daytime, putting those two together he concluded the primary rulership for my 7th house is the sun.

I dont agree, sorry. Mars is the ruler. THe Sun rules Leo, night or day.

[Claire19]

Originally Posted by MaeMae

no one ever mentons jupiter in these instances.
how many students fall in love with teachers? especially in college.
my great grandmother, summoned by my mother....
the reason guys like older women?
they don't yell, they don't swell and their as fun as hell.
seriously ~ no decent, growth producing relationship occurs with more than a 10 year age difference. anything past that gap automatically elicits needs of an eternal childhood or sex rules out over relationship content.
teach me everything you know....

Some guys do like older women and then they are as grateful as hell as well. Not that I believe that urban myth.. They can yell with the best of them. As for not swelling, what about the menopausal stomach fat.

Men with Moon Venus connected to Saturn may like the older woman and it is a mother thing, even if unconscious. Sometimes they feel inferior and think that an older woman will accept them as they cant attract the younger.

I met a guy with whom my Saturn is conjunct his Venus in Leo exact.
I am much much older than he but he does not care. I do.

[girlcat]

Originally Posted by Claire19

I dont agree, sorry. Mars is the ruler. THe Sun rules Leo, night or day.

Yeah that's what I always thought too but that was his opinion and he is one of the most respected astrologers today. So I'm definitely not going to dismiss it.
In any case the reason I brought it up was just to point toward the fact that my sun sits on my Saturn & Venus/mars midpoint and my attraction toward older gents

[CapAquaPis]

My natal Venus in the 10th ruled by youthful Aries conjuncts Ceres and the Solar-Lunar conjunction in Aquarius, plus the Cancer ascendant might bring me a few friends as women & rare love interests being 3-9 years older (I'm 32 and male) and there's Neptune in Sagittarius-the 6th trines Uranus in Scorpio-my 5th, also trines the 8th house of love, romance and sexiness.

The planetary cluster of Mars-Jupiter-Saturn-Lilith in my 3rd Virgo are generationally symbolic for someone interested in the past, for men like myself wouldn't mind a woman older than he, and the True Node in 29 Leo with the Venusian Libran 7th over the Saturnian Capricorn descendant with the Sun/Moon of Aquarius near-opposite Virgo trine Pluto in Libra.

I guess an Uranus in Scorpio component makes me attracted to confident independent women who are mature but have a heart of gold wants to have regular casual fun with a young man not to make her feel good: I'm simply want to be with a woman I'm comfortable with, regardless of age. Heck, my best friends are a 48-year old woman & her 22-year old daughter as well with my mother abit over 60.