For everyone who regards their squares and oppositions with trepidation, I'd like to post this chart, my older sister. Just looking at it gives me an overwhelming sense of pride
. She is one of the purest, bravest, kindest and most fearlessly human people I have known.
This is how her life has been:
She was excellent at school, but painfully shy and reclusive; always duxed the class. At home, she'd lay on her bed and (this is odd, but true) bounce tweezers off the wall and ceiling, while telling herself fantastical fantasy stories. She wrote poetry from a young age. When she was 17, my parents moved to Australia with their family (three existing children, I was not yet a twinkle in my parent's eyes)
My sister didn't make the transition well. While my brothers adapted quickly, she was targeted for being awkward, shy and too smart. Kids used to throw her bag out of the classroom. One day she came early and laced the straps of the bag to the desk. Upon discovering this, her classmates threw her out instead. She was no longer top of the class, and distraught by the loss of her only perceived purpose. She has told me that she spent her childhood feeling alien; an imposter in a human body, just waiting for people to notice. She started hiding in cupboards and escaping school. I only have the story second-hand, but I can summarise it by saying that she got smaller and smaller, more internalised and less responsive, until she moved into her bedroom and wouldn't come out, wouldn't talk, wouldn't do a thing.
She spent years in psychiatric care instead of school, refusing most psyciatrists until one earned her trust. He confided in her just a little, offering something warm instead of endless personal questions from an impersonal stance. She still speaks to him today. My sister met her husband-to-be in psychiatric hospital. I was flower girl at their wedding. They spent ten years together working on farms, crayboats, and living in caravans. They had two sons. My sister's first child (my oldest nephew) was an unusual and exceptionally difficult baby. She still carries the burden of feeling, and being seen as, a failed mother.
Her marriage broke when my sister started studying again, aged thirty. It was the step that brought her into her full capabilites as an independent adult. Naturally, she earned exceptional marks, and a scholarship for doctoral study. She's now a microbiologist. Her ex-husband has custody of their two sons, and she pays maintenance money. Their divorce was frightening, and instigated a series of twistes phonecalls from her ex-husband. I remember being on the phone with clamped, sick fear in my stomach and not knowing what to say, being stunned by the venom from my ex-brother-in-law. He threatened suicide, he went missing, even now I'm sure I don't know the full extent of what he did.
Eventually, she met the man she is now married to. They are both shy, and met through personal ads
They are the ultimate taurus couple
So funny, they eat out at the same restaurants on the same days each week. Their wedding poems (they each wrote one) were delightful, only those two could write about how lovely it is that someone is there to warm up their bath towel in the drier before they get out the shower
So, my sister is happy. She's faced depression, shyness, alcaholism, suicidal attempts, difficult child-raising, abuse, divorce, and she had the courage to build something new that could make her happy. What I love most about her is that she can speak about what is most painful, and is brave enough to face it fully. She does the best she can for her children, and they have a strong, if unconventional, relationship. She's only ever spoken with compassion for her ex-husband. I could tell my sister anything without shame, because she has dealt with her own. I trust no-one more, and could not feel more proud.
Hope you don't mind the lack of astrological analysis, I didn't want to spoil the story with talk of sqaures and oppositions
I also feel that most of this story can be seen quite readily in her chart. Perhaps I'll post again soon with a chart analysis