My ex is driving me crazy!

[sagvirgorising]

An ex got in touch a few years back and we have been emailing since and whenever the mood grabbed him. As he lives overseas the only contact has been phone calls and emails. For a few years he has been saying he's returning to the country to pick up where we left off! (I was crazy about this guy back then but circumstances got in the way - long story). We stopped talking a few months back but he sent a few invitations to join chat sites which i ignored as I thought it was probably a case of - upload your contacts and we'll get in touch with all of them. Anyway he got back in touch on his birthday by another more personal invitation, so i wished him happy birthday and then he called and we started chatting online again. He mentioned marriage! I
was defensive and suspicious but I would probably do anything for him which is dangerous and vulnerable position for me to be in. (he's a my-pluto-square-his-venus ex! ) So my question was am I getting married this year?

I would have been looking for a mercury - jupiter aspect and there is none. Not too keen on the first house Saturn rx or Uranus on the descendant!! I thought the jupiter sextile pluto was his way of trying to manipulate me (do i sound paranoid? ) He kind of had me dangling for a while. As mercury I am angular but the moon is in a critical degree (and it is in my 7th and rules my 11th). Is it possible the moon is classed at 8th house being close to the cusp? As for mercury angular, in saturn's house, own terms, facing Jupiter but in detriment to moon and fall of jupiter. Jupiter, cadent, 0 degrees, but in it's own house nothing going on with Mercury except fall and detriment!! So Mercury and Jupiter are bad for each other?

The moon squared mercury and then trined mars rx, then went on to sextile Neptune and just make an out of sign sextile to Jupiter which is a benefic in the 6th house. The moon recieves Jupiter by triplicity which means what? The moon likes Jupiter or jupiter likes the moon? (I always get mixed up with that, no matter how many times i look it up I never understand it). It looks bad to me, I don't really want to get married and i feel the whole thing has just been a game to him, I do have genuine feelings for him but he'll do something to annoy me and I tell him off then I get the silent treatment. Any suggestions? It may be time to just finally leave it in the past. I can't go on like this.

[moved thread out of Greenhorns to relational horary as you gave some interpretation. Moderator.]

[gemini59]

HmmmYou are merc and moon as well as saturn if you count alumetens. He is jupiter and Uranus is the divorce planet on his cusp. S
Saturn in the first implies delays, obstruction. In retrograde can imply a return of something in the past. It can also be cowardice, retreat, withdrawal.
Jupiter occupies his 12th house and in other words he may be confined from his perspective.
Moon is really void. You may could count the connection to jupiter in sextile implying some change.
Jupiter does not connect to mercury and you noted there does not appear to be reception.
The moon last aspect to jupiter implies a coming together but only at the point of change.

[sagvirgorising]

Thank you for your time

I could name 101 things that could be that Saturn! Problems, fears, responsibilities and debts!! The whole lot!! (It's funny too, natally he is a cap and I am a sag). Would you say this looks like a wait and see then? I'd rather not waste any more time or energy on him if he clearly is not interested as he suggests or he's trying to manipulate the situation. What would the Neptune conjunct him suggest? His lies? The only thing is the fact he is Jupiter and it's an out of sign sextile at the end by the moon. In signs of short ascension, wouldn't this make the sextile smaller? So it wouldn't mean much anyway? Or that the moon contacts a benefic which might suggest I'd be better off out of it, so he's a doing me a favour? (I can't stand when men do the I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you thing! It feels a lot like that).
Another thing I noticed, Markab is where Uranus is, on my descendant and his ascendant. If that means anything? (The star of sorrow).

[sagvirgorising]

Originally Posted by Haizea

You are saying you've known him for many years. Do you think he would talk to you of marriage just to play with you? I don't know what will happen, but I wouldn't think he is joking.

Hi Haizea, as I said in the pm..... I'd keep you updated.

I know in horary we only look for a yes /no answer and so given that we basically have to go on by what others say we only look to answer the question. I'd like to point out I did notice the mutual reception of Saturn in 1st (his 7th - and possible cheated wife) with Venus, him being in Venus's house still and what's more in his 12th ( I suspected lies with his Jupiter conjunction to Neptune and that I as Mercury was moving away from his Pluto). There are only so many lies you can take before you get suspicious and the internet is a great place to find things out. (Especially swinger/sex adds for a bisexual couple looking to expand their love which ruled by venus and placed in the 3rd/8th house which could be communication/sex!!)

So.........I guess I have found the hidden answers in this case and I am so relieved, I was seriously doubting myself for thinking badly of him. Thank the Lord for 'google' and searching his numerous email addresses!! Hehe - now I can move on and leave that sucker behind! Stupid Uranus transiting my 7th house! He came back into my life about that same time as a friend which I will miss - but I really don't like lies.

The crazy thing was that Jupiter in my latest venus return (4th Jan) was in a direct trine to my sun/moon midpoint and conjunct Neptune ruler of my 7th possibly suggesting the start of a committed relationship (according to cafeastrology). I see that Neptune will move to that same 27 degree in March 30th setting off a whole load of midpoints and aspects so we'll see. Hhhhm!

Hope this is of use for educational purposes......