Originally Posted by retinoid
yeah but saturn is very strong in the 8th which impedes me from really 'hooking up'...so I am left with feeling very sexually frustrated between the two so mine feels worse.
The house of "hooking up" for the sake of romance (or at least at first) is the 5th, so look at that house. The more serious house of "hooking up" for something long-term is then the 7th. The relationship itself and its development or maturity is then the 8th where you 'share' everything with the partner.
Though Saturn actually has joy in the 12th house that supports its characteristic of limiting, or to put it in the 12th-house terms of retreat and confinement; you are right insofar as traditionally Saturn is linked to the 8th house (of total retreat through death). Saturn there can increase fear of disease and death.