Dysfunctional family

[Michael]

Dear Astrology Weekly,

I have family issues with my father, mother and brothers as far as I can remember. Among other things I cannot communicate with my mother and I don't feel loved. Please give me any advice or analysis about this issue.

Thank you.


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[Night Sky]

Your parents are basically blackmailing liars, who use blame constantly to make you feel like you owe them something when you don´t.

I have Neptune at 27 Sag on the IC too. Though it square 1st house Mars instead of Mercury.

[Michael]

The analysis you provide sounds harsh and a little surprising, but I believe it may be true.

[estrella]

With your moon in the 3rd square mars in the 10th, I wonder if your mother ever diminished your masculinity. Also, you have venus conjunct mars in the 12th, so I wonder if you have a psychological dilemma over your sexuality, maybe you feel bisexual or homosexual at times and you suppress it because you feel pressure from your judgemental family. In any case, it is clear that your masculine and feminine energies are in balance, as the conjunction is favorably aspected.

Communication seems like it is very, very important to you (mercury in the the 1st). Also, you have uranus and jupiter conjunct in the 3rd house. It seems that you have a taste for exotic and foreign subjects and that you can be very innovative and almost revolutionary in how you communicate with your community and brothers & sisters-this can put them off a bit if they are closed minded and judgemental.

Neptune in the 4th tells me that your early home life was full of deception, guilt trips, and possibly substance abuse. Perhaps your parents worked in a neptune industry like oil, drugs, factory line work, or mining? Your north node in the tenth opposed to neptune in the 4th and both square mercury in the first tells me that your family situation and lack of communication is something that you are meant to deal with in this lifetime-it is up to you to decide how is best for you to handle it.

[Night Sky]

They are still probably very generous though. With Jupiter in Sag, ruler of IC. May be the travelling type or simply promise more than they can give.

[Night Sky]

They are probably very good, with the Jupiter rulership.


Neptune is about confusion and them not being there the way they ought to, undermining you in little ways. That´s how I see it.

They might do it simply to keep you at home because they need you. Or they might do it to make you a failure so that you think that they are greater, better than you so that you are reliant and never "go your own way".

Issues of dependency my friend. They are dependent themselves on you, but make you think that you are the dependent one. It´s a deceit.

[kissefemme]

ok it all sounds a bit extreme, but i can see where you feel that you aren't communicating with your mother well. it's not just you and it's not her or your families to blame. though, you are smart to make the best of a good opportunity to become independant and level yourself with the people in your family who you think are being unfair. you will see things from a different perspective.

Best Wishes!

[hermetic]

Problems with mother are signified by Moon in Scorpio - it's fall and squared by Mars from 12th
communications signified by Pluto which is conj Saturn can mean this parental frustration of communication can be later expanded to other people.
I see it as a greatest task in life to move on from behaviors learned with our parents, and be free to chose our ways with other people.
Majority tho functions by the principle of recognizing those who have similar patterns and stick to them.
Key is, I think , not to try to change anything about your family life, it is unlikely it could be changed, but to get rid yourself of the notions this is the only possible pattern of human functioning. Your North Node in 10th points to this clearly.
'Olvidate los padres' - just a quote

[aquarius7000]

I agree with Hermetic. Moon in Sco plus in a square to a 12th-house Mars can indicate problems with the mother/women in the native's life that border on control/jealousy/manipulation issues (Sco/Plu). Mars can aggravate matters further, perhaps involve violence; and cause a 'flurry' of emotions/ internal tension within the native. On a more positive note, it can indicate deep emotions/ fairly intense ties with the mother.

Neptune in the 4th can mean a compassionate/sacrificing/ spiritual family/ one living by the water/ home being a place where the native can escape from the harshness of the 'real' world on the one hand; but also deception/unclear family ties/home that feels like confinement on the other.

Your Sun seems to be square your MC, which would show problems with figures of authority: father being one of them. You might even encounter problems with your bosses at work.

AQ7