I don't know if anyone else has heard of this before, but the author Robert Blaschke says that if you compare one person in a relationship's sidereal chart to the other's tropical chart you will see alot of cool stuff. HE WAS SOOOOO RIGHT! Once I tried it I found it FARRRR closer than just comparing mine and someone else's tropical charts. It seemed to answer all of the questions I had on what was going on between this other person and I.
I would LOVE if some other people would try this and tell me what they think.