Is he ready to let go of his past?

[Lissa]

Question asked at11h29AM,June 2nd 2008, in Tires,Portugal.

I've been wanting to have a boyfriend for a long time,but I surely wasn't desperate to find one.I was just ready to wait and see what the future would bring me,while enjoying some casual flirting in the meantime.Then,about two weeks ago,came this guy,who is close to perfection-cute,great smile,sweet,caring,fun to hang out with and easy to talk to...needless to say,I was immediatly atracted to him,and so was he.We went out one day and we got along really well and ended up making out bla bla bla.Then came the downfall-he told that kissing me made him remember of his ex-girlfriend... You can imagine how it feels when a guy says such a thing...He and his ex-girlfriend are still friends and I have met the girl and she is just adorable,and he says he feels nothing when he sees her and he has even seen her making out with another and it didn't hurt him or anything,but it's just not normal that kissing another girl makes him remember of her.He says he really likes me and that I'm special to him and he wants to be with me but doesn't feel good about himself being with me while thinking of her and I agree.I feel like stepping away from the situation and going back to where I was before,moving away from him and giving him some time to think things through,but he says he couldn't stand such a thing and neither could I-I just feel like I'm in too deep.

It's been a really long time since I've laid my eyes on an horary chart,so I'm taking baby steps.I usually use the 7th house when I ask love questions,so that would make him Saturn,in my house,so he's defintely into me.And,correct me if I'm wrong,but Saturn also receives the Sun,my significator,by triplicity and it also receives the Moon by term and face,all good indicators that yeah,he does like me.The Sun,me,also receives Saturn by face and Mars by triplicity,so there is definitly a good amount of atraction here(thank God!)(Or maybe I'm getting the receptions wrong,like I said it's been a long time since I last used horary and I'm not too sure about this).However,I have no clue what house I would use for his past-maybe the turned12th,the house of sorrow?

As for the end of the matter-Mars,in Leo in the12th.Venus applies a sextile to Mars so I'm getting a yes.The Moon also applies a square to Neptune,a planet in his house,and the Moon is exalted and in his end of the matter,so I'm taking a yes.And the Sun,me,applies a sextile to Mars,he.

I'm thinking yes,he will let go of his past and come to me-eventually...

[archergirl]

Hi Lissa,

I'm not sure a horary can answer a question like this very well (it is too subjective; horary is best used for factual matters). People are ready when they are ready, and not a minute sooner!

But in any case, although there are receptions as you say, the Sun has separated from a square with Saturn, and the Moon is applying by square to Saturn. I don't see an easy relationship on the horizon. Your Sun next applies to Mars, which *also* rules his 3rd house; you might want to try talking to him about this issue, if you can find a way to do it that doesn't 'scare' him too much. You are placed in the 11th house of friendship, so it may be that at this time he views you as a friend, someone with whom he can feel comfortable and 'safe'; that, often, is much more important than the 'romance' bit.

Anyone who says that kissing you reminds him of someone else is clearly putting up big warning signs; whether he is over his ex-girlfriend or not, he is still not ready to let down his barriers, and since you are still young and smart and pretty, I wouldn't waste my time waiting around for him to be ready...you might be waiting a long time. Heh, I speak from experience here. Move on!

It is also somewhat likely that if you become slightly less interested in him romantically, he may suddenly get more interested in you. I don't know why people like to play this sort of game, but it is human nature, so if you want to try it that way, you might have better luck.

Good luck!
AG

[Lissa]

Hi there Archer,

Sorry that it took me so long answering you,I really haven't been around here much.Since last Friday we're decided we're together as a couple-he says I made him forget about his ex and so far,I get along with him really well,I don't get shy around him and we have fun together.I'm having loads of problems because,once again,I'm in too deep and started falling for him too fast-just want to be with him 24/7 and think about him all the time.I jsut really,really like him,and,as always,I'm ready to completly give myself to him but sometimes it crosses my mind that I really don't know him for that long and maybe I should be careful but my Aries Moon/Mercury/Venus simply cannot be slowed down.I'm also trying my best not to be clingy but,having being treated like trash in the past,I can't help but interpret every little thing as a sign of a lack of affection.Somedays I just get a little crazy and overwhelmed by my emotional needs There's a part of me that just wants to let go and get back to my innocent flirting and occasional making out with my old,trusted 'make out buddies'(by make out I mean just kissing and hanging out,nothing too serious!).

I'll be posting our composite to see if this is something that's worth pursuing.

[Lissa]

Ohh,and I forgot to say,thank you for having a look at this

Blessings,
Lissa

[Catatonia]

Err..let go of this guy