What's up with this synastry, i'm lost

Hi,
I'm really confused here. There's such an unstable, yet REALLY predictive pattern in our relationship and unfortunately it's not easy to control. I don't even think control is the proper solution. I'm kind of stuck in a place where she hurts me and then she doesn't even remember how (or acts like it, i don't know!) I have no idea HOW i hurt her or even if i do at all!
She's pissed off at me, tells me she don't wanna see me anymore and then a couple of months later, she acts like nothing happened and it's like 1st lvl all over again. I'm not sure i'm investing anything emotionally anymore, i'm not sure she is either. Connection seems to be there, really does, but it's seriously elusive... Even though i'm pretty sure we are physically attracted to each other, i have no idea why that is.
I've also included a composite chart if that helps...
I wish there is someway this can work without anyone being deeply hurt or pissed off. Don't view us as 'romantic partners', i don't think that's accurate...

bump ...

moons scorpio-cap, 3/11, unfriendly signs-lords mars-cap,
emotionally not compatible;
moon scorpio secretive, suspicious, sentimental, passionate;
moon cap ambitious, hardworking, practical;

moon scorpio compatible with moons scorpio, pisces;]
further matching ascendants, and chart matching;


asc signs cancer-virgo, 3/11, lords moon-mer, again unfriendly;
cancer sensitive, intuitive, possessive;
virgo intellectual, critical thinking, perfectionist, practical;


composite has mars 6th, having to cope with opponents;
pars fortuna over 6th for losses;
sun-sat lords 1/7 gemini-aries 3/11, unfriendly lords signs mer-mars;
sat lord 7th debilated over inimical aries 9th,
stress-delays in marriage, luck-edu-travels;

her lords 1/7 jup-mer over acq-virgo unfriendly signs 6/8 lords sat-mer,
severe conflicts in marriage;

your lords 1/7 moon-sat similarly scorpio-aries, 6/8, same lord mars,
prone to sweet conflicts in marriage;

hope this helps reflect, share ground feedbacks,
could have done charts matching before deciding to enter the relationship;


wishing well,


kshantaram

3/11, signs being 3rd or 11th from each other for friendships.

Well... our relationship began 1 year before i even had an interest in astrology
Thanks, the things you say are pretty much spot on. Btw, what does 3/11 mean?
And yeah, i don't know about marriages, but her relationship conflicts are way heavier than mine.