Peregrine_MoonIf you post a chart, you're much more likely to get a response. Without the chart, there's not much to say about the aspect other than what you'll find elsewhere online.
If you use whole signs, your man's Sun-Jupiter-Venus are in 1st house and his Saturn is in 7th less than 3' to his Dsc. And Saturn is opposite Sun-Jup-Ven.
Tell us something about this person. He sounds like someone with hard life or a hard man like those who earn happiness through sick love.
A traditional astrologer could tell us.
Looking at his chart...
The 7th ruler is in the 12th conjunct jupiter, which is opposite saturn-descendant conjunction. There maybe a desire to keep relationships a secret.
I've noticed that in his chart, it makes me wonder but the truth is
I don't know...
I met him through a work related aquaintance. She's not real close with neither me nor him. She knows only of one previous relationship of his.
Saturn conjunct descendant creates a cautious approach to relationships.
Very cautious, he has been like that from day one. There were times I thought he was... afraid of me.
One of the very first things he told me were that he has never been tolerant of pressure and manipulation with the women in his life... and at the time we lived about 100 miles apart
(his saturn oppos venus,
mars conjuct uranus?)
The opposition of jupiter-saturn can create a oscillation due to the expansiveness of jupiter and contraction of saturn. So, an oscillation between wanting a secret relationship and not wanting one at all?
I have thought that it would be very easy for him to have
other women around but to me he seems
more of a guy who would rather be alone than be in a relationship...
I am not sure though, maybe I see him this way.
Either he is concerned about the opinions of others, or maybe there are other love interests in play. With that pluto square moon, maybe he thinks his mother will object to you?
Maybe
It is also interesting to note that transiting jupiter is in his 7th. Gemini can often be fickle and can bring more than one opportunity at a time.
I was afraid of that
In placidus, 5th ruler (mars) is in indecisive libra, trine to that transiting jupiter. In equal house, the 5th ruler (neptune) is in the first house and currently square to transiting neptune in pisces.
He does seem very indecisive towards me
Personally, I'm suspicious of his motives. Do you know anyone that sees him on a regular basis?
We have a few common friends but not a single person who sees him regularly.
He is a mystery to a lot of his friends
That is trouble. Being a scorpio he is surely to sense your 1st house pluto-asc conjunction and mars in 7th.chris10 said:One of the very first things he told me were that he has never been tolerant of pressure and manipulation with the women in his life
More trouble. It will be difficult to determine the truth.chris10 said:We have a few common friends but not a single person who sees him regularly.
He is a mystery to a lot of his friends
That is trouble. Being a scorpio he is surely to sense your 1st house pluto-asc conjunction and mars in 7th.
More trouble. It will be difficult to determine the truth.
With mercury in first, gemini moon, and 3rd ruler conjunct descendant, it seems like he would want someone for conversation. Although saturn ruling the third might restrict the amount of it.
He actually talks a lot, we talk a lot when we are together.
I talked about things I felt comfortable with telling him, he did too.
There was no pressure.
Giving him the benefit of doubt on being a player,
I did accuse him of being a player, he said that he is not and that he is very careful about starting a relationship with a woman since his experiences haven't been all that great...
what can I say? ... I believed him, I felt the need to believe him, I want to believe him (remember my neptune ruled Pisces DESC? haha) but I am aware of the fact that he may be a player.
it seems more like he is after a casual, intimate friend, rather than a partner. Did he ever communicate his point of view on marriage or committed relationships? If not, I would bring that up as philosophical conversation. You might get a clue on likes/dislikes.