To show them the ephemeral nature of love between mortals
I believe that the previous answer is not correct. Venus doesn't speak about love because love is universal energy. Venus determines relationships.
One of the purposes may be to learn how to be content with yourself, your own personality or to learn you how to survive on your own resources through cutting you off from satisfactory relationships.
The problem here is that to describe purpose of Chiron contacts is very difficult as our weak spots are least known to us. There are surely another purposes of this aspect, what I've found in literature is that it confronts you with the darker side of relating, sexual competition, entanglement, emotional manipulation and underground power struggles (as M. Reinhart puts in). That means a need to learn about negative sides of relationships and set up realistic expectations.
It would be also good to specify what does the unrequited love means. Is it a yearning for a relationship which isn't answered by the other person? Or is it a kind of disinterest from a person who already is in the relationship with you?
The truth is that love isn't ephemeral as you say but human relationships are! You must love all the people or try it as Jesus teaches but love God first and unrequited love in its most common meaning pushes you into it.
Sounds like you're replaying the situation with your Father - trying to get a different result or trying to find a way to heal from it. Would need to see your chart to see more of the process playing out.
Hi Abby,
Venus square Chiron as a natal aspect would equate to having your earlier life wounds highlighted in relationships (any that go beyond acquaintances) almost automatically where regardless of what happens your internal "read" of the relationship is that you are getting hurt. It would also conversely point to an attraction to those who are themselves hurt as this is Venus expressing interest in Chiron's themes through the square aspect.
In mythology Chiron is stricken by a poison arrow which causes him unending pain until he is made mortal and allowed to die (see http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_wounding_e.htm for a pretty disturbing interpretation of this) suggesting Chiron correlates with a kind of "hunger" that can never be satisfied in one's lifetime, so one takes on Chiron's other qualities and becomes well versed in healing techniques related to the planets Chiron touches in an attempt to heal the pain. So combine this with Venus and you get a deeply reflective attitude on the wounding aspects of relationships as they are along with later on an attitude on how to minimize this that you'll find yourself teaching to others.
I did make up your chart and you do indeed have Venus also square Uranus and that is another troublesome aspect to have in one's chart especially with Chiron opposite Uranus; Uranus appears in mythology where he expels his children from the skies because they aren't perfect and he can't stand that so he loosely correlates with the ideal that is real until it becomes real through creation. The implications with Venus are that Uranus gets activated in any significant relationship and may predispose you to think the relationship is over if it's any less than perfect - but since it's also the "expect the unexpected" planet it can just as well point to sudden beginnings and endings to relationships that seem to come out of nowhere without any reason for them to be this way.
You have Venus connected to two difficult outer planets (centaur in the case of Chiron) and they are pushing Venus to do things she doesn't relate to very well - so this could express itself quite literally as having strange and not particularly pleasant encounters in your relationships especially at first.
Yes, I think you are right about t Uranus causing problems when it comes in to trigger the Venus-Uranus-Chiron t-square. Although which planet it hits will determine how you'll experience the hit this time around.
A couple of points about the latest add you made - it is possible that Venus-Chiron adds to the pain you get from being used up and drained by these people but it is just as likely to be your Venus in Virgo [with the same theme exacerbated by square to Jupiter] - Venus in Virgo makes you identify with other people's needs very readily (because it feels good to be useful) and you can end up with people who become demanding and start taking your devotion for granted. It seems you are aware of this as you are keeping your distance from them but it's in your Venus' nature to relate and help out so the best way to handle it might be to just focus on those who are worthy of your time.
The other bit is on Venus square Uranus - people with this particular aspect are very sensitive to others in relationships (usually there is a vague sense that the person will bolt when least expected) and that can also be used against you by manipulative people once they pick up on it. Best defense here that I'm aware of is to allow your secure relationships to act as a sort of shield that desensitizes you to the ones where you're not too sure where you stand - that way the worries are lower and that gives the not so nice individuals less power to push you around.
Can someone explain to me what someone's life purpose might be when having chiron square venus and unrequited love as a result? As in why might it be important in a souls' development and evolution.
Abby... ..you're seriously making me write novels on this forum! Lol.
Hi Abby,
Well, this aspect alone won't tell you about "life purpose," as you asked unless it's prominent in your chart. Forgive me for forgetting your chart (I look at so many), but I think they were both on angles, right? So it will be important in your life and teach you about yourself through some painful lessons.
You have a deep capacity to understand the pain that comes with love, relationships, and the gap between true self worth and pressure on women to embody superficial Venusian traits. Chiron energy is one of those qualities that has to be felt and experienced to really understand it, and when someone has a dominant Chiron, I know this person KNOWS on a gut level the incredible pain that comes with venus-related matters and relationships. It is a deep fear of inadequacy against Venus ideals, and repeated experiences that fire up that pain within you by reminding you of this perceived shortfall in your life, body, career, relationships, whatever (we'd have to look at chart for more details).
Many modern astrologers who study Chiron have noted that any aspect, even supposedly "harmonious" ones, makes one aware of the pain. The aspect will show how easy it is for one to integrate that pain into his/her life. I know one man with a sextile and he is so selflessly devoted to a rather selfish wife. He just intrinsically knows how to keep loving, himself and his wife, despite the pain. I know a couple of others with squares and oppositions who are continuing to learn how to do this through repeated experiences and self reflection..... is this pain worth it? Am I worth it? Why can't I get what I need from this partner? Why doesn't my partner understand what I need and love? Why am I so ugly? Or fat? Etc.
If you have a square or opposition to a relationship planet (or any aspect, really) then it's inevitable that someone will trigger that aspect through synastry. (That is, if you actually go out and live your iife and let yourself experience love. There seem to be a lot of armchair astro!ogers on this forum who just go by textbook definitions and spout out knowledge from the safety of their screen name and computer. I believe that some aspects, like those to chiron, can only be fully appreciated when you live it. There isnt anything that can replace the power of that pain/longing running through your nerves and soul. And that's how we learn about ourselves through synastry. You actually FEEL the potential in your chart and the meaning of aspects, just by living your life and being open and vulnerable. These natal aspects may be dormant, pushed to the back of one's subconscious, until it's activated by synastry or transits. Chiron is so real, and so rooted in the physical body, that you have to live it in order to really get it.
It's also been noted that Chiron is connected to kundalini energy. So once someone with a prominent Chiron starts the process of healing, he/she actually starts to get really horny. No joke. The pent up energy gets unleashed, one level at a time. This is addressed in the book by Barbara hand clow (hope I remembered her name accurately). She's done an enormous amount of research on Chiron through thousands of clients.
So given what I know about Chiron, I always thought it was so fitting that you were a massage therapist.
In summary, this aspect means you understand the pain side of Venus. Chiron is a very sensitive energy. Because you know the pain, you are able to connect with others on a deeper level than most others, with the capacity to reach others where many others cannot. And through these experiences with others, you will slowly build your own ability to love and be loved.
There's much more i would want you to understand about this aspect, but I can't do it now. I'm home sick this week with a horrible flu, so feeling very brain dead.
Hope I helped?
S.
I can help you understand the aspect better by looking at the synastry between you and your man. It will help to explain in more specific terms, rather than keeping it all on an esoteric level. We'll connect on that later. I'm just super sick and buried in work right now. :-(