Milkywaygirl,
I'm not a traditional type astrology student, neither am I skilled enough to point out something and say exactly that "this is what it means". However, I do think "outside of the box", and see possibilities in the charts that many do not. So, since you asked for a fresh approach, I thought I would take a stab at it.
My thoughts are these:
The IC also refers to the "conditioning" we received as a child. Possibly the Sun conjunct IC from 3rd, refers to the way you were conditioned to communicate - Pisces style -maybe to think of everyone except yourself? It could be deceptive communication. It could have reference to the way you saw your father, and/or the way he communicated. Moon in Pisces conjunct IC from 4th - this could represent your mother. This placement also, to me, represents the archetype of the self-sacrificing, "I'm a martyr" -type person, usually a woman/mother. The kind of woman who gives up everything for home and family. May seem very loving on the outside, but repressing anger and sadness on the inside. They can be a "lead from behind" person, or a "stand by your man" person.
Also, since this is bouncing off the Saturn in Virgo conjunct MC, there is a need to integrate the two. It could show either a woman who secretly resented not having a career, OR a woman who completely rejected the archetype I described, and instead chose a career. Possibly this was driven by a need to "prove" herself as being "above" the role of "just" a housewife. It could also show that the person represented by Moon in the 4th is very critical of others, or conversely, feels a victim of others being overly critical of her. ( maybe both )
Also, I noted that in your 4th house is Mercury, and it is part of a grand trine in water. The grand trine is capped off by a kite pointing to Venus in Cap in 2nd.
Not sure exactly what this means, but it is significant. I sense that it has to do with low self-worth. I say this because of the Venus in Cap in 2nd. This is a double-whammy type, as it combines Cap with self-worth issues of the 2nd.
The whole kite formation could deal with emotional manipulation and condemnation. It could also show that emotions/your sense of self, were not honored. It could show more importance placed on material things than on emtoional nurturing. Since Mercury is in Pisces in 4th, and the 8th house and Uranus in Scorpio in the 12th are involved, it could show something being kept "hush-hush" because it would upset the status quo, or social status - also Venus in Cap/2nd house type of things. The emphasis on Venus in Cap/2nd is very important, I think, and a key to the chart. It could also indicate having a lot of material wealth, or placing too much importance on wealth, sensual things, and neglecting the emotions - perhaps "stuffing the pain".
Also, Saturn in Virgo in 9th conjunct MC could also represent perfectionistic tendencies, also tying in with Venus in Cap. Also, possibly some kind of emphasis on physical beauty, or lack thereof.
I know that you didn't ask about the grand trine/kite in this post, but since you posted your chart...... I also felt it was so significant, that I wanted to point out some possibilities. I hope I was able to give you some different possibilties to think about.