CapAquVir said:
I thought there must be something awful when the charts were posted and there were no comments on them. Like on a TV show where they slap the X-ray up on the wall and the whole room goes silent...you know it's not good news.
Dear CapAquVir,
I'm afraid the other people who have provided posts here must not know how to indulge themselves in a little bit of neurotic obsessiveness. Hi. I'm C Jayne, and my Ascendant is in Scorpio, and for this task, I am your girl.
These two charts -- yours and your friend's -- have a lot in common, which is sometimes a "good" thing and sometimes not so good. There are no clear cut answers on this, but, being an obsessive person myself, I delight in speculating about these things.
Your two charts actually have several very interesting points.
I'm not fully clear whether you are male or whether both partners here are male, and that kind of has an effect on the words an astrologer uses when talking about Venus energies and Mars energies, but, really, a person's Venus energies are just their "female" side, and Mars energies are just their "male" side, and we've all got both of them, "male" and "female."
Your little clump of planets in Capricorn provides you with basically harmonious energies, which is nice if you're going to partner with a person who has as many oppositions as your friend.
Then, another nice thing is, since you both have Virgo Ascendants, you approach things the same way (picky and detailed and analytical). You each have Saturn in the same sign (12th), and it's nice to have similar fears (Saturn). But it's sometimes better to have different fears, so that one person can lead and the other can follow.
Your friend's Mercury conjuncts Venus, and yours conjuncts Mars. This is a pretty interesting complementary sort of connection between charts. Carly Simon and James Taylor had something sort of like this, only not as good. What these things "suggest" (freewill rules) is, your friend (Venus conjunct Mercury) likes variety in love, in order to stay interested, and he speaks in a sweet way. Your Mars/ Mercury conjunction suggests you speak in a forceful way, and you like variety in order to stay interested sexually.
These complementary things with your Mercurys suggests you'll find each other interesting, but it doesn't necessarily speak to whether or not you will communicate well with each other (i.e., speak the same language), and that's what partners have to do in order to work out problems. Your Mercuries are not in complementary signs or elements, but they don't square, the way Liz Taylor's and Richard Burton's did.
You have lots of earth, a little air (Moon in Aquarius) and a little fire (Venus in Sag). Your friend has not much earth, except for Saturn in Virgo, lots of Air, a little water (Mars in Pisces) and fire (Moon in Leo). So there is a tendency for one person to complete the other person -- which can be good, and can be bad. Basically, we all need to try and become complete human beings, and so, if one person has a lot of air and we don't, we may rely on them to be impartial and tactful, while we remain thin skinned or pitiful or ego-driven. And if one person has lots of earth and the other doesn't, the earth person may wind up having to be the practical one all the time.
My father, my brother and I all have Scorpio Ascendants. Dad and I have Leo Midheavens, and my brother has a Virgo Midheaven. I love these men, but I couldn't stand living with them. But you and your partner have the same signs for both your Ascendants
and your Midheavens.
Something that is wise to examine on charts is the individual's ability to form relationships -- how they feel about themselves (according to their chart), and how they feel about sex and love, etc.
Your friend has:
(1) Moon (comfort) opposing(fighting with) Sun (overall life goals) and
(2)Saturn (fear) opposing Mars (sex or men) and
(3) Pluto (power or disappointment) opposing Venus (love),
each of which is rather troublesome.
Your chart suggests that you are probably very generous in your own ways (Jupiter/ Sun conjunction and Sag. Venus) although your manner might seem to some people to be rather cold or aloof (because you have no planets in water signs).
It's clear why the two of you would be attracted to each other, but there are some very good reasons for you, personally, to decide that if this relationship doesn't work out, it's not because you are not a sufficient person -- it might simply be because this friend is not capable of being a good partner.
Now, see? If the two of you get back together again, you're going to hate me. That's why the other astrologers/ astrology students didn't comment.
Good thing you don't live right next door!
-- C Jayne