I think your lesson here is, instead of letting them get the chance to manipulate you, you hold the strings, you have to choose what to focus on in the relationship. If you want to spend time at the park, go for a walk, enjoy things, let your partner know that, that way they feel included and like you're doing something special, so they're happy with you and treat you with respect because you make use of the day the way you like it. They have to be willing to take the back seat so that you make the decisions. You have to be strong. I think from what I read in your chart, your saturn is in aries and it's retrograde, aries is also a mars ruled planet but if your saturn is retrograde that means there's some kind of struggle in it... this is just one of the most important lessons for your life and since your north node is in Libra, it means you will like to be good in relationships since it's very important to you. Your whole chart makes so much sense to me, everything is placed in a way that just makes me understand you... each placement works for another placement. My Saturn is retrograde as well but it's in Sagittarius in the 7th house. My whole life has revolved around relationships, standing up for myself and learning my worth and stopping relationships that don't work well... but that also relates to my north node in aries which is about individuality and standing up for myself... my north node is opposite to yours... You're more trying to get into relationships and having them work in your favor so for you, the fact that your saturn is in aries retrograde means that I think there's a focus on having your own individuality within the relationship that's very important, it's like you're supposed to have the aries quality to help your relationships but it's retrograde so it's harder, so that's one of the important lessons so that your relationships can start to flow well.
Every time you get into a relationship, you're basically working on this ability to have the relationship work in your favor so that it's not possessive or manipulative, it just has to flow... this requires for you to communicate your feelings but do so in a way that's not too harsh, that way your partner doesn't take it too badly... also it might help to focus on friends... and take relationships slowly... it helps knowing how to communicate with people. Keep carrying yourself with the respect and love, make it important that people that come across you treat you with the same respect that you treat yourself, don't let people see you react to their insecurities, if they're insecure because you rejected them, well it's their own thing to deal with because they thought they were rejected because of flaw in them which maybe there is a flaw which is their crazy obsession that needs to be tamed... they just need to take it slow... relax... maybe have them meditate... If you're into yoga and meditation, I think the people that come to you will respect you even more... They have to understand boundaries... You're basically here to not only teach guys to relax but to you yourself not react too much to these crazy obsessed guys who take rejection badly... I have dealt with obsessed guys before and all I can say about that is that, it's so important to stand your ground, don't get into a relationship if you don't want to, take it slowly, if they accept that, they're worthy of your time, if they don't want to take it slowly, let them fade into the background by limiting your time with them, maybe telling them you have something to work on or something then just continue on your day... but friends first, probably works best... it's never good to let yourself be manipulated by any guy. Since you're already on an astrology website, that means you're already into spiritual things meaning if you are, meditation, yoga and other spiritual things will help you on your journey because the more consciously aware the guys, you come across the better, since they'll understand boundaries more and have more respect.