Thank you.. I'm always glad to be able to share my thoughts & opinions with someone that will listen, regardless of their nature of what I say.. I actually believe honesty is the the best policy next to complete acceptance of what happens to me. Yet, I do use the trust people have in me (and let me know I have it) in deceitful ways under a variety of circumstances that range from justifiable to pointless...
1.) Revenge: If I actually feel so wronged, so shorted in a situation, then sadly to say their are no boundries to the amount of deception I will use to get their trust so I can betray it when it will hurt most or manipulate them to my amussment or benifit w/out them even knowing sometimes until I tell them. Guilt tripping is manipulation at iis most innocent because it comes natural to ask for what you feel is owed from being wronged (which feels like being stolen from). However, guilt tripping is also one of the most powerful uses of deception if you are good at communicating and transforming your thoughts into someone elses emotions; if done right it can cause someone to try really hard (and do almost anything in context) to repay the emotional debt to you which is real, exagerated or just maniputaion. In my mind, I've rationalized that I am returning the energy the gave to me by betraying my trust first (revenge is cause and effect) I wouldn't go way out of my way to hurt someone's feelings unless I thought they deserved it or wanted to teach them a lesson to make myself feel better or for entertainment.. When they show anger that is stereotypical and impulsive, it is them loosing their control and giving it to me.
"If someone can make you angry, you are letting them have power over you." - not sure where I heard this
2.) Giving the Upper-Hand: Sometimes I like to make it appear to someone they have an advatage of some kind, is more intellegent/skilled, or just reinforce an existing supiority complex of theirs. The reason for this is always to give myself the upper-hand and control in groups, competition or relationships (usually with strangers or a friend that has ego falling out of their mouth when they talk). By creating a push-over, vunrable, dumb or any kind of inferior perspective in the eyes of the beholder I'm dealing with I've had them reveal their intentions, bias & worries, disclose secrets, bad-mouth others, etc.. But usually its just to keep them assuming that they have me fiqured out, bested, outsmarted or are better than me somehow. This is what Lee Atwater called "Slow talking," If they choose to beleive/accept they some how have the upper-hand by assuming something about me which is false or misleading, an assumtion I gave them or reinforced, it is likely they can let their gaurd down and give me info like I said or in a competative situation (not always sports) they become more predictable and give me the chance to anticipate thier choices by making them think they know mine... I know that was probably way to wordy when I could have said "trap." But it's more than that to me, its like watching a blind folded person run into a tree because you told them to go thata-way. This is like playing chess or swordfighting (two things I like doing too). I don't do this often because it's just easier to be honest and butt-heads with someone than to play puppet master... So out of my own questionable morality, I only mind-scew someone for my entertainment or someone's need to feel in charge more than to only pull on over on someone... But I am guilty of using from time to time and am not always guiltless about it. I don't condone using people as a means to an end, only to return the energy given...
3.) Just Pointless: self-centered lies like white lies and excuses are what I am the most quilty of on a weekly basis. I guess its just my recreation from usually trying to tell the truth about my thougts and feelings and connect with people by accepting them no matter what.. When I am getting bored from a lack of conversation that has little interest on their end, I choose to slip fictional things just to see how they react to sometimes outlandish ideas or situations while talking about real events and feelings of similar natures or topics. No point but to work on improvising really. Finally there are excusses which in my eyes are the attempts to change the disaproval of someone I'm telling my excuse to into acceptance and sometimes sympathy if I am really trying to cover my ***... I usually tell the truth of what happened and accept that I am responsible for not doing what they wanted or was expecting even if I didn't want to hurt their feelings if I did.. When I want to change the convo in my favor I will use and sometimes exageraate every fact that supports me not having any fault in how I ended up in their disaproval or at their mercy.. I'll create a fake account of the same truth in question to make the one in disaproval identify strongly, reevaluate and agree how uncontrolable the event I was being held responsible for is. Simply put, I try to get someone to agree that what I'm saying is clearly not of my choice and unfortunate.. If I'm lucky, what was the disaproval of someone is now a mild bonding and acceptance of what I said (a lie) as an experience they relate with and forgive me for. My personal best excuse was when I got pulled over for swerving. I had been changing the CD and wasn't paying attention as I should have been. The officer asked the question which is aimed at the reason or observed truth of why the officer is talking to you... "Do you know why I pulled you over?" I apologized for the obvious swerving and near accident with a car in the next lane and said, "I started to sneeze in the turning lane.." I took the drunken breath test and was on my way without even a verbal warning.
So, astrology and how I attribute deception to it. Based on descriptions I really agree with strongly as being ever present personality traits of mine due to being born on Oct. 22 (...1986 at 8:56 P.M. New Ulm, MN... anyone is welcomed to help me use that info to learn more) I am a Libra-Scorpio Cusp.. I am a natural communicator with an accute awareness of the reality I observe and want as much as possible to to be the best at what I choose to apply my energy into. My emotions are super strong and obvious to me as the occur due to my mental apptitudes which will disagree with my intuativness sometimes and although I'm aware of the stuggle, choosing a course of action usually takes one of two paths I can't always see coming.. a dark and chaotic one or balanced loving one. So that being said, I choose deception as one option of two I have. The path of service to others and connecting with others (especially through dedicated romance of serious passion) is the path I like to try and occupy myself with simply because I like the golden rule as a way of life, its balanced. However, there is another path that I have always been interested in probing on and off since childhood which I now know as Via Combusta. I will burn through all of my life's craziness, which there has always been tons of, only to continue burning as trials and lessons shape my perspective everyday..
I love talking about how I experience life and in reality, I accept both paths as my path because only after accepting without any judgements of there being a good reality or bad reality can I truely consider myself accepting.. So as I continue to evaluate my reality and all that is apart of it Ill take the good with a slap in the face and the bad with lick of salt and just continue regardless, Via Combusta. Its just as positive as negative in my life, an idea to direct choice.
Have a nice day