spacecadet
Well-known member
Hi,
I could really use some help understanding some issues which seem to keep arising between my partner and I. I just don't get how one minute we can feel so close to each other, so suited, and then the next our connection seems to vanish and our interactions become such a battle. The communication channels just seem to dissolve and we can have blazing frustrated rows like I have never experienced.
I so want to understand what I am doing, what he is doing or we are doing, to see whether we can work with this more productively or if its going to continually be a struggle.
(Please note that we aren't sure of his exact time of birth so I've used my knowing of him to adjust the time to where I think fits him best. So his house placements are uncertain really).
Composite:
I think the composite t-square between Moon-Pluto-Saturn must be playing an important role here but I just don't understand it at a deep enough level to grasp it and change anything.
Our composite moon conjuncts his natal Chiron so triggers his chiron-Jupiter-Uranus t-square. Another aspect I don't really understand. He does seem to get very defensive.
In our synastry:
- his Pluto conj. my Mercury
- his Saturn conj. my Moon.
- my Saturn opp. his Moon.
- his mercury conj. my Neptune
I'm quite willing to admit I have my own limitations that I am working on in terms of my ability to love and communicate. But despite my efforts they don't seem to be making any positive difference to my relationship with him.
This can't all be me. Can anyone shed some light on this dynamic to help me understand?
Whilst I love him and we are both willing to work on things I have some concern about the effect of this relationship on my health and emotional well-being. The frequent disruptions and arguments really wear me down emotionally and physically (saturn has been over my sun a few times recently). But since things can be so good between us, and there is a lot of commitment between us, then I would like to see if there is anything we can do to make it work.
Spacecadet x
I could really use some help understanding some issues which seem to keep arising between my partner and I. I just don't get how one minute we can feel so close to each other, so suited, and then the next our connection seems to vanish and our interactions become such a battle. The communication channels just seem to dissolve and we can have blazing frustrated rows like I have never experienced.
I so want to understand what I am doing, what he is doing or we are doing, to see whether we can work with this more productively or if its going to continually be a struggle.
(Please note that we aren't sure of his exact time of birth so I've used my knowing of him to adjust the time to where I think fits him best. So his house placements are uncertain really).
Composite:
I think the composite t-square between Moon-Pluto-Saturn must be playing an important role here but I just don't understand it at a deep enough level to grasp it and change anything.
Our composite moon conjuncts his natal Chiron so triggers his chiron-Jupiter-Uranus t-square. Another aspect I don't really understand. He does seem to get very defensive.
In our synastry:
- his Pluto conj. my Mercury
- his Saturn conj. my Moon.
- my Saturn opp. his Moon.
- his mercury conj. my Neptune
I'm quite willing to admit I have my own limitations that I am working on in terms of my ability to love and communicate. But despite my efforts they don't seem to be making any positive difference to my relationship with him.
This can't all be me. Can anyone shed some light on this dynamic to help me understand?
Whilst I love him and we are both willing to work on things I have some concern about the effect of this relationship on my health and emotional well-being. The frequent disruptions and arguments really wear me down emotionally and physically (saturn has been over my sun a few times recently). But since things can be so good between us, and there is a lot of commitment between us, then I would like to see if there is anything we can do to make it work.
Spacecadet x