spacecadet
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I'm back with relationship issues again! Having just looked back at my previous posts I see that they are similar struggles I came here with a few years back. I'm hoping I can get to the root of some of these patterns.
My boyfriend and I are having very intense relationship dynamics come up and I'm interested in finding out how, and if, it will be possible for us to find a way to achieve harmony together. We are both very interested in self-development and overcoming our limiting patterns. We want to make this work and are trying to respond differently to stuff as it arises but not a great deal is changing really. We have a really beautiful connection (when we are getting on), but we very frequently experience very strong emotional flare ups.
We go from intense love and closeness to intense cold/separation - like we are opponents rather than playing on the same side. This could be composite Mars in the 1st, square composite venus/neptune. Can Mars in 1st be harmonised or will we always be in battle? I see that we are generally okay if we've been intimate with each other! but we cant spend every day in bed!
I see venus conj. neptune as a positive, spiritual, loving combination. We both feel that what we have is too precious to let go of. I know this aspect can also indicate illusion/deception.
We are very sensitive to each other (Composite Moon 12th square Mercury/Uranus 3rd) and often go into our defenses (his Moon/Pluto conjunction and my Sun/Pluto conjunction) and just shut down from the other.
I yearn for more security and constancy and sense the instability or absence of a long-term path to our relationship (composite Moon square Uranus) and maybe his reluctance to fully commit as he is more a free-spirit.
I want to know how we can make this work and if we can.
Incidentally transiting Pluto is approaching my 7th house which I have secretly feared for many years. Hopefully this will transform my relationships rather than killing me with emotional intensity.
Maybe this also begs another question....is it possible for me to attract and have a functional, peaceful relationship, that isn't fraught with emotional intensity and battle. With my Sun/Pluto, Venus Sq Saturn, Moon 12th opp. Neptune. What in me is causing this? how can I improve?
I don't use progressions much as I'm still learning the basics but I notice that when you progress our composite chart, Pluto is in our first house. Is this the culprit!?
I would love some insight please.. Thankyou x
Me - 12 Oct 1976 10:35pm Harrow UK
Him - 2 Jan 1978 00:58 Burlington, Vermont, USA
My boyfriend and I are having very intense relationship dynamics come up and I'm interested in finding out how, and if, it will be possible for us to find a way to achieve harmony together. We are both very interested in self-development and overcoming our limiting patterns. We want to make this work and are trying to respond differently to stuff as it arises but not a great deal is changing really. We have a really beautiful connection (when we are getting on), but we very frequently experience very strong emotional flare ups.
We go from intense love and closeness to intense cold/separation - like we are opponents rather than playing on the same side. This could be composite Mars in the 1st, square composite venus/neptune. Can Mars in 1st be harmonised or will we always be in battle? I see that we are generally okay if we've been intimate with each other! but we cant spend every day in bed!
I see venus conj. neptune as a positive, spiritual, loving combination. We both feel that what we have is too precious to let go of. I know this aspect can also indicate illusion/deception.
We are very sensitive to each other (Composite Moon 12th square Mercury/Uranus 3rd) and often go into our defenses (his Moon/Pluto conjunction and my Sun/Pluto conjunction) and just shut down from the other.
I yearn for more security and constancy and sense the instability or absence of a long-term path to our relationship (composite Moon square Uranus) and maybe his reluctance to fully commit as he is more a free-spirit.
I want to know how we can make this work and if we can.
Incidentally transiting Pluto is approaching my 7th house which I have secretly feared for many years. Hopefully this will transform my relationships rather than killing me with emotional intensity.
Maybe this also begs another question....is it possible for me to attract and have a functional, peaceful relationship, that isn't fraught with emotional intensity and battle. With my Sun/Pluto, Venus Sq Saturn, Moon 12th opp. Neptune. What in me is causing this? how can I improve?
I don't use progressions much as I'm still learning the basics but I notice that when you progress our composite chart, Pluto is in our first house. Is this the culprit!?
I would love some insight please.. Thankyou x
Me - 12 Oct 1976 10:35pm Harrow UK
Him - 2 Jan 1978 00:58 Burlington, Vermont, USA