After a Devestating relationship, does new one offer any hope?

Ok, so I was with someone for 15 years, married for 9, when my ex left me when I was 8 months pregnant with our 3rd child. For my "best" friend no less. Anyway, that was actually the best thing that ever happened to me- I didn't realize how miserable I was IN the relationship until he left. He wanted to come back after 8 months and I had to turn him down, over and over, which broke my heart too, but I had to do what was best for me for the first time in my life. (He had become very abusive as well) His birth data is 6/29/1979 Dunbar WV. No clue what time. Not sure if anything pointed to this happening...

I am also very confused with Magi Astrology and don't seem to get anywhere. I have a boyfriend who I really feel is my soul mate. Traditional Astrology says so, but the more I look into Magi, it has conflicting reports. I am trying to figure out the first meeting chart, and I had seem so many times prior, but the first time I think I actually spoke to him was 5/7/11- I saw him prior to that but never spoke to him really. If I did it was give or take 2 weeks prior. This is when I actually SPOKE to him, I had seen him prior but never actually talked to him, just seen him. I am hearing mixed reviews regarding what to use as a "first meeting chart" date. What do you think? The first time I noticed him or this date of the first time I talked to him?
If anyone wants to help me understand, here is the birth information. I have had a report done and have everything written down, so here is that as well:
SUN QUINCUNX MY MERCURY
SUN CONJUNCT MY MOON
SUN OPPOSITION MY NEPTUNE
SUN TRINE MY PLUTO
MERCURY QUINCUNX MY MARS
MERCURY SEXTILE MY CHIRON
VENUS TRINE MY JUPITER
VENUS QUINCUNX MY SUN
VENUS SEMI-SEXTILE MY MERCURY
VENUS TRINE MY MARS
VENUS QUINCUNX MY SATURN
VENUS CONJUNCT MY EARTH/MOON COMPLEX
VENUS SEXTILE MY CERES
VENUS SQUARE MY VESTA
VENUS QUINCUNX MY JUNO
MOON SEMI-SEXTILE MY URANUS
MOON CONJUNCT MY NEPTUNE
MOON SEXTILE MY PLUTO
MOON QUINCUNX MY CERES
MOON TRINE MY PALLAS
MOON OPPOSITION MY MOON
MARS SEXTILE MY CHIRON
MARS CONJUNCT MY VENUS
MARS SEXTILE MY SATURN
MARS SQUARE MY PALLAS
JUPITER SEXTILE MY MOON
JUPITER QUINCUNX MY URANUS
JUPITER TRINE MY NEPTUNE
JUPITER OPPOSITION MY PLUTO
JUPITER SQUARE MY CERES
JUPITER CONJUNCT MY PALLAS
JUPITER TRINE MY VESTA
JUPITER SEMI-SEXTILE MY CHIRON
SATURN SEMI-SEXTILE MY MERCURY
SATURN OPPOSITION MY MOON
SATURN QUINCUNX MY CHIRON
SATURN QUINCUNX MY CHIRON
URANUS SEXTILE MY PLUTO
URANUS QUINCUNX MY CERES
URANUS TRINE MY PALLAS
URANUS TRINE MY VESTA
URANUS SQUARE MY VENUS
URANUS SEMI-SEXTILE MY URANUS
URANUS SQUARE MY JUPITER
URANUS SEMI-SEXTILE MY URANUS
URANUS CONJUNCT MY NEPTUNE
URANUS SEXTILE MY PLUTO
NEPTUNE SQUARE MY JUNO
NEPTUNE SQUARE MY SATURN
NEPTUNE CONJUNCT MY MARS
NEPTUNE TRINE MY EARTH/MOON COMPLEX
PLUTO SEMI-SEXTILE MY JUNO
EARTH/MOON COMPLEX CONJUNCT MY NEPTUNE
EARTH/MOON COMPLEX SEXTILE MY PLUTO
CHIRON OPPOSITION MY NEPTUNE
CHIRON TRINE MY PLUTO
CHIRON SEMI-SEXTILE MY CERES
CHIRON SEXTILE MY PALLAS
CHIRON CONJUNCT MY MOON
CHIRON QUINCUNX MY URANUS
CHIRON SQUARE MY JUPITER
CHIRON OPPOSITION MY NEPTUNE
CHIRON TRINE MY PLUTO
CERES SQUARE MY JUPITER
CERES QUINCUNX MY VENUS
CERES SQUARE MY JUPITER
CERES SEMI-SEXTILE MY URANUS
CERES TRINE MY PALLAS
PALLAS OPPOSITION MY CHIRON
PALLAS TRINE MY VENUS
PALLAS CONJUNCT MY URANUS
PALLAS QUINCUNX MY PALLAS
VESTA TRINE MY JUNO
VESTA OPPOSITION MY MARS
JUNO TRINE MY SUN
JUNO QUINCUNX MY SATURN
JUNO SQUARE MY CHIRON
SUN CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MARS
SUN PARALLEL MY CERES
SUN CONTRA-PARALLEL MY PALLAS
MERCURY CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MARS
MERCURY PARALLEL MY CERES
MERCURY CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MARS
MERCURY PARALLEL MY JUPITER
MERCURY PARALLEL MY NEPTUNE
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MERCURY
VENUS PARALLEL MY MOON
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY URANUS
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY VENUS
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY SATURN
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY CERES
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY VESTA
VENUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY JUNO
MARS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MARS
MARS PARALLEL MY CERES
MARS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY CHIRON
JUPITER PARALLEL MY PLUTO
JUPITER PARALLEL MY MARS
JUPITER CONTRA-PARALLEL MY JUPITER
JUPITER CONTRA-PARALLEL MY NEPTUNE
SATURN PARALLEL MY NEPTUNE
SATURN PARALLEL MY PALLAS
SATURN CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MARS
SATURN PARALLEL MY JUPITER
SATURN PARALLEL MY NEPTUNE
URANUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY CERES
URANUS PARALLEL MY MARS
URANUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY URANUS
URANUS CONTRA-PARALLEL MY EARTH/MOON COMPLEX
NEPTUNE PARALLEL MY PALLAS
NEPTUNE PARALLEL MY MARS
NEPTUNE PARALLEL MY NEPTUNE
NEPTUNE PARALLEL MY JUPITER
PLUTO PARALLEL MY VENUS
PLUTO PARALLEL MY JUPITER
PLUTO CONTRA-PARALLEL MY JUNO
EARTH/MOON COMPLEX PARALLEL MY URANUS
CHIRON CONTRA-PARALLEL MY URANUS
CHIRON PARALLEL MY MOON
CERES PARALLEL MY MARS
CERES CONTRA-PARALLEL MY JUPITER
CERES CONTRA-PARALLEL MY NEPTUNE
VESTA PARALLEL MY MOON
VESTA CONTRA-PARALLEL MY URANUS
VESTA CONTRA-PARALLEL MY MERCURY
VESTA CONTRA-PARALLEL MY JUPITER
VESTA CONTRA-PARALLEL MY SATURN

OUR INFO
ME
10/26/1980 11.23 P.M. (-5) 74.39 West, 40.2 North

HIM
06/11/1987 07.22 P.M. (-4) 74.27 West, 40.29 North

DO WE HAVE ANY GEOMETRIC CONFIGURATIONS IN OUR CHARTS? I AM NEW TO THIS AND JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW TO DO IT YET.

I love this kid to death and want to marry. We would need to pick a perfect or near perfect wedding date if going by Magi.... If not, it seems we have a pretty good shot!!!

I just want to point out of two heartbreak clash (saturn quincunx chiron) and two cinderella linkage (chiron trine pluto). Your list up there repeats a few times, I assume that this is heliocentric and geocentric combined. You have at least two "ball and chain" linkages, partly explaining your obsession with this person and overlooking his faults.

My advice to you is to seriously consider getting an expert's (meaning one of the Magi) opinion on this to understand your situation better. It is indeed a grey area as you said in the other topic you posted, so it's always beneficial to get proper analysis for it rather than jumping to conclusions immediately and regretting it years later.