milkywaygirl
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Hi all, hope everyone is doing well. I've very recently started taking on astrology clients and for the most part its been going really well, have had several great readings with good feedback and am excited to do more.
I had a client yesterday who put me into a bit of a spin however and i'm hoping that some of the consulting astologers on this board can help me out.
I clearly state in my intro to my services that i'm not a fortuneteller or psychic and that I focus on unearthing and unravelling the psychological factors in a chart, and do not do any form of concrete predictions. So I had this client email me with the standard "tell me about my family, work, children".. very vague but whatever, I prepared thoroughly and had a lot to talk about regarding those areas, however, they all related back to a t-square in her chart which contained neptune mercury venus jupiter conjunct in sag in the third, opposed saturn in gemini in the 9th, squaring mars in pisces in the 6th. So I focussed my analysis on this configuration and the implications of it, but when the time came to discuss this dynamic with her, i quickly realized that she has given away her saturn in gemini in a way, and wasnt consciously aware of it at all in her life.
I tried to steer conversation into the areas of the opposition in the tsquare, asking her about her religious and philosophical beliefs (to which she replied, i believe in a higher power and i say my prayers at night, fullstop), and asking about her educational experiences, hoping to lead her into opening up how this opposition is operating within her. but she was very evasive, vague and nonresponsive, and I began to sense her pretty much closing up on me.
she then proceeded to ask me such questions as, when will my divorce be finalized, when will i meet someone, what signs are good matches for me. I was a little taken aback as we had just spend the last half hour discussing her inner dynamics, and here she is asking me questions which i cannot and will not answer in the way she wants me to, in addition to the fact that i assumed she had read my preamble to my services and was aware that i dont do prediction. what this did signify to me was that she has indeed given away her own authority, her saturn, as she was looking for me to be an authority over her life.
i got the overwhelming impression during the reading that she has very little ability for self awareness (and indeed all she has in air is her libra asc and saturn in gemini) as initially she was agreeing with everything i said, but when i started talking about this t-square which is the crux of her chart, she went silent and then started replying with "not reallys" and then outright "no"s, leading into her kind of challenging my knowledge and ability by suggesting her own astrological ideas. i know this is a symptom of saturn in the 9th, but it was so unconscious on her part, even after i had discussed these exact things 5 minutes earlier, she didnt recognize it as part of herself.
so my whole dilemma with this is, how should i have dealt with this? how can I talk about having more harmonious relationships or being more fulfilled in career, when the only way to do so is to deal with this thing that the client is refusing to acknowledge as in themselves? how do you deal with a client who is very unaware of their own inner dynamics?
it is very clear to me that she really needs to acknowledge and bring into consciousness her saturn in gemini in the 9th because it is this that is standing in her way of actually learning anything that could help her grow - how do i communicate this to her effectively?
I had a client yesterday who put me into a bit of a spin however and i'm hoping that some of the consulting astologers on this board can help me out.
I clearly state in my intro to my services that i'm not a fortuneteller or psychic and that I focus on unearthing and unravelling the psychological factors in a chart, and do not do any form of concrete predictions. So I had this client email me with the standard "tell me about my family, work, children".. very vague but whatever, I prepared thoroughly and had a lot to talk about regarding those areas, however, they all related back to a t-square in her chart which contained neptune mercury venus jupiter conjunct in sag in the third, opposed saturn in gemini in the 9th, squaring mars in pisces in the 6th. So I focussed my analysis on this configuration and the implications of it, but when the time came to discuss this dynamic with her, i quickly realized that she has given away her saturn in gemini in a way, and wasnt consciously aware of it at all in her life.
I tried to steer conversation into the areas of the opposition in the tsquare, asking her about her religious and philosophical beliefs (to which she replied, i believe in a higher power and i say my prayers at night, fullstop), and asking about her educational experiences, hoping to lead her into opening up how this opposition is operating within her. but she was very evasive, vague and nonresponsive, and I began to sense her pretty much closing up on me.
she then proceeded to ask me such questions as, when will my divorce be finalized, when will i meet someone, what signs are good matches for me. I was a little taken aback as we had just spend the last half hour discussing her inner dynamics, and here she is asking me questions which i cannot and will not answer in the way she wants me to, in addition to the fact that i assumed she had read my preamble to my services and was aware that i dont do prediction. what this did signify to me was that she has indeed given away her own authority, her saturn, as she was looking for me to be an authority over her life.
i got the overwhelming impression during the reading that she has very little ability for self awareness (and indeed all she has in air is her libra asc and saturn in gemini) as initially she was agreeing with everything i said, but when i started talking about this t-square which is the crux of her chart, she went silent and then started replying with "not reallys" and then outright "no"s, leading into her kind of challenging my knowledge and ability by suggesting her own astrological ideas. i know this is a symptom of saturn in the 9th, but it was so unconscious on her part, even after i had discussed these exact things 5 minutes earlier, she didnt recognize it as part of herself.
so my whole dilemma with this is, how should i have dealt with this? how can I talk about having more harmonious relationships or being more fulfilled in career, when the only way to do so is to deal with this thing that the client is refusing to acknowledge as in themselves? how do you deal with a client who is very unaware of their own inner dynamics?
it is very clear to me that she really needs to acknowledge and bring into consciousness her saturn in gemini in the 9th because it is this that is standing in her way of actually learning anything that could help her grow - how do i communicate this to her effectively?