I have a chart here of a friend who is going through an identity problem, of sorts, and I don't really know how to help him.
All of his life, he's been stereotyped as a certain type of person, and that's not who he is on the inside. He's always being called, "nerdy" and feels like no one gives him the respect he deserves. I am worried about him, because I can see him trying to break that stereotype, and prove to everyone who he really is on the inside, by trying to assert his physical superiority.
When people pick on him verbally, he doesn't retaliate verbally, he takes their abuse in silence for a while, but then he snaps and challenges them to a fight. At that point they usually back off, amazed that the situation escalated like that so quickly. People almost seem surprised that he's standing up for himself, and they often try to back out of a fight by saying, "Relax man, we were only joking!" But to my friend, their hurtful comments are far from a joke, and if they have a problem with him, he thinks they should fight him physically.
He started kick-boxing and martial arts so that he would be prepared to fight back against any physical threat. And he wanted to prove to the family and his work mates that he is not someone to be pushed around. But that didn't work. People still push him around. The first impression strangers get of him, is that he is nerdy and that he's an easy target for them to pick on.
He tells me he doesn't want to be a violent person, and he doesn't go around looking for fights, but he thinks the only way he can get people to take him seriously as a man, is to physically fight.
He's doing all he can to let people know he deserves respect and he is not a timid "bookworm" whom they can pick on. But he can't seem to shake that stereotype.
The mystery is, why is he constantly being stereotyped like this?
I have no idea, astrologically, why this is happening. I know who he is. For him to pick up kick boxing seemed natural to me. But everyone else around him scoffed and said, "You?! Kickboxing?! Yeah right!" Is Taurus rising making him appear timid and nerdy? I thought that with a Pluto/Moon conjuction opposite the ascendant, people would KNOW he is not someone to be messed around with.
All of his life, he's been stereotyped as a certain type of person, and that's not who he is on the inside. He's always being called, "nerdy" and feels like no one gives him the respect he deserves. I am worried about him, because I can see him trying to break that stereotype, and prove to everyone who he really is on the inside, by trying to assert his physical superiority.
When people pick on him verbally, he doesn't retaliate verbally, he takes their abuse in silence for a while, but then he snaps and challenges them to a fight. At that point they usually back off, amazed that the situation escalated like that so quickly. People almost seem surprised that he's standing up for himself, and they often try to back out of a fight by saying, "Relax man, we were only joking!" But to my friend, their hurtful comments are far from a joke, and if they have a problem with him, he thinks they should fight him physically.
He started kick-boxing and martial arts so that he would be prepared to fight back against any physical threat. And he wanted to prove to the family and his work mates that he is not someone to be pushed around. But that didn't work. People still push him around. The first impression strangers get of him, is that he is nerdy and that he's an easy target for them to pick on.
He tells me he doesn't want to be a violent person, and he doesn't go around looking for fights, but he thinks the only way he can get people to take him seriously as a man, is to physically fight.
He's doing all he can to let people know he deserves respect and he is not a timid "bookworm" whom they can pick on. But he can't seem to shake that stereotype.
The mystery is, why is he constantly being stereotyped like this?
I have no idea, astrologically, why this is happening. I know who he is. For him to pick up kick boxing seemed natural to me. But everyone else around him scoffed and said, "You?! Kickboxing?! Yeah right!" Is Taurus rising making him appear timid and nerdy? I thought that with a Pluto/Moon conjuction opposite the ascendant, people would KNOW he is not someone to be messed around with.
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