Originally Posted by duenderoja
Why do I feel the need to always be in contact with my lover?
Why do I feel rejected if they just have to do something else?
Why can't I be as stable and confident in love/heart as my mind knows it should be?
I would chalk it up to your sun conjunct Eros and Neptune in your third house of thought and communication.
The sun is your identity-- your sense of self.
When your sun conjuncts a planet or asteroid, you tend to identify with what it represents.
Eros suggests that you identify with erotic love-- it helps define you.
But Neptune tends to dissolve or erase what it touches. Think of a sand castle on the shore, and how the tide washes it back into the sea. Sun-Neptune contacts can be difficult because it seems like your very sense of self is being eroded-- the center doesn't hold.
Also, with Venus-Uranus in intense Scorpio sextiling your moon, your love of love is very strong. So if you ego seems like its slipping away, you naturally turn to your lover for support. But these placements are internal to your chart, so you have to realize that nobody else "out there" can support you if you won't support yourself.
Obviously, a real lover can quickly feel smothered by excessive demands or insecurities on your part.
With your NN in Leo in the 11th house, however, your challenge is to break free of these patterns. Leo is the ego strong and happy to express itself. The 11th is the house of friends (pals, not romantic interests) as well as the house of hopes and wishes for the future. The combo asks you to express a sense of optimism.
Sun-Neptune can also confer a sense of spirituality. If you are religious, think: "Let go and let God." If you are an atheist, trust the universe to support you.