Mom and daughter need helpful insight

[Brea]

My Mom and I relate from very different places to each other (nothing too unusual lol). lots of squares, and oppositions, but lots of love. Mom and I find it very difficult to communicate with each other despite our compatible mercury signs. Mom has a bit of a temper that she experienced/inherited from her father. I have many learning disabilities which really triggers my mothers temper and cancerian desire to do things for me (instead of get angry she would rather become resentful). We also both struggle with touching and showing affection/intimacy/vulnerability (hugging, crying, etc.). Much to my dislike, I have the tendency to become overly serious in response to her 5th house energy. For obvious reasons she becomes very offended and sensitive to my "know it all" energy. A major issue in our relationship is how emotionally involved we are with one another and our lack of boundaries. It's like putting two infants in the same room. One baby starts waling, and the other starts crying in response. The first baby then continues to cry because the second is crying. <--- a very very regularly occurring problem for us.

I'm open to all and any insights into the relationship, and especially anything concerning our difficulties in communicating. I'm also very open to any karmic indicators, I know we were business partners in one of our past lives.

Thank you so much for your time and energy, it means so much to me and my mother. It'll all be so helpful now that we're living together again.