Synastry: A mentorship mixed with Attraction!

[labelledujour]

Hi, all!! Here is a synastry of a rather complicated relationship...well, the man is actually my Latin Professor. I first had the chance to attend his courses on my freshman year and, due to my skills, along with my "strong personality" as he keeps telling me, he asked me now when I was in my sophomore year (I'm on my 3rd year, mind you) to follow him after February for 6 months in Germany (since I will have to take courses in there, so it won't mess my studies up) and be on his assistance. Since we first met, we've been having a strong friendship and on top of it, I'm attracted to him since day one, though I have never fallen for a teacher before, but he'd better not take notice! The thing is: Does he have the best interests at heart for me? I know he has given me time to decide if I want to follow him, but I really have to ask for his intentions.

Well, I noticed that our composite chart has strong 8th house influence. It seems that we will learn each other's darker sides. And the composite Moon in Scorpio does enhance it, at least for me. His Saturn in Capricorn on my 12th means to me that he may have some skeletons in the closet...or maybe that he will help me uncover my deepest fears. In fact, I must admit that before him, I did lack the self confidence to talk before a crowd, but after his encouragement, no more troubles at presentations, etc, though it was hard for me to come out of my shell first! And it's very weird how we've found some common ground (our Venuses are conjunct)! However, if you can contribute in clearing out the whole picture so that I will finally be able to settle down to a decision, then I will be eternally grateful!

[astrologer50]

There is nothing complicated about synastry but there is in the way you ask about it. Am not at all clear if you are asking, Will there be a relationship here or will it work best at tutor - student....

Composite charts
If you go to www.astro.com click on free horoscopes, go to Interactive horoscopes, go down to Astroclick partner, that will bring up a composite chart and when you put the mouse over a planet will bring up a pop up box with the interpretation......

But you do need both times of birth to be accurate though.. enjoy.

Composites describe the relationship, not either one of you, but what you came together to learn or to do and how the 'pair of you' function when together....

Synastry, your suns are in sextile but have the same qualities as being 'worrkiers' your moons are both in scorpio (intense, emotional deeply analtyical, controlling,jealous) Your moon is conj his neptune so emotionally finding him confusing, ellusive, spiritual, hard to pin down perhaps or just simply unreliable even...

Your sun is conj his vertrex -- good
his venus conj your venus/mars -- excellent strong attraction
Your mercury is square to his mercury and mars. so on occasions the way he acts(mars) and communicates (mercury) will be challenging to you libra is restless procrastinating and indecisive and cancer just worries and can be over sensitive and moody

His jupiter conj your Asc is good for expansion and broadening your horizons and usually would help enormously but conj saturn and Cappi Asc suggests delays and restrictions and his strong sense of duty and responsibility.

Just counted the saturn contacts and there are 4 which suggests a sort of 'cement' for good or bad. So overall then I think it shows potential

Although synastry is a valuable tool with astrology it cannot 'make things happen' even if you have the best synastry in the world unfortunately..

If you want to research more into synastry try here
http://cafeastrology.com/astrology_of_relationships.html
http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/interchartaspects.html
http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry_house_overlays.html

Here is one of my post's with lots of info http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum...ad.php?t=13745

Synastry & divorce--- really great article, well worth reading-----
http://books.google.co.uk/books?id=0OJgX88KKMsC&pg=PA46&lpg=PA46&dq=astrolog y+2nd+marriage&source=bl&ots=DoV__K_IQS&sig=dI1UAX 5oprrQLtfzYUrJ4_XzuKU&hl=en&ei=zBV0SsfnHYqhjAf5rN2 nBg&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=6#v=onepa ge&q=&f=false

What Astrology Can and Can Not Do
http://www.ofspirit.com/susanmiller1.htm

[labelledujour]

Thanks very, very much, astrologer50, for our advice, insight and your PM.

In fact, both birth times are accurate, but had decided to erase my prof's one for privacy reasons. If you want me to restore them, then, I'm gonna do so.

Yeah, I should have a look at the AstroClick Partner feature.

In fact, both of us are somehow introverted in expressing our emotions, but we do have intense power struggles. He says he's admired me for my strong personality, charm and wit, while I have always been attracted to those very characteristics about him. Still, I do feel there's something unclear about his intentions!

I love how you say about his procrastination...well, I do tend to worry too much about things and he seems indifferent. But, in fact, I know he does try to calm me down and make me see different perspectives of an issue than mine.

My Venus/Mars conjunct his Venus: Tell me about it! In fact, I had gone at Uni today for an oral exam and after I was done with it, I met him. Now I'm sure he's attracted to me in the same way. Ow!

Well, yeah...he can become a bit of restrictive force at times. I knew from the first time we met that it wouldn't be a relationship to be taken lightly!

Let's just say that synastry just indicates the 'chemistry', right?

Thanks once again for your informative links and articles!

[waybread]

Gina, Do we assume that this professor is asking you for a romantic/sexual relationship? If not, just ignore the rest of my message.

I don't know if you and this professor are in Greece, where things may work a little differently, but in North America, this professor could be severely reprimanded by university administrators for asking you to "follow" him on a long trip and be his assistant if he also wants you to be his GF. It's called a "conflict of interest" or a "conflict of commitment" and most US/Canadian universities have policies against faculty becoming intimately involved with their students. I can go into the reasons for such policies if you are interested.
Generally if a professor and student do develop an intimate relationship, someone other than the professor would have to supervise your assistantship and assign grades (marks) for any courses you might take from him. And he's taking a big risk. When faculty-student relationships go sour, the female student will often complain about sexual harrassment, as the faculty-student power differential is so clear. Frequently, when other students in a class know that a student has an intimate relationship with a professor, they become very unhappy, believing that she will get better grades than they do for less work.

You don't mention whether this man is married or might have little children at home.

Also, ask yourself, if he sees you just as a talented student whom he appreciates only on that level, would that be sufficient for you, if he doesn't want some kind of liason?

Your synastry does appear to be quite strong. It appears that you could have a good relationship together. If this is what you wish, I suggest you look for ways to develop your relationship outside of an employment or classroom context. You could do this if you take no more classes from him and don't work as his assistant.

Best wishes, W.

[labelledujour]

Hi, waybread!

Well, forgot t update about the situation. I ran into him yesterday we chatted, so his intentions were cleared out. In fact, he first had wanted to help me and my ex become his successors (promoting us to be professors in that field) but since we broke up and had lost contact with my ex, he decided to help me on this field.

Still, in Greece, more than 60% of the profs have married former students of theirs. That is because there was a regulation (long story) in which Unis are freer when it comes to laws. Even police is not allowed to enter Uni for any reason. Since there are 300 students in a classroom, nobody cares for no one, in fact. It may sound weird, but that's how it goes.

Well, he got divorced 3 years ago, due to his having to move every so often for studies before he became a professor. He confessed to me that he isn't psychologically ready for a new relationship or to be married again.

That would be good idea, nevertheless. We've had a strong frienship/companionship for 2 years now (he even helped me when I had that nasty breakup with the ex I mentioned or when my beloved grandpa died 2 years ago) and he told me he wants to keep it this way, like me. It all sounds very promising, in fact.

Thanks once again for your advice, dear!!

[waybread]

Hey, no problem. But his divorce may not have been due to his travels, so much as due to his hitting on female students. You may not be the first. Many faculty travel for their research yet keep their marriages intact. Something to consider.

[labelledujour]

UPDATE: Since the summer/autumn of 2010, the prof and I have gone our separate ways. To make a long story short, he reconciled with his wife and I sank into depression at the time, since he left for Germany. I am still pursuing my University career, but I actually realized that I can do it without having to rely on him. I have cut contact with him, but I have no hard feelings towards him. Currently I am with a Virgo guy with Taurus Moon and Pisces Asc, same age as me. I changed a lot since back then and it's been great.

[Munch]

I'm glad that it all worked out for you in the end Labelle.

[labelledujour]

Originally Posted by Munch

I'm glad that it all worked out for you in the end Labelle.

Let's say that I have my own credibility and stand up for myself at last!

[waybread]

Good work, La Belle!