Synastry help

[Mellow1_31]

Hi there! I'm new here, but I thought I'd ask if there is anyone on the board who can help me with a synastry chart?

I'm a Sag and an Aries rising, he's a Gemini, Libra rising - the forecasts for both of us say that we have that chance of meeting a soulmate. We met in our World Lit class, and he was intrigued by my analysis on our lit discussions. Slowly we warmed our way up to talking to each other and then we both wanted to ask the other out.

I never believed in love at first sight, but after speaking to one another on our first hang-out/date, we both said we noticed the other the first day of class. Of course, there are things - flaws we both have, but they're completely manageable. We can't ever stop talking -- in fact we talk each other to sleep. He's told me that his dad always told him that he'd know when he'd find the one - and feels that I am that one. I feel the same - even though it only has been a couple months we've known one another. We've always been on the same page, and I have no doubt or forcing my emotions with him.

I really feel our Venus' (His in Cancer, and mine in Scorpio) play a huge role in our great match, but I was wondering if there are any other astrological aspects to watch out for or look at in our charts? I've never had anything like this before -- it's just incredible, and I don't want to get tooooooo ahead of myself. lol I'm such a rational Cappie moon sometimes...

My natal chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi...sX-u1233627438

His natal chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi...sX-u1233627438

Thanks ahead of time to anyone who checks out the charts

D

[Thread moved to GLounge as there was no real interpretation of this chart by poster. Moderator]

[EJ53]

Hi Mellow1......Welcome to the forum.

There are indeed some "love at first sight" contacts between your two charts.......(for which interpretations can be readily found by a quick search of the internet)......quoting "your planet aspect his planet" :-

Sun conjunct Uranus......Moon trine Mercury......Uranus opposing Mercury......Uranus trine Venus......Pluto square Venus.......Ascendant square Venus......Venus qcx Sun/Mars.

With so many Uranus contacts, your initial relationship must have been "electrifying"......But, how do you see these contacts helping/hindering in a long-term relationship?

[astrologer50]

Welcome to AW,

Please take a minute to introduce yourself in the proper forum from main index. It would have been much more helpful if you posted the synastry bi wheel from astro, instead of having to look at both natals!

Attention new members
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=19968

You do indeed have some nice easy synastry aspects....
To start with it's best to look at the individual needs of each persons chart and how they relate and what they are looking for. Astro.com does have an option composite + natal midpoint method (2) which I find helpful. If you choose to post the synastry bi wheel from astro could you please select the 2nd synastry option as it will put the houses and degrees onto the wheel which is far better for us to evaluate matters....

If you post the synastry chart and realise it doesn’t show the degrees (which we need to look at) you can find the degrees and other information in a separate PDF on the synastry page of astro.com. Look for the link "View the additional tables (PDF)" and click on it to see the additional information. Reading a synastry chart is mainly about reading the aspects between the planets in the two charts. So once you find the PDF, scroll down to the bottom of the page and look in the synastry grid that is there. Unfortunately, you can only see/read these and not save/upload. That’s why I like to see both natal’s and composite. This grid (in my opinion) has too many minor aspects and the orbs are quite wide. I like to use + - max 3’

When looking at a woman’s chart the type of man she would look for is her sun sign and mars traits, plus 7th house planets and house cusp ruler and where that ruler was deposited.
When looking at a mans chart for the type of woman he would look for is his venus and moon sign and then 7th house planets and house cusp ruler and where that ruler was deposited.

Although synastry is a valuable tool with astrology it cannot 'make things happen' even if you have the best synastry in the world unfortunately..

If you want to research more into synastry try here
http://cafeastrology.com/astrology_of_relationships.html
http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/interchartaspects.html
http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry_house_overlays.html
http://www.astrology-numerology.com/synastry.html
http://www.astrology-numerology.com/synastry-houses.html
http://www.astrology-numerology.com/synastryaspects.html
http://www.cosmitec-astrological-compatibility-advice.com/astrology-marriage.html


You could have the best synastry in the world, but unless you have good communications, are honest with each other about your needs, wishes and desires and 'both' of you want the same things...........then nothing will happen. It cannot make anyone change, or love you more. Some challenging squares, oppositions in synastry can be healthy, and may require one or both of you to grow in some way. Astrological natal charts cannot explain environmental factors, financial handicaps/ restraints and what position you hold in society, neither can it tell you if you are of ‘Royalty’ or beggar.

I am of the belief that people come in and out of our lives for a reason, either we have to teach them something or we have to learn something from them. There is Always an exchange, good or bad.

Good luck with your journey

[Mellow1_31]

Hi again! Thank you both for the replies!

As you requested astrologer50, I will go to Greenhorn from now on...although I do fairly well understanding and interperting astrology, it's just synastry I have yet to learn.

But instead of creating a new post, I'll post the midpoint composite chart - how should I read this:

http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi...sX-u1233627438

Oh and - EJ53 - thank you for listing those planetary aspects! I looked them up in the book I had and online -- you were right on that our relationship is exciting! The Sun conjunct Uranus really defined how our relationship started and is progressing. I did start out wanting to have something new in my life, or at least a change in my mundane routine now that Saturn left Virgo. I just got through a tough Saturn return and felt I'd become a grandma...no offense to anyone lol...Pluto's placement in Sag for a decade didn't really help matters either, so everything that I wanted to do during those aspects went wayside. Mark came into my life, and at first it was like meeting someone who did all the things that I've always wanted to do...but it's really so much more than that. He's everything I've ever prayed for. He's truly a godsend. Of course, there are moments when things aren't exciting and are simple.

With that said, thank you for mentioning the Pluto square Venus. That is something to definitely watch out for. I think we both have been in manipulative and possessive relationships prior to hooking up, and we both don't want to do that to one another. There has been a lot of communication in regards to that, thankfully. Yay Moon trine Mercury, huh! lol If there is something that I get impatient about, I just ask myself - haven't I done that myself before...or can I deal with that -- mostly his need for naps. haha I just put myself in his shoes and pretty much allow him to be himself, because what kind of relationship would you have if you only got together to change that person. I fell for him as he was and I don't want him to change. Major plus!

okay - this is getting rather long...but I do thank you both once again for the synastry help!

[astrologer50]

Have you tried a free composite chart with explanations being 'interactive'
Composite charts
If you go to www.astro.com click on free horoscopes, go to Interactive horoscopes, go down to Astroclick partner, that will bring up a composite chart and when you put the mouse over a planet will bring up a pop up box with the interpretation......

But you do need both times of birth to be accurate though.. enjoy.

Composites describe the relationship, not either one of you, but what you came together to learn or to do and how the 'pair of you' function when together....

http://books.google.com/books?id=dUulSwQoEC4C&pg=PR16&dq=robert+hand+compo sites&ei=r8HRSsXNEJvmygSIsP3eCQ#v=onepage&q=&f=fal se

The Book ---Planets in Composite: Analyzing Human Relationships By Robert Hand-- is greatly recommended

[starlink]

I will go to Greenhorn from now on...

Hi Mellow, as you can see, I moved your thread to this GLounge. Personally I just look at both charts separately and do not draw a synastry chart. It is not clear enough for me that way. If you interprete each chart separately you will very soon see if things could work together or not.

Start with the Ascendants and see if they are in compatible signs
Then the Sun, for the way you guys tend to express your ego's
Then the Moon, see if they are in compatible signs. Very important if not THE most important planet in synastry. Moon shows where we feel at ease and safe. If one Moon in in Aries, the other in Pisces, then just expect problems. One wants to hit the town to feel good, the other wants to go and sit in a bubble bath with candles all around. OK, in the beginning they will go along with each others desires, but after a long time, they will give up, it does not feel good for either of them.
Even in the best of synastries, even where people get married, sooner or later there comes a rift because of incompatible Moons.

Look at both the Mercuries. This shows how each one of you communicates. A square between two Mercuries does not have to be problematic, it can show great interaction, lots of fiery, uplifting, mindboggling and mind stimulating discussions.

Then the Venusses (each others love expression and how they are able to receive love)
and the Mars positions, showing how your (sexual) drive will express itself.

Also quite informative is where the planets are situated, above or below the horizon (Ascendant-Descendant axis).
If one has everything above, the other most planets below, you get also two very different type of people, one very much public orientated, the other prefers the private side of life, is more introvert maybe, more subjective then the other. This is good to notice and to understand one another's needs.

After all that, you then look at the aspects especially between the personal planets. If two planets are compatible but in a difficult aspect with one another, like an opposition, then it just needs balancing out of the needs of each planet. It is easier to solve these sort of oppositions, then your own oppositions in your own natal chart.

Squares between planets can point to difficulties, but also to great energy flow between them. Look how each one is aspected in the separare charts in order to see how those planets will tend to perform. If your mars is well aspected but squares her Mars which is also OK aspected in her chart, then it will show good, stimulating interaction. If both Marses are critically aspected in the individual charts, expect problems.

a pop up box with the interpretation......

in astrodienst is all fine and dandy, but take care. These interpretations give some but certainly not all information you need. It is impossible for those programms to cover everything so do enjoy, but dont take it as a definite "truth".