marriage crisis because of third child

[waitingforJupiter]

Please could you look at my husband's chart. Our third child is due in September and he is not happy about this. We are almost at separation point. So please could you look at the attached and tell me about his parenting prospects.

Is he going to come around to his father responsibilities?

He is Pisces, so I was hoping that Jupiter is about to enter his fourth house (of parenting and home). Is that correct?

Is there any hope for any kind of nesting instinct/ attachment to kids?

I am really worried.

Any help and comments would be really appreciated!


And have I done the chart right? the data is correct, but I cannot tell where on earth one would see transits on it?

[starstudent33]

Hi. Sorry it took so long for me to reply, but my internet service goes down from time to time. I had a look at his chart. He's averse to the idea of having more kids, that's for sure. He's very quarrelsome in marriage or with women in general. Divorce or separation is not impossible. All I can do is give you some talking points that might help. Money is an issue for him right now. He wants to do some kind of expansion of his career and he was hoping you could give him an opportunity for his career or some financing. He likes the idea of keeping things the same in his home life, so emphasize the idea that he already HAS a third child, not that it's in the future, and that things at home will be basically the same as ever.

[waitingforJupiter]

Thanks Starstudent for your feedback!


yes, he is very averse to having more kids… even 2 is too much for him (which I didn't know AT ALL until recently).

Yes, money is a definite issue. Where do you see that in his chart if I may ask?

Where do you see separation / divorce is a possibility?

Yes, he feels now he has to support 3 kids he prefers to stay in his "safe" job rather than advancing his career. Where do you see he would like to advance his career?

YES, that so describes him. If he lives somewhere it takes him ages to get everything just so (little things like making sure all the furniture is aligned in the perfect way for him) and he gets really attached to his domicile. it is almost like an obsession.

Thanks for the last bit of advice to tell him that everything at home will stay the same! Very sound advice and I know it is going to calm him.

Thanks so much!

[starstudent33]

I read the movement of transiting Jupiter wrong. Jupiter is speeding along; it's passing
his progressed MC's right now but not staying long enough to make an impact on his
career. Just giving him some passing thoughts about his increase in child-related
responsibilities and temporary optimism about his career--but the optimism is more likely
about keeping his career the same, since the progressed MC is in Taurus (fixed).
His progressed MC is squaring his second cusp, showing that he sees his personal financial needs
creating problems and obstacles for his current career goals. There's only one indicator of
divorce that I've seen, and I haven't done a thorough reading. It's natal Uranus
squaring Primary Directed Moon (from a different chart than the one you showed me),
which indicates he thinks his wife, operating in secret ways, is causing problems
for his need to express his individualism in his family life. This is a goad
to get him thinking about divorce, but not enough by itself to cause a divorce.
He has Sun square Moon natally, showing that he always has problems and difficulties
with his wife or women. His PD fifth cusp in Capricorn shows a desire to limit the
number of kids he has. He probably didn't feel that way eight or more years ago.
If you want to know more, just ask. I need practice reading charts. I've been
studying astrology for about eighteen months, hoping to become professionally
certified, and it helps to get feedback by doing readings.

[waitingforJupiter]

Hi! thanks you are really helping me. And yes I have lots of questions surrounding this and am more than happy to give detailed feedback.

Yes, he definitely thinks I have operated in secret ways… he blames me for sneaking in this pregnancy. Which is really not true, but very difficult for him to now trust me. Not sure if I can ever regain his trust.

Yes, the Sun square Moon… I still have no real answer to this. Might be also mother issues? His Mum is quite interfering and says she has "sacrificed everything" for her kids. but he never argues with her, just does what he wants behind her back, evades and avoids confrontation.

He is usually a very gentle person, so me and him haven't really ever quarrelled. Although we are in a cold war about whether to keep this pregnancy right now. This has been ongoing since January with all that Mars retrograde etc. (we will keep the pregnancy, and he is still fighting against this decision. yes, he fears he cannot express his individuality anymore once there are 3 kids).

I do have another question though. Can you see how we will do financially? I guess this is a career related question..

Wishing you good luck in your studies!

[starstudent33]

His PD 2nd/8th cusp is at 2 Libra/Aries, his PD Moon at 1 Leo. So that means
either you, his mother, his family, or some woman who is working in entertain-
ments or who is self-employed (Moon Leo) can help him financially.
He wants to stay focused on his career. He has an opportunity to increase
his career earnings by communicating with unconventional or spiritual people.
(PD Sun/Jupiter in 10th, sextile Mercury 8th.)