What aspect is keeping me chained to this chick?

[Aqualad]

Hey guys I've been with this girl for a bit now, absolutely gorgeous but there appears to be some key personality problems, verified with synastry, although we don't fight as much as the charts might suggest, I just want a more easy going relationship (lots of Saturn in our chart).

Every time I so much as think about leaving, there's like this primal force in my head saying NO! that just reels me back in and this feeling that I would really regret letting her go.

Anyway, I don't have her EXACT birth time, I do for me, but I went with an early morning time as the synastry generated describes us the best.

Any insight would be very appreciated, thanks in advance!
(In the attached charts I'm the Aqua & she's the Leo)

[athenegoddess]

Venus conjunct South Node and Sun conjunct Jupiter.

[Aqualad]

Doh! That Venus conjunct SN doesn't look too hot, could you tell me which one of us is the Venus or the SN please?

And thanks for taking a look!

[athenegoddess]

She is Venus and in my experience any Venus/Node connections with orb less then 3 degrees spells fate.

[miquar]

Hi Aqualad. I've just had a look at your birth chart on its own, as I feel this always the best place to start. What jumped out at me in relation to your question is the close Moon Pluto square, with Pluto in the 2nd house. This can reflect an intense attachment to that which is valued and offers stability, which strongly influences matters of emotional intimacy, even if your Moon is in Aquarius.

Something else that might be relevant is your Cancer MC with Chiron in Cancer in the 10th - this is a bit of a long shot, but there could have been early experiences to do with your Mother that have left you with a kind of separation anxiety, especially together with that Moon Pluto square. This may not be felt very directly by you because you are so very airy (Sun, Moon, Mars, Ascendant, Mercury, Saturn!)

Your Venus in Pisces, also closely aspecting Pluto, though this time by a more gentle trine, may also add to the factors discussed above, especially with Neptune right on an angle. It could be that you are more watery (i.e. in need of fusion and intimacy) than you realise from your airy viewpoint.

[Aqualad]

Thanks very much miquar (and athenegoddess too!), your analysis goes a long way in explaining everything. Looks like I'll probably just have to wait until she grows out of this relationship, doesn't mean I can't derive some good times out of it in the meantime though!