What drew me to him?

[pisceskitty]

I'm curious,

What drew me to my ex-boyfriend? I had a feeling the dude was bad news, but I felt this magnetic attraction. I would love a brief reading of our charts. Why did things turn so ugly?

Me:March 11th 1973
8:26PM
New York, NY

Him:November 28th 1966
4:42 AM
Jersey City, NJ

[wilsontc]

kitty,

I think looking at your birth chart by itself can indicate what type of people you find interesting. With Libra (relationships) modifying Uranus (friends, also rebellion) conjunct your Ascendant (self), you may like to to be "close but not TOO close" to people in a relationship. You also might be attracted to "rebels" of some sort. Since Uranus squares (energy needs to be combined with) Mars (being, also anger), you may be interested in angry, rebellious relationships. Also, since you have Libra modifying Pluto (transformation, also power) in the 12th house (a "hidden" house), there might be hidden power issues in your relationships if you do not screen them carefully.

Relating,

Tim

[pisceskitty]

Wow,

Thank you Tim. Mars rules my house of partnerships, and uranus is squaring it. My relationships have always been very passionate, and intense. But they tend to burn out very quickly. Everything always happens so quickly!! I met my ex-husband, and after 3 months of dating, we got married! It lasted for 8yrs[one son] the guy above, we met in October of 2005, and by November, we were talking about marriage, moving in together.

I tell myself I want someone I can depend on. I really do want this. I like men who are interesting, sexual, passionate, and creative. I always seem to be with men, who are controlling. I can be controlling also. I suppose it's that Pluto in the 12th. When the men in my life tell me this, I'm like:Who ME?
I don't see myself that way! I wonder if I'll ever get this relationship thing right? I was told by an astrologer that I won't get married again until 2010. I'm starting to believe her!

[onelove]

Tim,

Did you look at Libra because it is the sign containing the AC or because it is the sign associated with relationships?

[rahu]

hi pisceskitty,
the composite indicates that there was a very"psychic" connection,i.e. you minds seemed to think alike,you had the same thoughts,finished each others sentences etc.and practical matters also seemed to mesh.with a sun/neptune midpoint conjunct venus/jupiter mp,there were very good social,"party" vibs .but as you said ,you sensed a darker side .which he has.with a saturn/chiron conjunction opposed to a mars/uranus/pluto stellium,he has a potential for a very violent side,in spite of his very joyous and loving venus/sun conjunction opposed to the moon.
but then you also seem to ahve this polarity of light and dark in relationships.
your venus trine mars and sextile uranus gives you a very magnetic,attractive social/sexual nature.i'm sure you are used to men falling all over you.but you have a saturn/pluto square with sesquiquadrates to the moon.this shows a dark emotional side ,possibly with low self esteem caused by abusive conditions when you were young.so messind with "bad boys" is not out of the ordinary.
in this situation,i would say that he had you in a "hypnotic" emotional hold.
once he say the psychic connection,the used it for control.
rahu

[MichelleAnderson]

pisceskitty don't feel too bad. I'm drawn to a lot of rebels myself in relationships. My X is really bad news too just because of this trait.