Why is my good friend suddenly being so negative towards me?

anjelik · #1 03-28-2011, 03:00 PM

A very long time friend of mine moved down to Florida in September to pursue a career in zookeeping and since then I have felt a big rift between her and I. I feel like she has changed a lot and I even visited her briefly in January with another friend of mine and it was very weird. I feel as though she is being a completely different person. She is also very negative and judgemental towards me and some of my life choices recently. I find her to be very unsupportive and it has gotten to the point where I don't even enjoy speaking with her anymore because I feel like she isn't the same person I've known for 26 years. She was always the person who was warm, friendly and there to listen and now she is just plain mean and gives off an holier than thou impression.

Also, She has always been the person who was fun and never wanted a relationship and now she is being a strange version of herself.. almost like a "stepford wife" kind of thing, which I'm not accustomed to her acting like. I've always been a relationship person and this is the first time in my life that I'm not involved in something serious and I feel like feels superior to me because she has something now and I don't. I don't think this is my own insecurity, because she blatantly makes rude comments about the person I'm seeing and our situtation (when she has never even met him).

Can anyone tell me what is going on here? I'm including our synastry and composite. If you need anything else please let me know. I am the inside on the synastry. Thanks so much.. this is tearing me up that I feel like I'm losing someone who has been very important in my life.

[moved from horary to relational - Moderator]

Pan · #2 04-07-2011, 03:33 AM

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Originally Posted by anjelik

A very long time friend of mine moved down to Florida in September to pursue a career in zookeeping and since then I have felt a big rift between her and I. I feel like she has changed a lot and I even visited her briefly in January with another friend of mine and it was very weird. I feel as though she is being a completely different person. She is also very negative and judgemental towards me and some of my life choices recently. I find her to be very unsupportive and it has gotten to the point where I don't even enjoy speaking with her anymore because I feel like she isn't the same person I've known for 26 years. She was always the person who was warm, friendly and there to listen and now she is just plain mean and gives off an holier than thou impression.

Also, She has always been the person who was fun and never wanted a relationship and now she is being a strange version of herself.. almost like a "stepford wife" kind of thing, which I'm not accustomed to her acting like. I've always been a relationship person and this is the first time in my life that I'm not involved in something serious and I feel like feels superior to me because she has something now and I don't. I don't think this is my own insecurity, because she blatantly makes rude comments about the person I'm seeing and our situtation (when she has never even met him).

Can anyone tell me what is going on here? I'm including our synastry and composite. If you need anything else please let me know. I am the inside on the synastry. Thanks so much.. this is tearing me up that I feel like I'm losing someone who has been very important in my life.

For me, when looked at your horary chart, seem there is the third party is causing of your problem, might be a guy you're seeing. Are you surely that your friend has never met him? I ask this because both of you; you and your friend (Mar and Saturn) make aspect to Venus and Venus rule your 7th house (he is someone you are interesting), and he is in your friend's house.

anjelik · #3 05-05-2011, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Pan

For me, when looked at your horary chart, seem there is the third party is causing of your problem, might be a guy you're seeing. Are you surely that your friend has never met him? I ask this because both of you; you and your friend (Mar and Saturn) make aspect to Venus and Venus rule your 7th house (he is someone you are interesting), and he is in your friend's house.

Hi - no they've never met before. They have no links to each other aside from me. Maybe her boyfriend is in her house? I've met him.

Pan · #4 05-06-2011, 04:28 PM

Just looking at your chart again. Did you post composite chart? It's not the event chart, as I see its name , if so my previous interpretation is invalid. You will have to post the even chart; the date, time, and place when you ask the question.

anjelik · #5 05-08-2011, 07:24 PM

Yes I did a composite and synastry... no good? Sorry

Pan · #6 05-09-2011, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by anjelik

Yes I did a composite and synastry... no good? Sorry

At first, I saw your thread in Horary astrology forum so I missunderstood it is the horary chart, but I realised later it is your composite when the moderate move your thread to this forum - Relational astrology, so it must be different to interpret. I will try to look at your chart later for futher, as I'm a novice so I need some more time.