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Re: Looking for Marriage Info
Ice queen, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't get married at some point in your life. I don't think your current date is a particularly good match, however.
Marriage is a 7th house matter. I note that you give your birth time as a round number: is it accurate, or only a guess? If the latter, see if you can find your actual birth time. A few minutes of difference would actually change your rising sign. If we accept your 7th house cusp as in Aries, I note that its ruler, Mars, is pretty well aspected. For marriage, it is well-enough placed in the 4th house of "home".
But there is some pain here, with Chiron in the 7th and a Chiron-Mars square. This looks like thwarted expectations, but this aspect will work best for you if you learn from past mistakes--as the "sadder but wiser girl."
If we take athe ruler of your 7th house to be Venus (if Taurus is actually on your cusp) it looks a little more troubled, with Venus square Pluto. Is it possible that marriage is so important to you that you are trying too hard? Sometimes if you can just "let go and let God", and be OK with being the best single woman you know how to be, you create space in your life for Mr. Right to show up and not get scared off.
I say this because of your Ascendant-Saturn-Pluto conjunction. Everyone born around 1982-3 has this conjunction; but with it at your ascendant, you probably come across to others as very intense--especially if you should have Scorpio rising. Heaven help anyone who gets near you when you are in a bad mood! On the positive side, these planets sextile your sun, so when you are feeling good about yourself, the whole combination can work beautifully. So this is why I think the key is for you just to feel good about who you are, as-is.
Your Pluto-Saturn-Ascendant does not appear to aspect this man's planets--it may be hard for him to "get" who you are.
Obviously there are men out there who would be fine with this combination--so the key is just to locate one of them. If you are not now registered with a reputable Internet dating service, I would sure recommend it.
In synastry I think the gold standard is conjunctions, sextiles, or trines between a couple's paired suns, moons, and reversed Venus and Mars; as well as inter-aspects between them. (As in her Venus trines his Mars.) Not too many couples have all of these, evenly happily married ones--but the more such aspects you've got with someone, the better. Your Venus-Mars squares look like hot stuff, yet ultimately stressful. I don't see the basic sun and moon compatibility, which is helpful for a married couple to be each other's best friends.
But you might try a midpoint composite chart. They often give a different picture, as they deal with the couple as a unit, rather than with two separate individuals.
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