Cancer Male FWB "Dumped" Me

[Annoyek]

Taurean girlie is very sad, but putting on a brave face:
It started last year, but he became really selfish in the relationship, however, I put up with it, giving him the benefit of the doubt. Fastforward to today, and I got a call a few weeks ago with him drunk, basically telling me that his 'moods fluctuate' around me, etc. So, I sent him an email telling him what I thought about his conversation with me, that my gut feeling all along was that he wasn't attracted to me, and that I wasn't having any fun in relationship (sexually). No response. I texted to follow up, he said he was "speechless". Followed up again the following week to ask what's going on (I felt like he was ignoring me, so I was upset and wasn't speaking to him in PERSON). FINALLY, he sends me an email stating that:
"You haven't done anything wrong. I just feel like things has run its course and that I felt like this for a while. I shouldve said something to you, but I thought something like this would be best left alone."
I just wanted to work things out, but wasn't expecting this. Considering we're co-workers, I'm being polite (when/if I see him), but honestly, I just want to hide from him forever.


Are they normally like this? Is there a chance that he'll be my friend again?

[bittermoon]

It would be a generalisation to say 'they' are like this, or like that. However, being a Cancer Sun myself and having dated a few Cancer men, I'd say that *generally* Cancers are not confrontational; they rather move sideways.

Cancers are *generally* very loyal. Yes, chances are you'll be friends again.

[Mark]

Speaking as a man, allow me to translate his words for you. "I figured out a while ago that this wasn't going anywhere, but I figured that I might as well ride your gravy train as long as you'll let me."

Having said that, what does it mean for things to "work out" for "friends with benefits?" Shouldn't this have been expected to happen eventually?

One further note: If you're not having fun sexually, that's usually because he doesn't care about making it fun for you. If you have a good guy, that won't be the case. Ninety percent of what it takes to be good in bed is mental and psychological. No one is born with some mysterious talent that makes them good at it. It takes time, focus, and work, like any skill. If he tries to make it good for you, you will at least see the time, focus, and work. If you don't see that, it's because he's not trying. Of course, communication cannot be overemphasised.