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[Astrologer4U]

I can't seem to get my mind off this man. I have never been with him sexually, all we have done is kiss and hug. He is not a man that I should think about having a future with because his life is very much opposite of my life. He is wild, I am not, he is impatient, I am patient. He smokes and drinks, I don't do either. @ the age 37, he still lives with his father and has never moved out on his own, I have been on my own since I was the age 17 and I never went back home to my parents. He dresses like a hood or teenager, I dress like an adult woman.


He is so unpredictable, the only thing that is predictable about him is that he is unpredictable. I always know when he is going to get upset or when he is going to take off for a few days without word, It's like I walk on pins and needles waiting for him to get upset without notice. However, he does have a sweet side to him which I am attracted to, plus he is nice looking and appealing to my eyes, also, there is a beauty to the sadness that is so deeply buried in him. He has shared so many tragic things with me about his childhood and his adulthood, tragic things I could never imagine happening to a man that I would be interested in. I am not sure if he shared those things with other women but he was very comfortable in sharing those things with me.

Even though we have spent the night with each other on numerous occasions, we never had sex because I requested him to get tested for HIV first, I too was to take the test as well for which I kept my part of the bargain. However for some reason, each time it gets close to him taking his test, he gets into one of his moods and goes missing for days to wound up missing his appointment, he has done this twice. Just recently after making the appointment for his second test, two days later, he out of the blue told me that he wasn't feeling me anymore, that he was cool off of me and that we basically could not be friends anymore, that when he sees me he will speak and that's it, we were in public when this happen. Initially, he called me out of the blue and told me that he was going to bring me my key, a key to my guest house that he had asked for and I finally told him that he could have the key. He works where I live but he lives an hour away so I saw nothing wrong with him having the key. Any way, he didn't show up to my house at the time he said he would to return the key so I called him and told him I had to leave, he basically told me he would meet me where I was going. I told him where I was going, he came there an hour after I got there and all he wanted to do was put the key in my had and go. I asked him what was wrong as he walked away, I followed after him, he asked me, as he looked me up and down "why are you following me?" Like I was some kind of stranger to him, mind you, just two days earlier, he shared some more very private and tragic things with me about his upbringing. Any way, I said to him just tell me why you don't want to be friends anymore, his response was "I guess we just wasn't clicking"

He always disappears but he has never told me that he was cool off of me or that he wasn't interested in the friendship any more, he sends me mixed messages all the time. One minute he is talking about how we have a great connection, the next minute he is saying that we aren't clicking. One minute he is attracted to me, the next minute he is telling me how I need to lose some weight. One minute he is telling me that I am the only real friend he has ever had, the next minute he doesn't want the friendship.

I still love this man dearly, regardless of his pitfalls, he is very brilliant and talented, he just has no focus about anything that will benefit him. We live in California where it is legal, as long as you have a license to grow cannabis. He has been growing cannabis for years and is very good at it, growing cannabis is the only thing that he is able to focus about, absolutely nothing else. Even though he has been on his part time job for 16 years, he is always late to that job, but he is never late with growing cannabis and tending to it.


Will I be able to get over this man? He is the only man that I have ever spent that much time with and didn't have sex, yet I truly love him. He is the only man that I was willing to put my future plans on hold for, just to have a baby for him because he doesn't have any children and he expressed to me that he would like to have some children. I want to get over him soon, I think about him all day but I know he is not the right man for me, in fact I don't think he is the right man for any woman, he is more than likely the type to be a bachelor for the rest of his life until the day that he dies.

Added: I forgot to to mention that I am not sure if my love for this man is out of my ability to put my self into his shoes, in other words, do I feel sorry for him or do I truly love him. I can't see my self feeling sorry for him because regardless of what he has been through, he is extremely conscious and he is for sure a trooper.



Below is our synastry and natal charts.


Astrologer4U

[Amy Vir Sn Ari Mn Pis Ris]

Your 7th house is Sag and his rising is Sag. He's what you seek. lol. And you have Venus in Aquarius and he is an Aquarius. There's some of that attraction.

But from what you posted I would say he might already know the results to his HIV test OR he fears finding out about those results. Either way it was good you kept your head on your shoulders. Love/infatuation/Lust can sure mess with common sense sometimes.

[Astrologer4U]

Originally Posted by Amy Vir Sn Ari Mn Pis Ris

Your 7th house is Sag and his rising is Sag. He's what you seek. lol. And you have Venus in Aquarius and he is an Aquarius. There's some of that attraction.

But from what you posted I would say he might already know the results to his HIV test OR he fears finding out about those results. Either way it was good you kept your head on your shoulders. Love/infatuation/Lust can sure mess with common sense sometimes.

I am a sun Capricorn and he has Venus in Capricorn as well. My Mars in Taurus trines his Venus in Cap and my Venus in Aquarius Sextiles his Mars in Sag.

Thanks for the response... I was thinking that too, that he must already know the results. I don't think he ever took the test to find out for sure but I think that due to his wild nature, he just believes that he may be infected, at least that is what he has in so many ways conveyed to me. I recall him telling me that he was going to take the test and that if he was infected, I would never see him again. From the looks of it, it is possible that I will never know if he was in fact infected or not and with that, I still may never see him again.

I would like to know more though, I have been friends with Many Sag risings but never felt for any of them like I feel for him. Something else is going on between us, at least that is what I feel. Or am I just delusional?



Astrologer4U

[rahu]

i looked at the midpoint composite and it is as you have described the relationship.
there is a venus/sun/mercury stellium which shows the emotional/mental/physical attraction you have.with uranus square to this stellium the intensity is multiplied and there may bestrong psychic connections also.
but uranus's influence bring the instability and off and on nature of the relationship.it either hot or cold as you have mentioned but it inmdicate that sex is the hook thatkeeps bring you back to him.

with a moon/pluto conjuction,you have repressed emotional issues that make you accept the crazy nature of the relationship.

moontrine to jupiter does indicate that there is a supportive compatabilty here and feelings of a commited relationship/marriage.but with neptune square jupiter, there is deception regarding the potential for a steady relationship.clearly he has lied to you before but apparently the physical intensity amakes you accept him back inspite of repeated lies.

rahu

[serafin5]

I'm gonna be honest, Astrologer4U, and tell you that without even looking at this man's chart that he is playing you. I say this with a heavy heart because you sound like a sweet-heart. He is immature and manipulative. When a person cares for you, sincerely, whether they agree with you about an issue such as the importance of getting tested the fact that this was important TO YOU he should have just went and done it! You say he's 37 yrs. and he obviously has real intimacy issues. OK so I realize that this is an Astrology Forum so I will look at both your charts but I just had to please remind you to Love Yourself 1st!

Lots of Hugs from a concerned Scorpio Rising.

[Astrologer4U]

Originally Posted by serafin5

I'm gonna be honest, Astrologer4U, and tell you that without even looking at this man's chart that he is playing you. I say this with a heavy heart because you sound like a sweet-heart. He is immature and manipulative. When a person cares for you, sincerely, whether they agree with you about an issue such as the importance of getting tested the fact that this was important TO YOU he should have just went and done it! You say he's 37 yrs. and he obviously has real intimacy issues. OK so I realize that this is an Astrology Forum so I will look at both your charts but I just had to please remind you to Love Yourself 1st!

Lots of Hugs from a concerned Scorpio Rising.

Thank you for your post, I really appreciate it.

I thought I mentioned this, maybe it was in another thread but any way, he did eventually go and get tested, it took him 4 months but he did finally take the test and he past the test, he was not sick. I agree totally, he definately has intimate issues, but then again, I have never met an Aquarius who did not have intimate issues...LOL I know for a fact that the issues he has, has a lot to do with the relationship he has with his father, it is not a good one at all, in fact, it is un imaginable. I hope the best for him in this lifetime.

I do love my self first, and that's the reason why I have decided to not be concerned with having a relationship with him anymore. He will always be in my heart though, and if he should come back, I would always welcome his friendship and assist him with anything he may need.

Thanks again for your contribution...



Astrologer4U

[Astrologer4U]

Originally Posted by rahu

i looked at the midpoint composite and it is as you have described the relationship.there is a venus/sun/mercury stellium which shows the emotional/mental/physical attraction you have.with uranus square to this stellium the intensity is multiplied and there may bestrong psychic connections also.

The above is very true...

Originally Posted by rahu

but uranus's influence bring the instability and off and on nature of the relationship.it either hot or cold as you have mentioned but it inmdicate that sex is the hook thatkeeps bring you back to him.

Actually, we never had sex. However, I am extremely attracted to him and I feel that he is very attractive to me as well but he is used to women that are loose and unstable so he does not know how to be with me, but he wants to. I think he pretty much came to the conclusion that he wanted to try and make me another notch under his belt but when we tried to consumate, and this is putting it nicely, he was not able to perform. When that happenend, all I could think about was that Mars in the 12th house.

Originally Posted by rahu

with a moon/pluto conjuction,you have repressed emotional issues that make you accept the crazy nature of the relationship.

The repressed emotional issue thing is true. He talks so much and he things he has everything figured out so I never get a chance to express anything. I am almost always right about what I pick up psyichly about him and vice versa, he is almost always right, provided he is in a positive mode.

Originally Posted by rahu

moontrine to jupiter does indicate that there is a supportive compatabilty here and feelings of a commited relationship/marriage.but with neptune square jupiter, there is deception regarding the potential for a steady relationship.

Deception, that would be on his part but I would not call it deception necessarily because he has pretty told me in so many words that he has issues which won't allow him to ever really be in a committed relationship with anyone. That would be the only thing that he hasn't just came out and blatantly said in a straight forward way.

Originally Posted by rahu

clearly he has lied to you before but apparently the physical intensity amakes you accept him back inspite of repeated lies.

rahu

He has never lied to me about anything, in fact he has told the truth even when he knew the truth may hurt. He is the only man that I have ever known who has been forth coming with a lot of information about his self, he has told me some things that most people would keep to themselves for fear of ridicule. That is one of the things that keeps me interested in him, he has been very honest about everything.


Thanks for your interpretation. I have decided that I am going to move on away from him, he has issues that stem from his childhood and they haunt him in his adulthood. No one can really help him because he is the kind of man who likes to find his own way, not really wanting assistance from anyone.



Astrologer4U